One Night Stands in Youth = Infidelity in Marriage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can only speak for myself but I had lots of hook ups and one night stands when I was in my early 20s. Have never even had an ounce of desire to cheat on DH in the 15 years we've been together.

Same.

I actually think it's been healthier for me, personally, to have only had casual flings prior to meeting my husband. My friends who had serious relationships in their 20s, broke up, and then met their husbands went into their marriages with more baggage. ONSs don't have any baggage (assuming safe sex practices). I was so happy when I met my DH and knew "ok, this is it" and I was happy to leave the more casual hook ups behind.

[Anonymous]

Nope.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the hookups, if it was searching for validation by not refusing advances, then yes. Cheating is more of an indication of selfishness, cowardice and poor communication than past promiscuity.

[Anonymous]

There's no correlation. Ask me how I know. 💋

[Anonymous]

Definitely had ONS in my 20s but met my man/father of my children in mid 30’s and have never thought of cheating. I would divorce before cheating on him.

[Anonymous]

It depends on the person.

I definitely needed to sleep around when I was young or else I would have felt I had missed out. But H had zero one night stands and finds casual sex gross, and he has never felt like he missed out or wanted to cheat.

Both of us do strongly believe in putting the required work and effort into cultivating a strong relationship, and not putting ourselves in positions where cheating would even be possible.

[Anonymous]

I had some hookups while single but have never cheated on my wife of 20 years.

[Anonymous]

I had lots of hookups etc in my 20’s but I would argue that they were pretty healthy and I’ve never wanted to cheat on my husband.

I don’t really understand all that “tempted to cheat” stuff anyway. You do or you don’t. No one falls into bed with someone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There's no correlation. Ask me how I know. 💋

I'm on your side, but you have to stop with "ask me how I know." It's so tired. Adding the cutest emoji only makes it more grating. This isn't Twitter circa 2015, it's time to move on.

[Anonymous]

It's called "getting out of your system."

It's not a predictor of faithfulness.

[Anonymous]

Yes

[Anonymous]

I'd wager that cheating in early relationships has more of an impact than ONS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can only speak for myself but I had lots of hook ups and one night stands when I was in my early 20s. Have never even had an ounce of desire to cheat on DH in the 15 years we've been together.

This is me exactly, except my DH and I have been together for 30 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is that why so many men cheat on their wives?

And many wives cheat on their husbands, the numbers are evening out, so just stop.

To answer the question: No, I had many ONS in my younger days. However, I have never cheated on a wife or girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

The reality is and it totally I’m sure there’s people with a high body count that are not unfaithful.

But many people with high body count are bipolar, victims of sexual abuse, have complex PTSD, are sex addicts, etc.

So yes, there’s gonna be a correlation between high body count and infidelity, but it’s because of the underlying condition not because they were a ho.