Which OLD apps for over 50?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s all the same people on every single app.

Even the ones where you have to pay? I’m thinking of joining the ones like “elite singles” that require a monthly fee. Maybe that lowers the number of scammers?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was on Hinge. I met my wonderful 50 year old boyfriend of 2.5 years. Do zoom calls ASAP. Any app will have some scammers. One guy seemed great, until he started talking about crypto currency and how we could open an account together so he could teach me the ins and outs of crypto. If I had video chatted asap, I would have seen that he used fake pictures.

Good luck and don’t be afraid to tell your friends that you welcome introductions to eligible suitors.

My friend had the same thing happen, but an even more sophisticated scammer. The woman was real, and would video chat if needed. Just she was operating out of some foreign country (he thinks Romania) and of course wanted to get him to join some crypto scam, which he declined. It's amazing how much time the scammers spend to bait the hook, but I guess it pays off.

Couldn’t this be prevented by meeting for a quick coffee date? If she’s in Romania, she won’t be available…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was on Hinge. I met my wonderful 50 year old boyfriend of 2.5 years. Do zoom calls ASAP. Any app will have some scammers. One guy seemed great, until he started talking about crypto currency and how we could open an account together so he could teach me the ins and outs of crypto. If I had video chatted asap, I would have seen that he used fake pictures.

Good luck and don’t be afraid to tell your friends that you welcome introductions to eligible suitors.

My friend had the same thing happen, but an even more sophisticated scammer. The woman was real, and would video chat if needed. Just she was operating out of some foreign country (he thinks Romania) and of course wanted to get him to join some crypto scam, which he declined. It's amazing how much time the scammers spend to bait the hook, but I guess it pays off.

Couldn’t this be prevented by meeting for a quick coffee date? If she’s in Romania, she won’t be available…

I think men who encounter foreign born women who don’t want to meet them after a video chat think we are all scammers.

I’m not a scammer just don’t like anyone enough to meet after a video intro . And yes my preference is to have a coffee intro .

I just don’t want to have coffee with 10 fat guys a week

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was on Hinge. I met my wonderful 50 year old boyfriend of 2.5 years. Do zoom calls ASAP. Any app will have some scammers. One guy seemed great, until he started talking about crypto currency and how we could open an account together so he could teach me the ins and outs of crypto. If I had video chatted asap, I would have seen that he used fake pictures.

Good luck and don’t be afraid to tell your friends that you welcome introductions to eligible suitors.

My friend had the same thing happen, but an even more sophisticated scammer. The woman was real, and would video chat if needed. Just she was operating out of some foreign country (he thinks Romania) and of course wanted to get him to join some crypto scam, which he declined. It's amazing how much time the scammers spend to bait the hook, but I guess it pays off.

Couldn’t this be prevented by meeting for a quick coffee date? If she’s in Romania, she won’t be available…

I think men who encounter foreign born women who don’t want to meet them after a video chat think we are all scammers.

I’m not a scammer just don’t like anyone enough to meet after a video intro . And yes my preference is to have a coffee intro .

I just don’t want to have coffee with 10 fat guys a week

Ok, interesting. You’re getting that much interest from men? 10 dates a week sounds like a lot (fat or otherwise).

[Anonymous]

I met DH on eHarmony. I was 57 and he was 60.

The first thing you need to do is buy the Burn the Haystack book by Jenny Young, PhD. It's all about how to work the apps and minimize the time and energy you waste on loser men. Instead of trying to find your Prince Charming, you learn to spot frogs, which enables you to throw them out. Once you've moved the frogs out of the way you can focus on the few men that are left. It may be that none of them are what you want and you'll have to keep sorting through.

People are less likely to pay money if they aren't really looking to meet somebody. So, I prefer the apps that charge. I like that eHarmony doesn't limit you to the men they present as options. You can select your own criteria (age, education, geo location, etc...) and review those profiles. If you like someone, you can reach out without waiting for the app to match you. The downside was that it didn't have a screen for politics back then. Maybe it does now.

