My kid has become a total loser

[Anonymous]

My daughter is 17 and a senior in high school. She does not do well academically, has no hobbies or interests, doesn't read, and has never expressed interest in attending college. She does not have a single friend and has never had any sort of romantic interest/experience. She doesn't have any after-school activities. I am at a loss. In middle school she was thriving. What to do?

[Anonymous]

Talk to a counselor and stop calling her names

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is 17 and a senior in high school. She does not do well academically, has no hobbies or interests, doesn't read, and has never expressed interest in attending college. She does not have a single friend and has never had any sort of romantic interest/experience. She doesn't have any after-school activities. I am at a loss. In middle school she was thriving. What to do?

Not having any sort of romantic interest prevents her from being a total user. Imagine if she was having sex with someone like her.

[Anonymous]

Something is going on. Depression, bullying, some kind of abuse? I don’t know. You should probably figure it out.

[Anonymous]

I mean, this isn't great but you calling her a loser won't help.

Also, you're kind of to blame here. You say she was thriving in middle school, but middle school was five years ago at this point and I highly doubt she became a "loser" overnight. You're just now noticing?

Also, if she's "never" expressed interest in college or trade school, that's kind of on you. Growing up it was a given I would attend college. My parents didn't wait for me to express interest.

[Anonymous]

Has she ever been screened for autism? It presents differently in girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is 17 and a senior in high school. She does not do well academically, has no hobbies or interests, doesn't read, and has never expressed interest in attending college. She does not have a single friend and has never had any sort of romantic interest/experience. She doesn't have any after-school activities. I am at a loss. In middle school she was thriving. What to do?

Get her a therapist and a college admissions consultant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Something is going on. Depression, bullying, some kind of abuse? I don’t know. You should probably figure it out.

+1 something happened. If she was thriving in MS but is now a loner with no hobbies, interests, not caring about academics, there's something going on there.

I would not call her a loser. I would be worried that something terrible happened to her.

My spouse told me that one day, when their older sister was a teen, she came home crying and was never the same after that. They suspect she was raped, but she's never talked about it with anyone in the family.

Not saying your DD was raped, but a 180 like this usually indicates something serious happened. Get her to a therapist.

[Anonymous]

You have had years to parent your daughter and get her help. I feel terrible that one of the most important people in her life let her down and has the nerve to call her a loser. (I suggest some introspection on your part if we are searching for failures here.)

Clearly something is wrong. How do we know? She was different before and now lives a joyless existence that no one would choose. No one wants to have no friends, goals, passions or future plans. She is likely depressed, anxious, and possibly autistic. It is very common for friendships to end in middle school for autistic girls.

Get her therapy and start being a parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is 17 and a senior in high school. She does not do well academically, has no hobbies or interests, doesn't read, and has never expressed interest in attending college. She does not have a single friend and has never had any sort of romantic interest/experience. She doesn't have any after-school activities. I am at a loss. In middle school she was thriving. What to do?

You're a vile evil troll.Get therapy.

[Anonymous]

Does she vape or smoke weed?

[Anonymous]

You need help. Get it.

[Anonymous]

Did something happen? You should find out if something happened to her.

[Anonymous]

WOW, just wow. I can't imagine calling my child a loser. You seem to be more interested in the appearances than parenting her. You're the loser.

[Anonymous]

She's not a loser, OP, and I find it alarming that you would think that of her. It sounds like something is going on, and she needs some sort of support. I would start by speaking to a counselor for advice.