Mean daughter, cut off phone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound like my narcissistic MIL. Seek help.

And my narcissistic mother, who at one point did this very same thing and took down 40+ photos of me from all over her home (but left up all the photos of my siblings).

I would talk to a therapist and cut your daughter a lot of slack.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you a narcissist or a troll?

Yes, the whole story is ridiculous. Normal people communicate their needs instead of seething in resentment and then disowning their kids.

I have an autistic college kid who needs to be asked to do things, otherwise he doesn't understand social mores. So we ask. We don't cut him off. He's frequently irritating, but we understand it's a brain difference and that he's not actively wishing us ill.

[Anonymous]

Op here.

I'm not a narcissist. Too many people jump to that word and have no idea what it means.

I was an overproducing mom. She owns bags of makeup when I barely have a chapstick. She asked, I did it. The fundraisers, the activities, the clothes, the trips, anything she asked for she got. Moment I got sick and couldn't be her slave she became resentful. Almost abusive at times. Days where the chemo made me think I was never going to make it. The moment I stopped overproducing she'd tell people I was faking it or say things like "You stink". Never helped with anything.

I hate her for what she's done and she can stay as far away from me as she'd like. I hate our country right now. Can't get sick or the world looks down on you. People are always so quick to blame the mom. You have no idea and hell I've had to live. But jump to your own conclusions about it all. Some of these Kidd are demonic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For the last eight months my daughter has been rude and flat out mean to me. She is in college, but goes to school nearby. I am resentful as , when I was hospitalized for a major surgery during the fall she did not even stop by to see if I was ok or stop by to check on her siblings. She lived a good life in her high school years, traveling to multiple countries while I was fighting a terminal illness. But now that I'm better it's like she resents that I did not die.

I've decided to stop being a doormat and allowing her to walk all over me. I cut off her cell phone and am beginning to process that I just don't have a daughter anymore. I took down her photos and it like having a child who has passed away.

Just needed to vent.

If you are alive, it wasn't terminal and you either choose the trips or agreed so stop throwing it up to her. You are terrible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

I'm not a narcissist. Too many people jump to that word and have no idea what it means.

I was an overproducing mom. She owns bags of makeup when I barely have a chapstick. She asked, I did it. The fundraisers, the activities, the clothes, the trips, anything she asked for she got. Moment I got sick and couldn't be her slave she became resentful. Almost abusive at times. Days where the chemo made me think I was never going to make it. The moment I stopped overproducing she'd tell people I was faking it or say things like "You stink". Never helped with anything.

I hate her for what she's done and she can stay as far away from me as she'd like. I hate our country right now. Can't get sick or the world looks down on you. People are always so quick to blame the mom. You have no idea and hell I've had to live. But jump to your own conclusions about it all. Some of these Kidd are demonic.

You failed as a parent.

[Anonymous]

It seems like you kept giving her more than you were comfortable to give and eventually it led to resentment.

It is hard to deal with a seriously ill person even for an adult, let alone for a kid.
Teens are selfish and it’s developmentally appropriate for them.

Signed, someone whose mother’s main curse word was “selfish”

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry you had cancer, but it seems like you spoiled your kid rotten, taught her to be entitled, never taught her to consider others, quietly seethed when she didn't act the way you thought she should, and are resentful that she learned what you taught her and never learned what you didnt teach.

[Anonymous]

Hi OP. I think you did the right thing cutting off her phone - that’s certainly something she will notice. I would leave the pictures in the house though.

I had a horrible relationship with my mom between ages 13-35, but lived with her until 26 at which point I left the country (different country where kids stay home while studying). My mom had a lot of issues, including (what I see in hindsight as) menopause-induced depression and rage. I was the outlet for her rage. On the other hand, I was very resentful of her (for a variety of reasons) and had lost respect for her.

Your daughter seems spoiled and it looks like she’s also at this point where she has lost any consideration for you. Sometimes distance can help. Time too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

I'm not a narcissist. Too many people jump to that word and have no idea what it means.

I was an overproducing mom. She owns bags of makeup when I barely have a chapstick. She asked, I did it. The fundraisers, the activities, the clothes, the trips, anything she asked for she got. Moment I got sick and couldn't be her slave she became resentful. Almost abusive at times. Days where the chemo made me think I was never going to make it. The moment I stopped overproducing she'd tell people I was faking it or say things like "You stink". Never helped with anything.

I hate her for what she's done and she can stay as far away from me as she'd like. I hate our country right now. Can't get sick or the world looks down on you. People are always so quick to blame the mom. You have no idea and hell I've had to live. But jump to your own conclusions about it all. Some of these Kidd are demonic.

Wow. This is a troll or a deeply disturbed human. I hope your daughter is happy and successful in life. She doesn't need to ever contact someone like you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

I'm not a narcissist. Too many people jump to that word and have no idea what it means.

I was an overproducing mom. She owns bags of makeup when I barely have a chapstick. She asked, I did it. The fundraisers, the activities, the clothes, the trips, anything she asked for she got. Moment I got sick and couldn't be her slave she became resentful. Almost abusive at times. Days where the chemo made me think I was never going to make it. The moment I stopped overproducing she'd tell people I was faking it or say things like "You stink". Never helped with anything.

I hate her for what she's done and she can stay as far away from me as she'd like. I hate our country right now. Can't get sick or the world looks down on you. People are always so quick to blame the mom. You have no idea and hell I've had to live. But jump to your own conclusions about it all. Some of these Kidd are demonic.

You failed as a parent.

Agree. OP enabled it.

[Anonymous]

There is a level of emotional maturity one needs to have as a parent and you need to work to get that back.

[Anonymous]

FFS OP can't you see that the reason she became mean and distant when you got sick was that she was terrified of losing you and this was her way of protecting herself. By pretending that she hates you she foolishly thinks she is inoculating herself in case she loses you!!!! Punishing her is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is a level of emotional maturity one needs to have as a parent and you need to work to get that back.

The troll never had emotional maturity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

I'm not a narcissist. Too many people jump to that word and have no idea what it means.

I was an overproducing mom. She owns bags of makeup when I barely have a chapstick. She asked, I did it. The fundraisers, the activities, the clothes, the trips, anything she asked for she got. Moment I got sick and couldn't be her slave she became resentful. Almost abusive at times. Days where the chemo made me think I was never going to make it. The moment I stopped overproducing she'd tell people I was faking it or say things like "You stink". Never helped with anything.

I hate her for what she's done and she can stay as far away from me as she'd like. I hate our country right now. Can't get sick or the world looks down on you. People are always so quick to blame the mom. You have no idea and hell I've had to live. But jump to your own conclusions about it all. Some of these Kidd are demonic.

Your level of immaturity is amazing. You honestly sound like a whiny, bratty, teenager. You may have bought her a ton, but you were likely emotionally negligent. I doubt she's really going to miss you.

[Anonymous]

Op here

The only trolls are you who project your own stuff onto other moms that struggle with adult children who abuse them, kids that might be on drugs, and have turned on their parents.

I wouldn't wish this on anyone.

Some of these kids are actually flat out mean and choose to be that way.

And no one taught them to be that way.

all of you who feel great beating up on me in the comments... just wait till your kids turn on you. And the world blames you for their decisions. When you have everything you had.

That's all I have.