Do you think an on/off boyfriend should be invited to a family wedding?

[Anonymous]

We have a family member who has an on/off boyfriend for years. They live out of state and we have met the boyfriend once. Every time we see the family member, she tells us they are broken up or how much she dislikes him and wants to get rid of him. They are currently together but who knows what their status will be at time of wedding.

Do we need to invite this on off boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

Give her a plus one and let her decide or pass on bringing someone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Give her a plus one and let her decide or pass on bringing someone.

+1 Didn't we just have this thread, where someone called the proposed plus one a "tinderfella"?

You either let people invite a guest or you don't. Don't judge their choice of guest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Give her a plus one and let her decide or pass on bringing someone.

+1 Didn't we just have this thread, where someone called the proposed plus one a "tinderfella"?

You either let people invite a guest or you don't. Don't judge their choice of guest.

This. Sorry, I know it's annoying.

You can decline to listen to her venting about him, that's what I would do.

[Anonymous]

Offer a plus one.

Plus, one should be offered for any adult and taken into account when you’re planning guest list

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Give her a plus one and let her decide or pass on bringing someone.

The person in question is mother of bride’s on off boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

If they are “on” when you send the invite, then she will see it as a diss if you give her a plus one. But why are you sending the mother of the bride an invitation? That seems kind of arms length to me.

[Anonymous]

This is dh’s mom’s on off boyfriend.

Bride doesn’t want to invite him.

I personally have never met him. I’m the SIL and DIL and have never met the on off boyfriend.

A few years ago, I posted about letting this man stay at our house. MIL wanted to bring this man while watching our kids while DH and I went away. I did not want this man in my house that I had never met to be in the house with my kids while we were away.

[Anonymous]

Are you sending the MOB an invite?

Who is “we”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If they are “on” when you send the invite, then she will see it as a diss if you give her a plus one. But why are you sending the mother of the bride an invitation? That seems kind of arms length to me.

DH and bride don’t think he should come as many eyes will be focused on MIL’s boyfriend.

I actually think most people would be more interested in the boyfriend than the actual wedding!

[Anonymous]

I’d call them and ask if they want a +1. If you just give it, they may feel obligated to drag him along, esp if he sees the invite on the fridge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Offer a plus one.

Plus, one should be offered for any adult and taken into account when you’re planning guest list

But what if her plus one is her Golden Retriever ? Would that necessitate a separate menu ?

[Anonymous]

If MoB wants him there, let her have him


But he needs to be set back from the ceremony (not "Father of the Bride") if there what Bride wants. Then he can socialize with MoB during the party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you sending the MOB an invite?

Who is “we”?

I don’t even want this guy at Christmas TBD. DH doesn’t want him to stay with us for Christmas.

I don’t care if MIL is dating this guy. She is just always complaining about him. I probably just wouldn’t want a stranger in my house for our family Christmas even if he was amazing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Offer a plus one.

Plus, one should be offered for any adult and taken into account when you’re planning guest list

But what if her plus one is her Golden Retriever ? Would that necessitate a separate menu ?

Ain't no rule says a dog can't come to wedding!

-Air Bud