Just found out my 22 year old does drugs recreationally

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think cocaine use is normal or common. It is high-risk in general for several reasons, but as PP said, it can be laced with fentanyl, which is deadly.

Oh it's definitely common, just depends on the circles you're around

[Anonymous]

Pot, eh, gross, but cocaine would make me flip out on him. And start looking for rehab. Nothing good comes of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Specifically coke. College grad, great job at a great company in the early career program with year long mentoring, etc etc, living in a major city independently, their friends are in the same industry or finance/ib/private equity or consulting (MBB) - I guess they all do it - that’s what I learned hanging out with them last night. Not sure I can DO anything. They all said It’s Fine We’ve Got It On Check. Uggggghhh. Anyone BTDT. Do the kids give it up eventually?

This is where you went wrong. Thinking that these were great jobs and great companies when they have a horrible culture and do nothing good for society and conveying that a high salary makes a great job to your son.

[Anonymous]

He needs to knock it off with the coke. Most importantly because this is an incredibly dangerous time to experiment with drugs. Fentanyl is often mixed with coke. Oftentimes its simply because the dealer is careless. Does anyone want to trust their life to a drug dealer in 2026? Even with narcan, we are still losing more than 100,000 people every year to ODs.

And secondly, finance may have the rep for coke. But the cokeheads are weeded out of the industry before 30. His use of coke is not doing his career any favors.

[Anonymous]

For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?

[Anonymous]

Im so sorry, op. This will be a bad road ahead. Set boundaries, be supportive by letting them know you are there when they are ready to quit.

[Anonymous]

When and if they are ready there are some good executive rehabs, they can take FMLA. Usually there will be a very scary moment when your DC realizes coke is very bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There's something...scum baggish about people who do coke. A burn out pot head is less trashy, imo. Weird that he would "recreationally" use hard drugs. I assume he is drinking, too.

How is this comment helpful to OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Specifically coke. College grad, great job at a great company in the early career program with year long mentoring, etc etc, living in a major city independently, their friends are in the same industry or finance/ib/private equity or consulting (MBB) - I guess they all do it - that’s what I learned hanging out with them last night. Not sure I can DO anything. They all said It’s Fine We’ve Got It On Check. Uggggghhh. Anyone BTDT. Do the kids give it up eventually?

This is where you went wrong. Thinking that these were great jobs and great companies when they have a horrible culture and do nothing good for society and conveying that a high salary makes a great job to your son.

You are projecting a lot of your own baggage here. You know nothing of what OP knew or conveyed to her son before he took this job. And she is separately allowed her own opinion, too!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He needs to knock it off with the coke. Most importantly because this is an incredibly dangerous time to experiment with drugs. Fentanyl is often mixed with coke. Oftentimes its simply because the dealer is careless. Does anyone want to trust their life to a drug dealer in 2026? Even with narcan, we are still losing more than 100,000 people every year to ODs.

And secondly, finance may have the rep for coke. But the cokeheads are weeded out of the industry before 30. His use of coke is not doing his career any favors.

We had a 23 year old employee die from a drug overdose. It was incredibly sad.

[Anonymous]

They don't all do it, and this is a good way to end up dead. Either by fentanyl or becoming an addict. I lived in NYC and worked in finance not everyone does it. IF you are financing them at all, stop immediately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think cocaine use is normal or common. It is high-risk in general for several reasons, but as PP said, it can be laced with fentanyl, which is deadly.

And it increases even a young person’s risk of a sudden heart attack.

Plus think of who this brings into his orbit. I am sorry.

[Anonymous]

I would not do anything in this day and age. Fentanyl is everywhere. I’m not out of touch either.

[Anonymous]

Don’t buy the idea that everyone in the finance/IB/consulting world does it - you are normalizing it and it’s not normal. It’s not uncommon, but it’s hardly true that everyone does it. And the ones who climb the ladder are not the ones using, with few exceptions.

[Anonymous]

Nothing new but still a trashy dangerous hobby.

Eww