What is the going rate for wedding gift per person?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a couple, I do $100 to the donation pot for coworkers (when a colleague has gotten married we've historically just written one massive check "from all of us" so everyone can give their comfort level without concern), $200 for friends and family.

These days it's rare anyone is getting married at 22 with nothing, so the idea of helping them "get started" is a little silly.

People celebrate with "gifting" at all kinds of life milestones -- wedding gifts are not merely to help people "get started."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In general you should give enough to cover what they likely paid per person for the party

No. No, no, no, no, no.

[Anonymous]

How many of these wedding gift amount threads are there?? Just in the last few months.

[Anonymous]

Depends on where it is being held and in which city. Major metro and its plated dinner $250 Minnnmm. Kansas City buffet? I think 150 is generous.

[Anonymous]

We spent $50 per person when DH, I, and our three unmarried adult kids went to a wedding this past month. I don’t know what SS and his wife spent.

[Anonymous]

Depends on how close you are to the couple and what your income is. Even then there's an upper limit (I don't know any billionaires, so I don't know what the ceiling is, but there's gotta be one)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In general you should give enough to cover what they likely paid per person for the party

Eewww, this is so crass.

Don’t throw a party you can’t afford.

[Anonymous]

We have been gifting $1k.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends on where it is being held and in which city. Major metro and its plated dinner $250 Minnnmm. Kansas City buffet? I think 150 is generous.

Paying to eat? It's not the guest's job to figure out how much it costs. Give what you can based on your relationship with person who invited you to the wedding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In general you should give enough to cover what they likely paid per person for the party

Eewww, this is so crass.

Don’t throw a party you can’t afford.

+1. That is not your job to figure out how much they likely paid/person.

[Anonymous]

Very rich people are often very stingy when it comes to gifting and even tips..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends on where it is being held and in which city. Major metro and its plated dinner $250 Minnnmm. Kansas City buffet? I think 150 is generous.

Agree

[Anonymous]

$50 gift from registry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:$50 gift from registry.

This is cheap. My culture doesn't do cash so I've always done registry but even in my 20s making less than 50k I did a $250 gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As much as you can afford and as close as you are to the couple. Anything from $100-$1000. However, standard minimum is to cover your plates.

I am so tired of hearing this core your plate nonsense. The vast majority of people who can to my wedding did not cover their plates. We threw a party to celebrate our marriage. We weren’t charging admission. Are you honestly saying to but different gifts depending on whether the reception is in a ballroom or a backyard?! That is nonsense. Buy a gift based on what you can comfortably spend and how close you are to the couple. Period.