My 18 year old just got 2 tattoos

[Anonymous]

I hate tattoos but don’t talk about it in front of my children. Occasionally I make comments about how they are common. Your kids are separate beings from yourself and you need to accept that they will make different decisions from you.

[Anonymous]

I’m so sorry, op. That’s terrible he lied to you, and abused himself.
I’d be livid, but then I’d set boundaries (no more allowance or money sent), set up a payment schedule to get money back, and not believe everything he says at face value.
Then, I’d respond with compassion. Clearly, something is going on that is hurting him.See if he will talk to you about it so he can get help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kid (he is a kid even though he’s 18) is away in college. He lied and told his dad he needed money for a refrigerator. Dad did not question this, even though he knew he has a refrigerator in his college suite and gave him money. Kid went to a tattoo parlour (cheapest he could find because refrigerators are not that expensive) and got two tattoos that are horrible, beyond horrible. Worst tattoos ever. Kid knows I hate tattoos. We’ve had multiple conversations about them.

This was two weeks ago. I’m a mess. I can’t sleep or think of anything else other than what he did to his once perfect body. They are trashy and disgusting. I hate my son for doing this to himself and ME. I can’t function I’m so upset. I don’t know what to do. He says he won’t remove them. I don’t want to see my son when he comes home from spring break because I’m so angry and disappointed.

Get a grip. If you’re not a troll, the issue you have is that he lied about the money for the refrigerator to get the tattoos. That’s definitely something to be very concerned, saddened and angry about. The reaction to that for me would be related to repayment of the conned funds, and different financial arrangements going forward.

[Anonymous]

The crux of the issue is that he lied. That’s what I would focus on in discussions with him and would require him to pay back the money.

I don’t care for tattoos either but once they’re 18, it’s really up to them. It’s fine to be disappointed in the choice but he did not do this to YOU or to get back at you. He just likes something that you don’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kid (he is a kid even though he’s 18) is away in college. He lied and told his dad he needed money for a refrigerator. Dad did not question this, even though he knew he has a refrigerator in his college suite and gave him money. Kid went to a tattoo parlour (cheapest he could find because refrigerators are not that expensive) and got two tattoos that are horrible, beyond horrible. Worst tattoos ever. Kid knows I hate tattoos. We’ve had multiple conversations about them.

This was two weeks ago. I’m a mess. I can’t sleep or think of anything else other than what he did to his once perfect body. They are trashy and disgusting. I hate my son for doing this to himself and ME. I can’t function I’m so upset. I don’t know what to do. He says he won’t remove them. I don’t want to see my son when he comes home from spring break because I’m so angry and disappointed.

Do you have a question.

[Anonymous]

I knew I should NOT have posted here. What an idiot I am. The fact that many of you say NOTHING of the lying and stealing says volumes. I’m no longer going to check this thread. Goodbye DCUM forever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I knew I should NOT have posted here. What an idiot I am. The fact that many of you say NOTHING of the lying and stealing says volumes. I’m no longer going to check this thread. Goodbye DCUM forever.

I’m sorry you feel that way. I agree with you and would have been very upset, especially because he lied and used your money to do something you opposed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I knew I should NOT have posted here. What an idiot I am. The fact that many of you say NOTHING of the lying and stealing says volumes. I’m no longer going to check this thread. Goodbye DCUM forever.

I want to say this with compassion. If you re-read what you wrote the vast majority of what you focused on was the tattoos, not the lying. I think people are just responding to what you highlighted in your own narrative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I knew I should NOT have posted here. What an idiot I am. The fact that many of you say NOTHING of the lying and stealing says volumes. I’m no longer going to check this thread. Goodbye DCUM forever.

Are you related to the OP with the deadbeat daughter? Same style.

Seriously if they are truly poor tattoo art the kid will find out when others with good tats tell them theirs are bad. They can get them modified or lasered off when they earn enough money for that. Lots of laser places around.

[Anonymous]

Pete Davidson spent $200,000 removing his tattoos.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, he could have joined the military. In fact, he may be. Count your blessings mom. (but the stealing and lying is unacceptable)

If OP was a cool and laid-back mom, he wouldn't have felt the need to fabricate the refrigerator story. Instead he lied and poor OP can't sleep, eat, function and is a total wreck, a shell of her formerly controlling, uptight self.

[Anonymous]

I hate tattoos, I agree they look trashy. But, OP, your reaction is either crazy trolling or you are mentally unstable. You need to get a grip.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I knew I should NOT have posted here. What an idiot I am. The fact that many of you say NOTHING of the lying and stealing says volumes. I’m no longer going to check this thread. Goodbye DCUM forever.

I want to say this with compassion. If you re-read what you wrote the vast majority of what you focused on was the tattoos, not the lying. I think people are just responding to what you highlighted in your own narrative.

Multiple people focused on the lying too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, he could have joined the military. In fact, he may be. Count your blessings mom. (but the stealing and lying is unacceptable)

If OP was a cool and laid-back mom, he wouldn't have felt the need to fabricate the refrigerator story. Instead he lied and poor OP can't sleep, eat, function and is a total wreck, a shell of her formerly controlling, uptight self.

Yes, every mom should strive to be “cool.” Then, she will be a good mom.

[Anonymous]

What a troll post.