Questions for parents of with sleepover experience

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Anonymous wrote:I am debating allowing my DD attend a sleepover. My biggest issue is she’s a terrible sleeper in some scenarios. The couple times she has been away from home without a parent have been mixed. Once she will be woke up for hours during the night.

Have you had a kid struggle to sleep during a sleepover? If so did it annoy you/your child? It seems theses are becoming a big thing at her age so part of me wants to let her try it, because I don’t want to hold her back unnecessarily but I would feel terrible if she ended up wanting to be picked up at 3AM or something because she couldn’t sleep.

No sleepovers period.

I don't understand why parents do these.

I would let my kid take the metro downtown DC alone before doing a sleepovers.

Not necessary.
It's a stupid thing

They were a huge part of my childhood and teen social life. I wouldn’t (and didn’t) deprive my kids of it.

Same, but I dont allow them. Times have changed

What exactly has changed to make sleep overs more dangerous?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am debating allowing my DD attend a sleepover. My biggest issue is she’s a terrible sleeper in some scenarios. The couple times she has been away from home without a parent have been mixed. Once she will be woke up for hours during the night.

Have you had a kid struggle to sleep during a sleepover? If so did it annoy you/your child? It seems theses are becoming a big thing at her age so part of me wants to let her try it, because I don’t want to hold her back unnecessarily but I would feel terrible if she ended up wanting to be picked up at 3AM or something because she couldn’t sleep.

No sleepovers period.

I don't understand why parents do these.

I would let my kid take the metro downtown DC alone before doing a sleepovers.

Not necessary.
It's a stupid thing

They were a huge part of my childhood and teen social life. I wouldn’t (and didn’t) deprive my kids of it.

Same, but I dont allow them. Times have changed

Aw, that's too bad. We've taken DCs' friends on vacations and they regularly stay at our beach house. I feel like it's too easy for them to isolate and rely on screens for entertainment, so I want to encourage them to spend time actual interacting with live friends.

[Anonymous]

DD, 14, rarely has sleepovers anymore. Most parents do Friday evening get togethers, with pick up at 10/1030pm, as kids are busy with ECs on weekends and large groups of teen girls can get a little choatic. If sleepovers do happen, it is usually just 1 or 2 kids sleeping over. As others have mentioned, very little sleep happens.

[Anonymous]

No sleepovers. It takes days to recover, and we've got s$&t to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am debating allowing my DD attend a sleepover. My biggest issue is she’s a terrible sleeper in some scenarios. The couple times she has been away from home without a parent have been mixed. Once she will be woke up for hours during the night.

Have you had a kid struggle to sleep during a sleepover? If so did it annoy you/your child? It seems theses are becoming a big thing at her age so part of me wants to let her try it, because I don’t want to hold her back unnecessarily but I would feel terrible if she ended up wanting to be picked up at 3AM or something because she couldn’t sleep.

How old is she? There's a big difference between 10 and 13. If she's more like 11-13, she has to agree ahead of time she will not ask to leave unless it's an emergency. Just not being able to sleep is not an emergency. As another poster said, have her bring a book and flashlight and she can read in her sleeping bag if everyone is sleeping.

She could also do the thing where she goes for dinner and much of the evening but you pick her up at 10 pm. Most kids aren't going to bed before then, or parents either.

My 8 year old has done several of these "late overs" with pickup at 8 or 9 pm, and has done sleepovers with one friend. No sleepover parties yet and I don't think she is ready for those because if there were an issue, she wouldn't ask the parents for help or speak up for herself. So no parties until she is more mature. But no one is into that yet anyway, 8 is still really young. My 12 year old is now into sleepover parties - he has been to three and we have hosted one. His crew is into gaming so they stay up late doing that and yes, they do pay for it for a couple of days, but it's a few times a year and they have a wonderful time so I'm ok with it. The volume is really the issue, not the sleep!

[Anonymous]

My 12 year old doesn’t like sleepovers and declines. She sleeps like crap and is annoyed no one will go to sleep. So I pick her up around 10 or 11.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No sleepovers. It takes days to recover, and we've got s$&t to do.

Can’t stop that hamster wheel! Go go go!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am debating allowing my DD attend a sleepover. My biggest issue is she’s a terrible sleeper in some scenarios. The couple times she has been away from home without a parent have been mixed. Once she will be woke up for hours during the night.

Have you had a kid struggle to sleep during a sleepover? If so did it annoy you/your child? It seems theses are becoming a big thing at her age so part of me wants to let her try it, because I don’t want to hold her back unnecessarily but I would feel terrible if she ended up wanting to be picked up at 3AM or something because she couldn’t sleep.

No sleepovers period.

I don't understand why parents do these.

I would let my kid take the metro downtown DC alone before doing a sleepovers.

Not necessary.
It's a stupid thing

They were a huge part of my childhood and teen social life. I wouldn’t (and didn’t) deprive my kids of it.

