Questions for parents of with sleepover experience

[Anonymous]

I am debating allowing my DD attend a sleepover. My biggest issue is she’s a terrible sleeper in some scenarios. The couple times she has been away from home without a parent have been mixed. Once she will be woke up for hours during the night.

Have you had a kid struggle to sleep during a sleepover? If so did it annoy you/your child? It seems theses are becoming a big thing at her age so part of me wants to let her try it, because I don’t want to hold her back unnecessarily but I would feel terrible if she ended up wanting to be picked up at 3AM or something because she couldn’t sleep.

[Anonymous]

Oh DD is a young teen, not a teen. I posted her because I think the answer might be different in a couple years so interested in her from parents with slightly older kids too.

[Anonymous]

Kids don’t sleep much at sleepovers. Everyone pays for it the next day, but you just have to accept that if you’re going to allow it. If she wants to go, I’d let her go. Just don’t plan anything important the next day.

[Anonymous]

That’s the point. You should not pick her up at 3am. Di nit wake the family. Does She’s a have a phone or iPad?

[Anonymous]

Arm her with a flashlight and a book. Tell her if she’s old enough to go to a sleepover then she’s old enough to handle it if she can’t sleep: no calling you unless it’s an emergency and not sleeping is not an emergency. Teach her some breathing techniques and progressive relaxation. Remind her that it’s one night and she can handle it if things aren’t perfect.

If you think she can’t handle it or YOU can’t handle the thought of your kid having a
Challenge for one night; then say no to the sleepover.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s the point. You should not pick her up at 3am. Di nit wake the family. Does She’s a have a phone or iPad?

Ugh don’t send her with a screen, of course she won’t sleep if she has that. Bad idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s the point. You should not pick her up at 3am. Di nit wake the family. Does She’s a have a phone or iPad?

Ugh don’t send her with a screen, of course she won’t sleep if she has that. Bad idea.

DP. My kids are older teens, so a little past this stage, but when we used to do tween sleepovers, every single kid would show up with their own screen or gaming device. I hate it, but a kid might feel like the odd one out if they don’t have something. (Mine never did, fwiw.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s the point. You should not pick her up at 3am. Di nit wake the family. Does She’s a have a phone or iPad?

Ugh don’t send her with a screen, of course she won’t sleep if she has that. Bad idea.

DP. My kids are older teens, so a little past this stage, but when we used to do tween sleepovers, every single kid would show up with their own screen or gaming device. I hate it, but a kid might feel like the odd one out if they don’t have something. (Mine never did, fwiw.)

Sure but that wasn’t the original question—the issue is the girl doesn’t always sleep well should she go? An iPad isn’t the answer to that question and can make sleep way worse.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s the point. You should not pick her up at 3am. Di nit wake the family. Does She’s a have a phone or iPad?

Ugh don’t send her with a screen, of course she won’t sleep if she has that. Bad idea.

DP. My kids are older teens, so a little past this stage, but when we used to do tween sleepovers, every single kid would show up with their own screen or gaming device. I hate it, but a kid might feel like the odd one out if they don’t have something. (Mine never did, fwiw.)

Sure but that wasn’t the original question—the issue is the girl doesn’t always sleep well should she go? An iPad isn’t the answer to that question and can make sleep way worse.

The point is that no one’s going to sleep anyway. In fact, a sleepover is the perfect place for a kid who can’t sleep!

[Anonymous]

Does she have anxiety about not sleeping or do you? If she has anxiety, she shouldn’t go if she’s going to be worried about this. If she will have fun and it’s your concern, let her go. There will be very little sleep for any of them. They basically stay up the entire night. I’m glad my daughter rarely goes on them anymore but she used to love them.

[Anonymous]

There's very little sleep at sleep overs.

Not being able to fall asleep shouldn't require you to pick her up.

Let her go if she wants to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am debating allowing my DD attend a sleepover. My biggest issue is she’s a terrible sleeper in some scenarios. The couple times she has been away from home without a parent have been mixed. Once she will be woke up for hours during the night.

Have you had a kid struggle to sleep during a sleepover? If so did it annoy you/your child? It seems theses are becoming a big thing at her age so part of me wants to let her try it, because I don’t want to hold her back unnecessarily but I would feel terrible if she ended up wanting to be picked up at 3AM or something because she couldn’t sleep.

No sleepovers period.

I don't understand why parents do these.

I would let my kid take the metro downtown DC alone before doing a sleepovers.

Not necessary.
It's a stupid thing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am debating allowing my DD attend a sleepover. My biggest issue is she’s a terrible sleeper in some scenarios. The couple times she has been away from home without a parent have been mixed. Once she will be woke up for hours during the night.

Have you had a kid struggle to sleep during a sleepover? If so did it annoy you/your child? It seems theses are becoming a big thing at her age so part of me wants to let her try it, because I don’t want to hold her back unnecessarily but I would feel terrible if she ended up wanting to be picked up at 3AM or something because she couldn’t sleep.

No sleepovers period.

I don't understand why parents do these.

I would let my kid take the metro downtown DC alone before doing a sleepovers.

Not necessary.
It's a stupid thing

They were a huge part of my childhood and teen social life. I wouldn’t (and didn’t) deprive my kids of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am debating allowing my DD attend a sleepover. My biggest issue is she’s a terrible sleeper in some scenarios. The couple times she has been away from home without a parent have been mixed. Once she will be woke up for hours during the night.

Have you had a kid struggle to sleep during a sleepover? If so did it annoy you/your child? It seems theses are becoming a big thing at her age so part of me wants to let her try it, because I don’t want to hold her back unnecessarily but I would feel terrible if she ended up wanting to be picked up at 3AM or something because she couldn’t sleep.

No sleepovers period.

I don't understand why parents do these.

I would let my kid take the metro downtown DC alone before doing a sleepovers.

Not necessary.
It's a stupid thing

They were a huge part of my childhood and teen social life. I wouldn’t (and didn’t) deprive my kids of it.

Same, but I dont allow them. Times have changed

[Anonymous]

I would let DD go ( 13) as long as we had no plans the next day. Plan on an early night the next night.
She just had a sleepover with 2 other girls 2 weeks ago. We told them lights/TV out at 11 and set the Alexa alarm. I knew they’d chat for a bit. DD said they fell asleep around 1230/1.
We don’t do many sleepovers. She has a friend she goes to a couple of times a year whete they doze off around 3am and then my kid is awake around 8/9.