Should I continue dating?

[Anonymous]

If you want kids you don’t need a man to make that happen.

[Anonymous]

I am from another planet because I never put any thought like this into it. He made less than me and I didn’t care at all because I was so hot for him! If you aren’t nuts about him why get married?

[Anonymous]

He’s old af. Don’t worry about the money worry if he’ll be alive to raise kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:39 year old recently started dating a 48 year old man. He married a woman in his early thirties who already had two little kids and helped raise them and provide for them financially. His ex wife and him did not get along as she developed alcoholism and they are now divorced.

He lives in a small rental apartment and has a decent job in the policy sector in dc. We have not discussed finances but I presume he makes something like 130k.

While we have great chemistry and enjoy each others company I wonder if he would be ready to try to have a biological child now, if we were to get serious and head down that path. I also wonder if he can afford to have a family. I make 150k and don’t really want to marry someone who makes less than me.

What would you advise?

First, ask him, he has to be willing to have another kid in his 50's when he already has two kids. Second, you say he earns less than you and you don't want to marry someone earning less, that answered your question.

[Anonymous]

If he adopted those kids, legally he owes them child support.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He makes $25K less than you? No way, NO WAY. You need to cut him loose yesterday. More cats and Netflix for you! All you want!

This^. Its not like he is 30 with potential to earn more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean ... you are 39 and unmarried and want your own child? Beggars can't be choosers, girl, you better stop it with this "I don't know if I want a man who only makes 130k when I make 150k."

Harsh but facts. Apso your worries are probably hypothetical as 39 and 48 would've issues having a nulliparous conception.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:$130k and $150k are both nothing special. Status wise they sre equivalent.

This^.

[Anonymous]

"While we have great chemistry and enjoy each others company I wonder if he would be ready to try to have a biological child now, if we were to get serious and head down that path."

You need to ask him that question.

As for whether his income is enough for you, well, that's up to you. If he doesn't have debt or pay child support, then personally I think that's enough especially when combined with your salary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you want kids you don’t need a man to make that happen.

You can get a sperm from sperm bank or get pregnant by some rando but kid deserves a father.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:39 year old recently started dating a 48 year old man. He married a woman in his early thirties who already had two little kids and helped raise them and provide for them financially. His ex wife and him did not get along as she developed alcoholism and they are now divorced.

He lives in a small rental apartment and has a decent job in the policy sector in dc. We have not discussed finances but I presume he makes something like 130k.

While we have great chemistry and enjoy each others company I wonder if he would be ready to try to have a biological child now, if we were to get serious and head down that path. I also wonder if he can afford to have a family. I make 150k and don’t really want to marry someone who makes less than me.

What would you advise?

No wonder dating in DC sucks. Why don't you just ask him to print out his 401k, investment and savings balances so you can nail down his net worth for sure. You obviously don't have many good options if you're banging a 50 year old guy and hoping he'll have a biological child with you. Lololololol x infinity

But then here you are on DCUM, stomping your feet and thinking that this guy isn't good enough for you. You suck. I hope he dumps you.

[Anonymous]

Oh boy I'm f**d. I'm divorced and only make $112k. I guess I shouldn't even try dating. I thought women had their own money and don't care.

What's the minimum income required to date a woman?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh boy I'm f**d. I'm divorced and only make $112k. I guess I shouldn't even try dating. I thought women had their own money and don't care.

What's the minimum income required to date a woman?

In this town you won't find a single woman to date you. At least not the ones on this forum. Unless you make min $250k you stand no chance. Even at $250k you won't be competitive.

Then the college you attended matter as well. And God forbid you skipped grad school well you are just illiterate at that point

[Anonymous]

You’re struggling with the fact that he makes $20K less than you?

Please do this man a favor and break up with him. He doesn’t deserve this nonsense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh boy I'm f**d. I'm divorced and only make $112k. I guess I shouldn't even try dating. I thought women had their own money and don't care.

What's the minimum income required to date a woman?

If you have to ask you can’t afford it 😂