Would You Unfriend/ Unfollow Someone At Spouse's Request?

[Anonymous]

For whatever reason.

If your spouse had an argument with someone or strongly objected to something they posted or said, would you unfriend a mutual friend you two share simply because they asked you to?

I ask because a coworker of mine today talked, ad nauseum, about a fight she had with her DH over his refusal to unfriend a contact they both had over comments the guy made about the recent election in VA.

[Anonymous]

I probably wouldn't marry someone that wants to dictate their partners social media connections.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I would. I can't imagine one of us asking the other to unfollow over politics, though. It would have to be something major.

[Anonymous]

I would do it for something like if they were estranged from a relative or didn't want me to friend their work colleagues, but not something like this.

[Anonymous]

In the example you give, no, that's dumb. I have family and old friends I'm connected to on social media even though I don't like their politics. I think it's actually important to maintain those lines of communication. I don't want to be in a civil war.

However, if someone did something terrible TO ME and was unrepentant or doubled down on their behavior without apology, I could see asking my spouse to unfollow them on social media, in part to sever that link between us. I wouldn't want my spouse to, for instance, post photos of me or our kids that someone who had harmed me could see.

So I could see a situation in which it would be reasonable to ask this, and I would comply if I was the spouse, but the example your coworker had doesn't rise to that level for me.

[Anonymous]

I thought this was going to be about thirst trap instgram accounts. I think there can be a reasonable request from a spouse vis a vis unfriending -- you're working through infidelity and don't want them to be following their affair partner or something.

But the example you gave is really unreasonable and I imagine this person is hard to work with if they were still ranting about this a day later in a different setting. I don't know anything about fights my coworkers have with their spouses, nor should I.

[Anonymous]

Of course I probably only follow the person because they friended me. Who cares.

[Anonymous]

Depends.

The situation you mention? No. My DH has many friends with many different views. He manages that, not me.

If someone did something hurtful to me? That might be a different story. But generally speaking my DH and I don’t tell each other what to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was going to be about thirst trap instgram accounts. I think there can be a reasonable request from a spouse vis a vis unfriending -- you're working through infidelity and don't want them to be following their affair partner or something.

But the example you gave is really unreasonable and I imagine this person is hard to work with if they were still ranting about this a day later in a different setting. I don't know anything about fights my coworkers have with their spouses, nor should I.

lol same

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't over this, no. There is one time I would have wanted DH to stop being friends with someone, and it was because he was an abusive POS to his gf. Thankfully DH ended the friendship without me having to ask.

[Anonymous]

Not over political views but if I got a whiff that someone was flirting with my husband, I would want him to unfriendly/unfollow her. I also wouldn’t leave him over it so the request would be empty, but would hope he could recognize that it was disrespectful to me and he didn’t need said person in his life.

[Anonymous]

If you are talking about my ex husband's family or anyone that I have had sexual relations with, sure. Otherwise, no way.

[Anonymous]

Yes

[Anonymous]

If someone hurt DH or was badmouthing him on or off social media I would block them everywhere without being asked. DH is oblivious to social media so would never ask.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In the example you give, no, that's dumb. I have family and old friends I'm connected to on social media even though I don't like their politics. I think it's actually important to maintain those lines of communication. I don't want to be in a civil war.

However, if someone did something terrible TO ME and was unrepentant or doubled down on their behavior without apology, I could see asking my spouse to unfollow them on social media, in part to sever that link between us. I wouldn't want my spouse to, for instance, post photos of me or our kids that someone who had harmed me could see.

So I could see a situation in which it would be reasonable to ask this, and I would comply if I was the spouse, but the example your coworker had doesn't rise to that level for me.

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