Same, but I dont allow them. Times have changed

Times have changed for the better, what are you so scared of?

[Anonymous]

There won’t be much sleep. Don’t allow it if you have something important to do in the morning. If she’s able to come home, be grumpy, and take a nap, go ahead and allow it. Just save it for special occasions unless she learns to sleep at them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am debating allowing my DD attend a sleepover. My biggest issue is she’s a terrible sleeper in some scenarios. The couple times she has been away from home without a parent have been mixed. Once she will be woke up for hours during the night.

Have you had a kid struggle to sleep during a sleepover? If so did it annoy you/your child? It seems theses are becoming a big thing at her age so part of me wants to let her try it, because I don’t want to hold her back unnecessarily but I would feel terrible if she ended up wanting to be picked up at 3AM or something because she couldn’t sleep.

No sleepovers period.

I don't understand why parents do these.

I would let my kid take the metro downtown DC alone before doing a sleepovers.

Not necessary.
It's a stupid thing

They were a huge part of my childhood and teen social life. I wouldn’t (and didn’t) deprive my kids of it.

Same, but I dont allow them. Times have changed

Aw, that's too bad. We've taken DCs' friends on vacations and they regularly stay at our beach house. I feel like it's too easy for them to isolate and rely on screens for entertainment, so I want to encourage them to spend time actual interacting with live friends.

Agreed. Everyone banning sleepovers for “safety” then their kids sit at home and sext random guys on Snapchat instead.

[Anonymous]

This is why they pack a book and flashlight. If they can't sleep, read their book.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am debating allowing my DD attend a sleepover. My biggest issue is she’s a terrible sleeper in some scenarios. The couple times she has been away from home without a parent have been mixed. Once she will be woke up for hours during the night.

Have you had a kid struggle to sleep during a sleepover? If so did it annoy you/your child? It seems theses are becoming a big thing at her age so part of me wants to let her try it, because I don’t want to hold her back unnecessarily but I would feel terrible if she ended up wanting to be picked up at 3AM or something because she couldn’t sleep.

No sleepovers period.

I don't understand why parents do these.

I would let my kid take the metro downtown DC alone before doing a sleepovers.

Not necessary.
It's a stupid thing

They were a huge part of my childhood and teen social life. I wouldn’t (and didn’t) deprive my kids of it.

Same, but I dont allow them. Times have changed

Aw, that's too bad. We've taken DCs' friends on vacations and they regularly stay at our beach house. I feel like it's too easy for them to isolate and rely on screens for entertainment, so I want to encourage them to spend time actual interacting with live friends.

Agreed. Everyone banning sleepovers for “safety” then their kids sit at home and sext random guys on Snapchat instead.

And now they all have phones and get to do this in a group at a sleepover. How fun

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am debating allowing my DD attend a sleepover. My biggest issue is she’s a terrible sleeper in some scenarios. The couple times she has been away from home without a parent have been mixed. Once she will be woke up for hours during the night.

Have you had a kid struggle to sleep during a sleepover? If so did it annoy you/your child? It seems theses are becoming a big thing at her age so part of me wants to let her try it, because I don’t want to hold her back unnecessarily but I would feel terrible if she ended up wanting to be picked up at 3AM or something because she couldn’t sleep.

No sleepovers period.

I don't understand why parents do these.

I would let my kid take the metro downtown DC alone before doing a sleepovers.

Not necessary.
It's a stupid thing

They were a huge part of my childhood and teen social life. I wouldn’t (and didn’t) deprive my kids of it.

Same, but I dont allow them. Times have changed

Aw, that's too bad. We've taken DCs' friends on vacations and they regularly stay at our beach house. I feel like it's too easy for them to isolate and rely on screens for entertainment, so I want to encourage them to spend time actual interacting with live friends.

Agreed. Everyone banning sleepovers for “safety” then their kids sit at home and sext random guys on Snapchat instead.

And now they all have phones and get to do this in a group at a sleepover. How fun

This. My SIXTH GRADER just went to a sleepover and was the only one who didn't bring a device (she doesn't have a phone) and tells me this after the fact and says they were snapchatting boys at their middle school because some girl in the group has idiot parents who let her have snapchat.

But bonus points for relying on screens for entertainment as a group?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No sleepovers. It takes days to recover, and we've got s$&t to do.

Our DD just went to a sleepover this past Friday, 14 yr old girls (7 of them), and yup, they were up most of the night (hosting mom told us she didn't stop hearing voices, music or walking around until after 2:00am) but they were all picked up by 12:00 noon the next day and our DD was fine, no energy problems, and we got all the obligations/activities/work/events of the weekend done without a problem.

What in the world are your kids up to at sleepovers that "it takes days to recover" from them and you can't get ish done??

[Anonymous]

We did them rarely and in retrospect not at all would have been best. They sleep terribly if at all, too much phone/tablet use, and parents don't always have the best judgement, including parents who seem fine and you might know well socially. They are really not necessary and no upside.