Do you think an on/off boyfriend should be invited to a family wedding?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you sending the MOB an invite?

Who is “we”?

I don’t even want this guy at Christmas TBD. DH doesn’t want him to stay with us for Christmas.

I don’t care if MIL is dating this guy. She is just always complaining about him. I probably just wouldn’t want a stranger in my house for our family Christmas even if he was amazing.

All of you collectively sound like lovely people.

One, MIL has been dating someone for years that she openly shit talks but then expects you all to welcome him and host him for family events? Insane.

You and your DH and his sister are acting like petulant children and playing some kind of power games.

Glad I'm not part of your family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you sending the MOB an invite?

Who is “we”?

I don’t even want this guy at Christmas TBD. DH doesn’t want him to stay with us for Christmas.

I don’t care if MIL is dating this guy. She is just always complaining about him. I probably just wouldn’t want a stranger in my house for our family Christmas even if he was amazing.

All of you collectively sound like lovely people.

One, MIL has been dating someone for years that she openly shit talks but then expects you all to welcome him and host him for family events? Insane.

You and your DH and his sister are acting like petulant children and playing some kind of power games.

Glad I'm not part of your family.

I’m just the DIL and SIL. MIL drives us all crazy. I don’t think anyone actually enjoys her company.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Offer a plus one.

Plus, one should be offered for any adult and taken into account when you’re planning guest list

But what if her plus one is her Golden Retriever ? Would that necessitate a separate menu ?

Ain't no rule says a dog can't come to wedding!

-Air Bud

Woof !

[Anonymous]

So we are talking about the grandmother of the bride and her on/off bf?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So we are talking about the grandmother of the bride and her on/off bf?

Boyfriend of mother. The mom is also the grandmother of my children. Marrying couple don’t have kids. It is their first wedding.

[Anonymous]

So the bride is your dh’s sister?

This implies the bride is a full-grown woman.

So this is her call.

[Anonymous]

No I don't. Only married couples, or engaged couples are invited. There's a table full of singles and they can mingle with each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you sending the MOB an invite?

Who is “we”?

I don’t even want this guy at Christmas TBD. DH doesn’t want him to stay with us for Christmas.

I don’t care if MIL is dating this guy. She is just always complaining about him. I probably just wouldn’t want a stranger in my house for our family Christmas even if he was amazing.

All of you collectively sound like lovely people.

One, MIL has been dating someone for years that she openly shit talks but then expects you all to welcome him and host him for family events? Insane.

You and your DH and his sister are acting like petulant children and playing some kind of power games.

Glad I'm not part of your family.

+1

All these people, including OP, sound bats#@t crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If they are “on” when you send the invite, then she will see it as a diss if you give her a plus one. But why are you sending the mother of the bride an invitation? That seems kind of arms length to me.

As a formality, anyone unmarried is a plus one. If the couple is married, the invitations are sent to Mr. and Mrs. Hislastname or other formal titles. If unmarried, the invitation is sent to the guest only, with a place on the RSVP to list a plus one.

Some people keep their family at arms length. If I were getting married today, and felt like ruining my own day, I'd invite my estranged mother via formal invitation, not assumption that she'd be there. Some people also write the invitations for the formality/ceremony.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Offer a plus one.

Plus, one should be offered for any adult and taken into account when you’re planning guest list

But what if her plus one is her Golden Retriever ? Would that necessitate a separate menu ?

Please stay in the pets forum, but even over there: pets are not people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you sending the MOB an invite?

Who is “we”?

I don’t even want this guy at Christmas TBD. DH doesn’t want him to stay with us for Christmas.

I don’t care if MIL is dating this guy. She is just always complaining about him. I probably just wouldn’t want a stranger in my house for our family Christmas even if he was amazing.

All of you collectively sound like lovely people.

One, MIL has been dating someone for years that she openly shit talks but then expects you all to welcome him and host him for family events? Insane.

You and your DH and his sister are acting like petulant children and playing some kind of power games.

Glad I'm not part of your family.

+1

All these people, including OP, sound bats#@t crazy.

Why am I batshit crazy? Because I don’t want this man staying with us during the holidays? I don’t even know if we are seeing MIL and this guy during the holidays. Last year, she decided to not visit and hang out with him instead. They broke up this year for a few months. He was an ex boyfriend so he wasn’t going to be invited. Now they are on again.

[Anonymous]

Meant they were broken up when couple got engaged.

I don’t want this strange man with us while my kids open up their gifts Xmas morning.

[Anonymous]

She gets a plus one. Her choice.

[Anonymous]

Just invite a plus one and she decides who to bring, if anyone

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you sending the MOB an invite?

Who is “we”?

I don’t even want this guy at Christmas TBD. DH doesn’t want him to stay with us for Christmas.

I don’t care if MIL is dating this guy. She is just always complaining about him. I probably just wouldn’t want a stranger in my house for our family Christmas even if he was amazing.

All of you collectively sound like lovely people.

One, MIL has been dating someone for years that she openly shit talks but then expects you all to welcome him and host him for family events? Insane.

You and your DH and his sister are acting like petulant children and playing some kind of power games.

Glad I'm not part of your family.

+1

All these people, including OP, sound bats#@t crazy.

Why am I batshit crazy? Because I don’t want this man staying with us during the holidays? I don’t even know if we are seeing MIL and this guy during the holidays. Last year, she decided to not visit and hang out with him instead. They broke up this year for a few months. He was an ex boyfriend so he wasn’t going to be invited. Now they are on again.

Yes, because whether they are on again or off agian, I would trust my mother to pick a partner. But your MIL is crazy too so maybe not. You all are just a mess.