FWB is cheating

[Anonymous]

LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you care if he’s balls deep in another chick? Your arrangement is just sex.

Plenty of people want exclusive sex for health reasons. Doesn’t mean they want a full blown relationship or are in love.

That's bullshit. Demanding exclusivity is something you do in a relationship. The "health reasons" thing is just a bad fig leaf excuse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The crabs are just an extra benefit.

Crabs aren't a thing anymore now that everyone shaves.

"Everyone" doesn't shave. Don't normalize the patriarchy.

It isn't the patriarchy, love. Men don't want women who look like girls down there. That's just ick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you care if he’s balls deep in another chick? Your arrangement is just sex.

Plenty of people want exclusive sex for health reasons. Doesn’t mean they want a full blown relationship or are in love.

That's bullshit. Demanding exclusivity is something you do in a relationship. The "health reasons" thing is just a bad fig leaf excuse.

Well, they have a relationship. A FWB relationship. They get to structure that relationship as they like. Your rules don’t apply.

Women do have FWB relationships without being in love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have an exclusive FWB. We have an agreement that if either of us wants to sleep with someone else we will give the other a heads up. Women’s items that are not mine have been popping up at his place, so I’m pretty sure he’s violating our agreement. And I don’t want to sleep with him anymore.

The thing is that we are also actually good friends or so I thought. But now I feel disrespected. If you were in my shoes would you also end the friendship?

You're not adult enough to be in a relationship like this if you can't talk to him about it.

[Anonymous]

If you're such great friends and you're also sleeping together, why aren't you dating?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re an FWB, not “good friends.”
Just ask him about it.

I asked about it and he played dumb. Said he doesn’t know who’s stuff it is, and that he’s not sleeping with anyone else.

So how does he explain women's items popping up in his home? Perhaps he cross-dresses?

[Anonymous]

Yes, your FWB is not honoring his side of your mutual agreement.

It is good that you no longer want to sleep w/him anymore - - I wouldn’t either.

Whether or not you want to continue being friends w/him is entirely up to you.
Though trust/integrity is crucial to any relationship & it appears that your friend has shown to you that he has an issue in this area.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

I think it's bad that it looks like he is violating your FWB agreement.

But if you have asked him why there is a lipstick on the nightstand or a hair tie on the bathroom sink, and he denies he had been seeing other women, that is so much worse, on a trust scale.

If a person can lie about something so obvious, I would be afraid to just be around them. Liars who think they can con you are really dangerous.

So your question should you stop FWB but maybe remain friends is a big fat "NO"!

[Anonymous]

LOL. You can’t make this up!!

[Anonymous]

How is this easier than being in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you care if he’s balls deep in another chick? Your arrangement is just sex.

Plenty of people want exclusive sex for health reasons. Doesn’t mean they want a full blown relationship or are in love.

That's bullshit. Demanding exclusivity is something you do in a relationship. The "health reasons" thing is just a bad fig leaf excuse.

Not who you are responding to but yes, people do have FWB that are exclusive for health reasons. I did it in my 20s and I have done it in my 40s. If someone wants to start dating someone or sleep with someone else, they tell the other person and it ends. It is that simple (and not cheating).