Never spend more than 10 days "chatting" with a man without him asking to meet in real life. Never treat someone you've never met as a confidante, and never send more pictures of yourself to just him. Get a Google Voice number to use with dates until you're certain he is legit and not a weirdo because it is super easy to figure out where you work and live with your cell phone number.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was on Hinge. I met my wonderful 50 year old boyfriend of 2.5 years. Do zoom calls ASAP. Any app will have some scammers. One guy seemed great, until he started talking about crypto currency and how we could open an account together so he could teach me the ins and outs of crypto. If I had video chatted asap, I would have seen that he used fake pictures.

Good luck and don’t be afraid to tell your friends that you welcome introductions to eligible suitors.

My friend had the same thing happen, but an even more sophisticated scammer. The woman was real, and would video chat if needed. Just she was operating out of some foreign country (he thinks Romania) and of course wanted to get him to join some crypto scam, which he declined. It's amazing how much time the scammers spend to bait the hook, but I guess it pays off.

Couldn’t this be prevented by meeting for a quick coffee date? If she’s in Romania, she won’t be available…

I think men who encounter foreign born women who don’t want to meet them after a video chat think we are all scammers.

I’m not a scammer just don’t like anyone enough to meet after a video intro . And yes my preference is to have a coffee intro .

I just don’t want to have coffee with 10 fat guys a week

Ok, interesting. You’re getting that much interest from men? 10 dates a week sounds like a lot (fat or otherwise).

It would be more than 10 if I didn't weed out all overweight people. Usually it’s 10 video dates a week; 1-2 real life intros a week after video dates .
I’m late 40s men tell me I look way younger and I’m very fit (professional athlete level fit ).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I met DH on eHarmony. I was 57 and he was 60.

The first thing you need to do is buy the Burn the Haystack book by Jenny Young, PhD. It's all about how to work the apps and minimize the time and energy you waste on loser men. Instead of trying to find your Prince Charming, you learn to spot frogs, which enables you to throw them out. Once you've moved the frogs out of the way you can focus on the few men that are left. It may be that none of them are what you want and you'll have to keep sorting through.

People are less likely to pay money if they aren't really looking to meet somebody. So, I prefer the apps that charge. I like that eHarmony doesn't limit you to the men they present as options. You can select your own criteria (age, education, geo location, etc...) and review those profiles. If you like someone, you can reach out without waiting for the app to match you. The downside was that it didn't have a screen for politics back then. Maybe it does now.

Never spend more than 10 days "chatting" with a man without him asking to meet in real life. Never treat someone you've never met as a confidante, and never send more pictures of yourself to just him. Get a Google Voice number to use with dates until you're certain he is legit and not a weirdo because it is super easy to figure out where you work and live with your cell phone number.

Wow, this is amazing advice. Thanks PP! I’ll definitely get the book and a Google voice number. -OP

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was on Hinge. I met my wonderful 50 year old boyfriend of 2.5 years. Do zoom calls ASAP. Any app will have some scammers. One guy seemed great, until he started talking about crypto currency and how we could open an account together so he could teach me the ins and outs of crypto. If I had video chatted asap, I would have seen that he used fake pictures.

Good luck and don’t be afraid to tell your friends that you welcome introductions to eligible suitors.

My friend had the same thing happen, but an even more sophisticated scammer. The woman was real, and would video chat if needed. Just she was operating out of some foreign country (he thinks Romania) and of course wanted to get him to join some crypto scam, which he declined. It's amazing how much time the scammers spend to bait the hook, but I guess it pays off.

Couldn’t this be prevented by meeting for a quick coffee date? If she’s in Romania, she won’t be available…

I think men who encounter foreign born women who don’t want to meet them after a video chat think we are all scammers.

I’m not a scammer just don’t like anyone enough to meet after a video intro . And yes my preference is to have a coffee intro .

I just don’t want to have coffee with 10 fat guys a week

Ok, interesting. You’re getting that much interest from men? 10 dates a week sounds like a lot (fat or otherwise).

It would be more than 10 if I didn't weed out all overweight people. Usually it’s 10 video dates a week; 1-2 real life intros a week after video dates .
I’m late 40s men tell me I look way younger and I’m very fit (professional athlete level fit ).

