Do men ever change?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's always possible for people to change, but it's rare. It's the same for women and men.

This. Sure, men *can* change, but will they? Probably not. Same for women.

Change takes a lot of effort, and a willingness to admit you need to change. That's really hard for most people.

[Anonymous]

My DH, an otherwise decent man, likes to open a bottle of wine, drink one glass, and put the wine bottle back into the fridge. Sideways. With the cap loosely screwed on. Or the cork haphazardly reinserted. Regularly he does this.

So regularly I open the fridge and wine is dripping everywhere. Red wine makes a bloody-looking mess. White wine is more of an invisibly wet sticky stinky mess.

The moral is: Men do not change. (Maybe women don’t either. The problem is that men do not learn.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH, an otherwise decent man, likes to open a bottle of wine, drink one glass, and put the wine bottle back into the fridge. Sideways. With the cap loosely screwed on. Or the cork haphazardly reinserted. Regularly he does this.

So regularly I open the fridge and wine is dripping everywhere. Red wine makes a bloody-looking mess. White wine is more of an invisibly wet sticky stinky mess.

The moral is: Men do not change. (Maybe women don’t either. The problem is that men do not learn.)

Your husband’s bad habit =/= all men

[Anonymous]

I think people can change if they want to and really put in the work.

I think people with personality disorders or that are not consciously applying themselves to change are highly unlikely to though

[Anonymous]

He’s not changing for you or into what you want him to be.

The sooner you come to terms w that .. The better off you him and even your marriage will be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH, an otherwise decent man, likes to open a bottle of wine, drink one glass, and put the wine bottle back into the fridge. Sideways. With the cap loosely screwed on. Or the cork haphazardly reinserted. Regularly he does this.

So regularly I open the fridge and wine is dripping everywhere. Red wine makes a bloody-looking mess. White wine is more of an invisibly wet sticky stinky mess.

The moral is: Men do not change. (Maybe women don’t either. The problem is that men do not learn.)

Your husband’s bad habit =/= all men

+1

“I’m married to a disrespectful slob idiot; therefore this is every husband”

[Anonymous]

Sure, they can change (For the worse)

[Anonymous]

If they want to

[Anonymous]

They could if they really want to but it’s hard. My husband needs very detailed instructions and I just work around him a lot. Married 29 years. At least I accept it most of the time and don’t get angry

[Anonymous]

He's not going to recognize narcissistic behaviors and proactively change his behavior because you asked him to, OP.

He'd need to do individual and couples therapy.

[Anonymous]

No, Never.

[Anonymous]

Yes men do change and so do women. My ex wife turned into a sl**t addicted to cheating. Now she is on those weight loss injections and look extremely miserable. Every other day I get a text from her trying to force some kind of random conversation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They could if they really want to but it’s hard. My husband needs very detailed instructions and I just work around him a lot. Married 29 years. At least I accept it most of the time and don’t get angry

It's not that he needs detailed directions, you are just annoying

[Anonymous]

No I could have wrote this down to the 40th party I for him and nothing on mine. It doesn't get better or change. He will start to breadcrumb you for a second then go back to his ways.

[Anonymous]

No.