FWB is cheating

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop sleeping with people you’re not in an actual relationship with.

No, stop saying you're fine with a FWBs situation when you're obviously not. You apparently thought you could change him.

Lose some weight, get a better job, and get back out there.

[Anonymous]

Jokes on you OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you care if he’s balls deep in another chick? Your arrangement is just sex.

Plenty of people want exclusive sex for health reasons. Doesn’t mean they want a full blown relationship or are in love.

[Anonymous]

They have an agreement to be exclusive or alert the other person when they want to stop being exclusive. If one party thinks the other is breaking that agreement, then they should re-evaluate the relationship. That’s what OP is doing. OP doesn’t indicate she has deeper feelings for him. She is right to want to protect herself if he is lying to her.

Stop sleeping with him, get tested and do not see him for at least 60 days, preferably 90. Then decide whether you want to be just friends. Don’t be fwb again when he has shown he is willing to lie to you and put your health at risk.

[Anonymous]

The crabs are just an extra benefit.

[Anonymous]

Op, it is a FWB situation so why are you complaining?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The crabs are just an extra benefit.

Crabs aren't a thing anymore now that everyone shaves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can't "cheat" on a FWB. That's why they're a FWB instead of a BF/GF.

This.
Sounds like you caught feelings and are now embarrassed that it isn’t reciprocated and are now looking for a way out if the arrangement by blaming him of wrongdoing.
It’s weird to have an “agreement” with a FWB. I guess I don’t get how that is any different from having a bf/gf setup.
The “agreement” of “let me know before you decide to see other people” is really just the same as a bf/gf have.Am I missing something? Don’t couples who are dating have the same arrangement? When one of the two wants to see someone else, they either break up or start cheating. If you require him to tell you first (or claim it’s disrespectful if he doesn’t ) then how are you not making him into your bf? FWB dont owe you anything and the point is you get sex with no strings attached and no expectation of romantic feelings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have an exclusive FWB. We have an agreement that if either of us wants to sleep with someone else we will give the other a heads up. Women’s items that are not mine have been popping up at his place, so I’m pretty sure he’s violating our agreement. And I don’t want to sleep with him anymore.

The thing is that we are also actually good friends or so I thought. But now I feel disrespected. If you were in my shoes would you also end the friendship?

It’s a huge boundary violation and he lied. It’s disrespectful of your arrangement. I’d put an enormous amount of space between us after calmly telling him exactly that. He’s not being your friend. Don’t argue. Keep it simple or simply exit the interaction - no contact.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can't "cheat" on a FWB. That's why they're a FWB instead of a BF/GF.

This.
Sounds like you caught feelings and are now embarrassed that it isn’t reciprocated and are now looking for a way out if the arrangement by blaming him of wrongdoing.
It’s weird to have an “agreement” with a FWB. I guess I don’t get how that is any different from having a bf/gf setup.
The “agreement” of “let me know before you decide to see other people” is really just the same as a bf/gf have.Am I missing something? Don’t couples who are dating have the same arrangement? When one of the two wants to see someone else, they either break up or start cheating. If you require him to tell you first (or claim it’s disrespectful if he doesn’t ) then how are you not making him into your bf? FWB dont owe you anything and the point is you get sex with no strings attached and no expectation of romantic feelings.

No, FWB is an arrangement where people still have rules. The rules are whichever they agree upon based on their needs. The difference with BF/GF could be that they don’t introduce to friends and family, and don’t go out together in public. And date other people without sleeping with them until someone meets a serious partner. Usually it takes a few dates to become intimate - it’s not just “falling on someone’s D”. He had plenty of time to give her notice. But he wants in fact to KEEP sex from OP and sleep with others.
And no string attached is just dating sleeping around. That is not FWB (the latter is a continuous sex arrangement under certain terms between people who don’t plan to be long term partners).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get an STD test and stop the benefits. Items don't just show up. He lies or is a blackout drunk.

agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The crabs are just an extra benefit.

Crabs aren't a thing anymore now that everyone shaves.

"Everyone" doesn't shave. Don't normalize the patriarchy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The crabs are just an extra benefit.

Crabs aren't a thing anymore now that everyone shaves.

"Everyone" doesn't shave. Don't normalize the patriarchy.

I wouldn’t even shave for a FWB

[Anonymous]

Dont sleep with friends.
Dont assume a FWB with be exclusive.
FWB =/= friends.

These are basic life lessons.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, it’s time to end it. I don’t care what he says the fact that he thinks you are dumb enough to be satisfied with a “I don’t know how those got there” response is enough. What are you worth OP?