How many video dates before meeting in person? Just one?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was on Hinge. I met my wonderful 50 year old boyfriend of 2.5 years. Do zoom calls ASAP. Any app will have some scammers. One guy seemed great, until he started talking about crypto currency and how we could open an account together so he could teach me the ins and outs of crypto. If I had video chatted asap, I would have seen that he used fake pictures.

Good luck and don’t be afraid to tell your friends that you welcome introductions to eligible suitors.

My friend had the same thing happen, but an even more sophisticated scammer. The woman was real, and would video chat if needed. Just she was operating out of some foreign country (he thinks Romania) and of course wanted to get him to join some crypto scam, which he declined. It's amazing how much time the scammers spend to bait the hook, but I guess it pays off.

Couldn’t this be prevented by meeting for a quick coffee date? If she’s in Romania, she won’t be available…

I think men who encounter foreign born women who don’t want to meet them after a video chat think we are all scammers.

I’m not a scammer just don’t like anyone enough to meet after a video intro . And yes my preference is to have a coffee intro .

I just don’t want to have coffee with 10 fat guys a week

Ok, interesting. You’re getting that much interest from men? 10 dates a week sounds like a lot (fat or otherwise).

It would be more than 10 if I didn't weed out all overweight people. Usually it’s 10 video dates a week; 1-2 real life intros a week after video dates .
I’m late 40s men tell me I look way younger and I’m very fit (professional athlete level fit ).

How many video dates before meeting in person? Just one?

Yes

[Anonymous]

In my experience, Elite Singles has a huge number of scammers but I also met some great people on it. Same with League. Hinge and Bumble seem to get rid of scammers more quickly but they also have a lot of people who are not scammers but also are not appealing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my experience, Elite Singles has a huge number of scammers but I also met some great people on it. Same with League. Hinge and Bumble seem to get rid of scammers more quickly but they also have a lot of people who are not scammers but also are not appealing.

Thanks PP for this info. I thought the paid dating sites would have less scammers but I guess not.

[Anonymous]

I haven’t met any scammers on Hinge and had a great experience with it overall, haven’t even tried other apps. I was really picky as to who I match with, knew exactly who I was looking for and specified that on my profile, unmatched promptly if something didn’t work, and if I liked a man and our conversation for a couple of days, I met with him in person. All the men I’ve met were nice, no scammers.

My boyfriend that I’ve met on Hinge is amazing, both of us knew what we were looking for and are now very happy together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven’t met any scammers on Hinge and had a great experience with it overall, haven’t even tried other apps. I was really picky as to who I match with, knew exactly who I was looking for and specified that on my profile, unmatched promptly if something didn’t work, and if I liked a man and our conversation for a couple of days, I met with him in person. All the men I’ve met were nice, no scammers.

My boyfriend that I’ve met on Hinge is amazing, both of us knew what we were looking for and are now very happy together.

Thank you for sharing your experience PP. I’m glad it worked out for you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was on Hinge. I met my wonderful 50 year old boyfriend of 2.5 years. Do zoom calls ASAP. Any app will have some scammers. One guy seemed great, until he started talking about crypto currency and how we could open an account together so he could teach me the ins and outs of crypto. If I had video chatted asap, I would have seen that he used fake pictures.

Good luck and don’t be afraid to tell your friends that you welcome introductions to eligible suitors.

My friend had the same thing happen, but an even more sophisticated scammer. The woman was real, and would video chat if needed. Just she was operating out of some foreign country (he thinks Romania) and of course wanted to get him to join some crypto scam, which he declined. It's amazing how much time the scammers spend to bait the hook, but I guess it pays off.

Couldn’t this be prevented by meeting for a quick coffee date? If she’s in Romania, she won’t be available…

I think men who encounter foreign born women who don’t want to meet them after a video chat think we are all scammers.

I’m not a scammer just don’t like anyone enough to meet after a video intro . And yes my preference is to have a coffee intro .

I just don’t want to have coffee with 10 fat guys a week

Ok, interesting. You’re getting that much interest from men? 10 dates a week sounds like a lot (fat or otherwise).

If you've never been on OLD before you might think that but if you are a woman it is really easy to have much more interest. It's 10 a week after you narrow down the choices.

[Anonymous]

My over 55 friend met her husband on Match. DC area.