My kid has become a total loser

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's not a loser, OP, and I find it alarming that you would think that of her. It sounds like something is going on, and she needs some sort of support. I would start by speaking to a counselor for advice.

It does really sound like OP has dropped the ball.

It's possible she is having developmental issues that have never been diagnosed, was a victim of bullying or violence that she's afraid to tell you about, or has severe depression or anxiety or both OP.

[Anonymous]

You and your spouse need to prepare and plan for a long life of supporting this child.

She probably needs therapy and so will you and your spouse. That is def going to push you two to the brink -- if it hasn't already.

Best of luck.

[Anonymous]

I'm amazed by parents coming here in their child's senior years talking about them as if they haven't seen them the whole high school. Whether they're now a loser, too high achiever, have no interests, want too much, a doormat, a bully, has bad grades, only thinks of their GPA etc. Where were you? Just noticed her?

[Anonymous]

I feel so bad for your daughter. I don’t know what happened to her or what’s going on, but in addition to that she is also feeling your disdain for her. Kids pick up on a lot.

As her parent is your job to help diagnose the problem and help get her the support that she needs. You’re supposed to give her the tools and scaffolding so she can launch into adulthood. Are you a narcissist OP? Because you’re making this all about you. When you should be making it about your daughter and how you can help her.

I feel so bad for her that she has parent like you. And I don’t mean to say that to be awful, but gosh, she must just be hurting.

[Anonymous]

Poor kid. Do you have other children? How is your relationship with her? Is there anything she takes joy in? If she’s not interested in academics, is there something else she’s interested in? Has she had full bloodwork done, for thyroid, iron, whatever else? Can you get her into therapy?

What do YOU think explains her change?

[Anonymous]

Also, how about love and empathy instead of calling your kid “a loser”? My DD is experiencing depression, has no friends, and so on, but she is anything BUT a “loser.” She is great and we will work through it. You sound like you have zero compassion. Don’t you love your child, OP??

[Anonymous]

I can't believe that you think that about your child. Therapy for you. This can't be intentional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is 17 and a senior in high school. She does not do well academically, has no hobbies or interests, doesn't read, and has never expressed interest in attending college. She does not have a single friend and has never had any sort of romantic interest/experience. She doesn't have any after-school activities. I am at a loss. In middle school she was thriving. What to do?

What a bum

[Anonymous]

I want to give your daughter a hug since she's probably desperate for one.

[Anonymous]

OP come back if you are not a troll and tell us more.

You post just sounds like you are the problem

[Anonymous]

OP. It is vile and problematic to assume that your daughter is a “loser”, in addition to feeding all sorts of stereotypes of people it promotes unkindness. STOP!🛑 If you’re serious STOP!🛑 if you’re trolling do the same. Bye

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Something is going on. Depression, bullying, some kind of abuse? I don’t know. You should probably figure it out.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean, this isn't great but you calling her a loser won't help.

Also, you're kind of to blame here. You say she was thriving in middle school, but middle school was five years ago at this point and I highly doubt she became a "loser" overnight. You're just now noticing?

Also, if she's "never" expressed interest in college or trade school, that's kind of on you. Growing up it was a given I would attend college. My parents didn't wait for me to express interest.

I like your answer even though I suspect this is a fake post. But your advice is the right advice. OP is crazy to say all that and say DD was thriving in Middle school but not say anything about what OP has tried, what DD says about her lack of interest, there's almost zero info here about what OP has done to try to get her engaged and what happened. So very hard to give any advice, but you just gave the best advice. OP shoulders most of the blame without more info.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean, this isn't great but you calling her a loser won't help.

Also, you're kind of to blame here. You say she was thriving in middle school, but middle school was five years ago at this point and I highly doubt she became a "loser" overnight. You're just now noticing?

Also, if she's "never" expressed interest in college or trade school, that's kind of on you. Growing up it was a given I would attend college. My parents didn't wait for me to express interest.

I'm the person replying to you, corrected my 1st reply re: fake post:

I like your answer even though I suspect original post is a fake post. But your advice is the right advice. OP is crazy to say all that and say DD was thriving in Middle school but not say anything about what OP has tried, what DD says about her lack of interest, there's almost zero info here about what OP has done to try to get her engaged and what happened. So very hard to give any advice, but you just gave the best advice. OP shoulders most of the blame without more info.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is 17 and a senior in high school. She does not do well academically, has no hobbies or interests, doesn't read, and has never expressed interest in attending college. She does not have a single friend and has never had any sort of romantic interest/experience. She doesn't have any after-school activities. I am at a loss. In middle school she was thriving. What to do?

You're a vile evil troll.Get therapy.

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