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Anonymous
Is it KJ? Or another one? |
Anonymous
No this isn’t. The examples outlined are rather problematic for several reasons. |
Anonymous
KJ is one of two it could be |
Anonymous
Who is the other one? Want to avoid when considering HS. |
Anonymous
It's odd that female coaches don't know how to build girls up. Many tear girls down, especially if they aren't the star player. Same thing happened to my daughter and together as a family we decided to move on. It was such a great decision and I wish we had done it sooner. Go where you are wanted. |
Anonymous
No. Just the unsuccessful ones. |
Anonymous
At some point athletes have to learn that they won’t always love their coach, their role, or how things feel in the moment. That’s part of sports and honestly part of life. Two weeks into a season is a very short time to label a coach a bully. More often than not, situations like this improve when the player looks at what they can control. Showing up with a great attitude, working harder than everyone else, asking the coach what they need to improve, and proving they can handle adversity usually changes the dynamic pretty quickly. Blaming the coach and quitting rarely solves anything.One of the most valuable things kids can learn through sports is how to adapt to difficult personalities, push through discomfort, and make the best of a tough situation. Those are skills that will matter far beyond one spring season |
Anonymous
| I'm not sure about the situation or who is involved, but it's important to recognize the distinction between tough coaching, which focuses on improving performance, and bullying, which is about exerting power. Bullying can often be identified through consistent targeting, personal attacks, public humiliation, intimidation, and denying any opportunity for success, especially when emotional harm is apparent. If a coach uses their authority to control, belittle, or silence instead of teaching, this issue must be addressed by the administration. Furthermore, parents who are aware of bullying have an ethical responsibility to intervene. Ultimately, what kind of man would stand by and allow a teenage girl to be bullied? |
Anonymous
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My experience has been that many college coaches are like this. And while I don’t agree with it, that’s just the way it is.
Stick it out if you’re serious enough and talented enough to play in college. If neither of these are the case just play club and be done. If she’s at a private school and likes it and it’s going to set her up to get into a good university I wouldn’t leave for lacrosse |
Anonymous
Two things can be true: some college coaches may act that way, and it can still be inappropriate for a high school coach. |
Anonymous
Some coaches might view a player not playing for the school team but playing for club as an insult and could take retaliatory action that would harm your DDs recruiting. Stay w team or leave school. If it gets to a point where your DD is accused of doing things she didn’t actually do in order for the coach to paint a narrative that justifies their treatment of your DD I’d say something to the school (but with no expectation anything will be done) so your DD at feels least validated and you can possibly avoid the downward mental health spiral of her questioning her own sanity and self-worth. If it’s any consolation, her teammates probably see it but are afraid to speak up. |
Anonymous
The other one is across the river. |
Anonymous
See the 2026 Girls Lax WCAC + ISL Outlook thread for more info. |
Anonymous
 I don’t get why women treat other women this way. It does nothing.
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Anonymous
Because grown adults at schools stand by and let them. And then preach to teenage girls to not act the same way. |