Narc ex - 2am rage texts. Make it stop?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here thank you for all of the replies. We were in a coparenting app, not required in our agreement, but he basically declared that we don’t need it. I have don’t the renaming, silencing, not responding pieces. He went back to his old habits after quite a while of seemingly normal behavior. I only respond to kid related things. I let the rants hang un answered.

I appreciate the piece about not telling him that I don’t appreciate his middle of the night texts. It would give him “power”. Yes, of course he is drunk when he is doing that. I just wish I could figure out how to detach already! It is just so frustrating. I guess I’ll just vent about it here.

He knows that you are seeing these texts so it’s a way to get to you. Block and go back to the parent app.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here thank you for all of the replies. We were in a coparenting app, not required in our agreement, but he basically declared that we don’t need it. I have don’t the renaming, silencing, not responding pieces. He went back to his old habits after quite a while of seemingly normal behavior. I only respond to kid related things. I let the rants hang un answered.

I appreciate the piece about not telling him that I don’t appreciate his middle of the night texts. It would give him “power”. Yes, of course he is drunk when he is doing that. I just wish I could figure out how to detach already! It is just so frustrating. I guess I’ll just vent about it here.

The only place you should be doing any communications is in the parenting app. If he texts you that he needs you to pack Larla’s swimsuit, you didn’t see it because it wasn’t communicated in the parenting app. If he texts you a question, you didn’t see it because it wasn’t in the parenting app.

[Anonymous]

OP Here - 2 am texts are him having “and an another thing” drunk convo that no one wanted.

I wish there was the opportunity where I could say the thing that just put him back in his box to stop harassing me. But I know that’s not available to us on the grey rock side of things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP Here - 2 am texts are him having “and an another thing” drunk convo that no one wanted.

I wish there was the opportunity where I could say the thing that just put him back in his box to stop harassing me. But I know that’s not available to us on the grey rock side of things.

You need to block him. Stop engaging with him, including allowing him to text you.

[Anonymous]

Why can't you use Do Not Disturb?

[Anonymous]

Our family wizard

[Anonymous]

I would respond to these random screeds with "lightly fried tuna," or "try a burgundy washcloth," or some other nonsense. If he asks you about it in the morning, you can respond, "I have no idea, since it was the middle of the night, I must have been sleep-texting"

[Anonymous]

My ex of 15 years sent me rage texts today, accusing me of being 'crazy' because i scheduled a last minute dentist appt for our 17 year old son today after he complained of severe tooth pain. Apparently ex doesn't think today is a good day for an appt because dc has an essay to write for school. Of course he didn't tell this to dc or schedule the appt himself; he just chose to rage at me about it.

Is he a narc? Probably. But these people never get diagnosed because they think everyone else is the problem

[Anonymous]

Respond every single time with "Linoleum! Eagle snafu!"

[Anonymous]

Why not just delete all texts without reading? Any texts received at an unreasonable hour. You decide, between ___ and ___ hour. Standard practice. Who cares what he has to say? He's not heard. He has no voice. If it's actually something of value, he'll mention it sometime again.

[Anonymous]

Reply with a video message - POV shot of your face, rock your body back and forth, and do your best your best Meg Ryan, When Harry Met Sally impersonation, while exhaustedly saying "I can't respond I am a little busy, don't stop....please dont stooooooooopppp!"

[Anonymous]

I know plenty of men who are storing their .. ehem, slippery stuff for when they feel ready.

These guys WILL be purchasing donor eggs when the time comes although some may use a volunteer partner. Apart from the DNA partner, the women who carry these babies are often overseas — in Thailand and other locations.

The last time there was an earthquake in Thailand, the surrogate customers were in a panic — many spoke to the press in their moment of desperation. Look it up!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why not just delete all texts without reading? Any texts received at an unreasonable hour. You decide, between ___ and ___ hour. Standard practice. Who cares what he has to say? He's not heard. He has no voice. If it's actually something of value, he'll mention it sometime again.

This. I had a very similar situation with my ex. I stopped responding to anything that was not a specific question regarding the kids. It took time but it eventually stopped.

[Anonymous]

Put the phone on ‘do not disturb’ setting during the night

[Anonymous]

Did you have an affair? Did that cause the divorce?
Why is he rage texting you?