Would you let an old friend stay at your vacation house off season?

[Anonymous]

What kind of problem did her current house have Op?

Is her mom looking for free housing as well? Anyone else in the “family home”?

Was this her idea or heavily hinted at in an email or call from her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:$1k a night is bizarre. And a brand new house for you guys? What does your spouse think?

I can rent a huge hamptons house for $40k a month in summer and split it 5 ways.

Why is that bizarre? We could rent the house for 10k per week in the summer.

The cost of the potential rental is somewhat irrelevant since we probably won’t rent it. It is more about the relationship of an old friend who I rarely talk to or see.

[Anonymous]

I’ve always regretted doing this unless it’s someone with their own home and owner mentality and not desperate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:$1k a night is bizarre. And a brand new house for you guys? What does your spouse think?

I can rent a huge hamptons house for $40k a month in summer and split it 5 ways.

Why is that bizarre? We could rent the house for 10k per week in the summer.

The cost of the potential rental is somewhat irrelevant since we probably won’t rent it. It is more about the relationship of an old friend who I rarely talk to or see.

That’s bizarre too.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My old childhood best friend is currently displaced. She is not working and was living with her mom but the family home had a problem and they all had to move out.

I have a long history with this friend spanning decades. She was my maid of honor, threw me my baby shower and was my BFF until about a decade ago. She got divorced and basically ghosted me for many years. Since Covid, we met up twice. I send her a Christmas card and she may text how much our kids have grown. We bought a beach house last year and I spent a weekend with her there this past summer and that was the first and last time I saw her in 4 years.

Our beach house sits vacant. We don’t rent it out but we’re considering renting it out this summer. We could probably get $1k per night for the house during peak summer months. We have yet to let anyone go there without us.

Why did you buy a beach house last year?

[Anonymous]

As an owner of a beach house, hell no

[Anonymous]

Can’t tell if OP’s family intends to use the beach house this spring or summer or it’s supposed to be an investment property.

Sounds like neither, just sits there vacant. Interesting. Like a Troll House.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you ever go in the off season? If not, I'd say yes. You're actually better off having someone living in the house.

Yes, if you had consistent history with this person. You don’t. She ghosted you and now you’ve reconnected. I would absolutely help a friend in need in this way if there was full trust. Otherwise, you could end up with a squatter! I know that sounds paranoid, but what is this friend’s long term plan? If nothing, she could become desperate and overstay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:$1k a night is bizarre. And a brand new house for you guys? What does your spouse think?

I can rent a huge hamptons house for $40k a month in summer and split it 5 ways.

That’s not bizarre. And maybe her house is in the Hamptons.

[Anonymous]

Pass

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What kind of problem did her current house have Op?

Is her mom looking for free housing as well? Anyone else in the “family home”?

Was this her idea or heavily hinted at in an email or call from her?

The idea was heavily hinted in two phone calls.

Before her marriage and divorce, we used to hang out all the time, vacation together, celebrate birthdays, etc. I was also her maid of honor, hosted her bridal shower, etc. we live in different states (easy drive). I used to visit her and she would visit me almost monthly. I forgot about her after Covid because we stopped talking.

[Anonymous]

Missed the part— does your husband say about gifting away your new beach house to your down & out friend indefinitely?

[Anonymous]

MY best friend. Absolutely yes. Your best friend? I have no idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What kind of problem did her current house have Op?

Is her mom looking for free housing as well? Anyone else in the “family home”?

Was this her idea or heavily hinted at in an email or call from her?

The idea was heavily hinted in two phone calls.

Before her marriage and divorce, we used to hang out all the time, vacation together, celebrate birthdays, etc. I was also her maid of honor, hosted her bridal shower, etc. we live in different states (easy drive). I used to visit her and she would visit me almost monthly. I forgot about her after Covid because we stopped talking.

You post the same krap all the time here. Your old friend in need, ghosted you then wants to suddenly hang out, what to do, what to do.

Get a busier job, tell her to get one as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What kind of problem did her current house have Op?

Is her mom looking for free housing as well? Anyone else in the “family home”?

Was this her idea or heavily hinted at in an email or call from her?

The idea was heavily hinted in two phone calls.

Before her marriage and divorce, we used to hang out all the time, vacation together, celebrate birthdays, etc. I was also her maid of honor, hosted her bridal shower, etc. we live in different states (easy drive). I used to visit her and she would visit me almost monthly. I forgot about her after Covid because we stopped talking.

She will top talking to you either now if you don’t take the hint, or later when you ask her to move out and she’s not ready. You can’t win here. You need to choose the less annoying way to lose.