Tinder situation…normal?

[Anonymous]

Married men

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are married.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are married.

This

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe this should be in the relationship forum, but it’s really more about sketchy behavior than actual relationships.

My good friend is divorced and started using Tinder a few years ago. There were two guys she got really involved with who had some things in common with each other. Neither of them live in the city she lives in. One was traveling for work to her city. The other was just passing through and apparently matched with her by proximity. They are both kinda the loner type and don’t have a lot of friends or people around them. They both took her on multiple big vacations right away. Within weeks of meeting. Yes, she was an absolute idiot to go on these trips, but that’s another story. They both have a lot of money. Both have military background. Neither of them have any online presence at all. She was only seeing the first guy for a couple of months. She's still with the second one, although they have been off and on. She has met some of his family.

Idk, it just seems so very strange that the situations were so similar. It just made me wonder if this is some sort of common scam on these dating apps..? Has anyone ever heard of something like that?

Also, any pointers on how to research someone online if they don’t have much of an online presence?

"They both have a lot of money. Both have military background." HAHAHAHAHA!!!! Thanks for the laugh.

[Anonymous]

Don’t be jelly OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe this should be in the relationship forum, but it’s really more about sketchy behavior than actual relationships.

My good friend is divorced and started using Tinder a few years ago. There were two guys she got really involved with who had some things in common with each other. Neither of them live in the city she lives in. One was traveling for work to her city. The other was just passing through and apparently matched with her by proximity. They are both kinda the loner type and don’t have a lot of friends or people around them. They both took her on multiple big vacations right away. Within weeks of meeting. Yes, she was an absolute idiot to go on these trips, but that’s another story. They both have a lot of money. Both have military background. Neither of them have any online presence at all. She was only seeing the first guy for a couple of months. She's still with the second one, although they have been off and on. She has met some of his family.

Idk, it just seems so very strange that the situations were so similar. It just made me wonder if this is some sort of common scam on these dating apps..? Has anyone ever heard of something like that?

Also, any pointers on how to research someone online if they don’t have much of an online presence?

"They both have a lot of money. Both have military background." HAHAHAHAHA!!!! Thanks for the laugh.

Why is this funny? My spouse is retired military and we have net worth just over $10 million. Our son who is an Ensign has close to $700,000 in one of his investment accounts.

There are actually many people who serve our country who have sizable portfolios. You’d be surprised.

[Anonymous]

OP - why is this your business? Has she expressed concern to you or asked for advice? If not, don't worry about it. Seriously. What other people do is not our business if it's not affecting us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - why is this your business? Has she expressed concern to you or asked for advice? If not, don't worry about it. Seriously. What other people do is not our business if it's not affecting us.

Why be the jerk? OP is obviously concerned her friend is getting scammed. It's a weird situation her friend is in. No one on here is responding that OP is being crazy for wondering what is up; everyone is responding that it seems a little weird but probably harmless. OP is a good friend for worrying about her friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - why is this your business? Has she expressed concern to you or asked for advice? If not, don't worry about it. Seriously. What other people do is not our business if it's not affecting us.

Why be the jerk? OP is obviously concerned her friend is getting scammed. It's a weird situation her friend is in. No one on here is responding that OP is being crazy for wondering what is up; everyone is responding that it seems a little weird but probably harmless. OP is a good friend for worrying about her friends.

Eh we disagree. If OP is so concerned she should have a conversation with her friend. Obviously there are red flags but if the friend isn't asking her advice or complaining about these guys then I'm not sure what the issue is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - why is this your business? Has she expressed concern to you or asked for advice? If not, don't worry about it. Seriously. What other people do is not our business if it's not affecting us.

Why be the jerk? OP is obviously concerned her friend is getting scammed. It's a weird situation her friend is in. No one on here is responding that OP is being crazy for wondering what is up; everyone is responding that it seems a little weird but probably harmless. OP is a good friend for worrying about her friends.

How is she being scammed ?

Serious question.

[Anonymous]

Who is the scammer and who is the scammee?

[Anonymous]

I know a woman who fell deeply in love with a military guy living across the country. As he changed bases, she visited him all over the country and the world. She eventually cheated on him and he probably cheated on her (I'm guessing), but they did have a real and intense relationship.

[Anonymous]

I don't know if she's being scammed, but it's sketchy as all heck. How does she even know that's their real name?

[Anonymous]

No internet or searchable presence could be because they aren’t giving your friend their real identity. Not saying that’s it, but it certainly wouldn’t be the first time.

[Anonymous]

Make sure she has seen "The Tinder Swindler," but as long as he doesn't ask her for money, I wouldn't worry too much about it. There is a good chance they are married, though.