What is the going rate for wedding gift per person?

[Anonymous]

I havent been to a wedding in 10 years. What is the going $$ per person to gift?

[Anonymous]

As much as you can afford and as close as you are to the couple. Anything from $100-$1000. However, standard minimum is to cover your plates.

[Anonymous]

$300-500

[Anonymous]

$200

[Anonymous]

$250 minimum

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As much as you can afford and as close as you are to the couple. Anything from $100-$1000. However, standard minimum is to cover your plates.

Terrible advice. Don’t give more to people just because they’re throwing an expensive wedding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As much as you can afford and as close as you are to the couple. Anything from $100-$1000. However, standard minimum is to cover your plates.

Terrible advice. Don’t give more to people just because they’re throwing an expensive wedding.

Agreed. This is only the "standard minimum" in a select social group in certain locations anyway.

[Anonymous]

I would have no idea what "my plate" costs. Would give 100-200 as a single person, more if I'm very close with them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As much as you can afford and as close as you are to the couple. Anything from $100-$1000. However, standard minimum is to cover your plates.

Terrible advice. Don’t give more to people just because they’re throwing an expensive wedding.

+1

This "cover your plate" stuff is not a real rule of etiquette. It has some value to the extent it's geared at clueing in people like cheap-ass aunt Larla who is worth 8M but brings a $20 pepper mill to the wedding, wrapped in white paper with a white bow.

[Anonymous]

Probably about $200 on average. But that is going to vary pretty wildly depending on your circle (avg HHI of 500k is different from avg HHI of 50k) and your place in it (less is expected from a 22 year old cousin or whatever).

[Anonymous]

As a couple, I do $100 to the donation pot for coworkers (when a colleague has gotten married we've historically just written one massive check "from all of us" so everyone can give their comfort level without concern), $200 for friends and family.

These days it's rare anyone is getting married at 22 with nothing, so the idea of helping them "get started" is a little silly.

[Anonymous]

I give $250 when dh and I attend as a couple.

[Anonymous]

250

[Anonymous]

If you know you are only being invited because you are part of the larger family but you don't really know the one getting married, you dont need to go to $500 or maybe not even $250. all depends on your relationship with whoever is getting married.

[Anonymous]

In general you should give enough to cover what they likely paid per person for the party