Sister withheld info

[Anonymous]

Even the way you phrase the title makes it sound like you think you had a right to this info.

You don’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Even the way you phrase the title makes it sound like you think you had a right to this info.

You don’t.

Which give even more credence to the possibility that the elder sister is demanding and younger sister is distancing herself.

[Anonymous]

PP's are sooo weird. I can't imagine getting together with anyone 4x a week before she's traveling for a month and she don't mention it.

OP your sister isn't into you. Trust me, been there. Proceed with that knowledge.

[Anonymous]

OP, why do you think she did this?

[Anonymous]

I wonder why the older sister didn't ask her really much about her life and there was no conversation about anything happening in the next month. Sounds like older sister only talked about herself.

[Anonymous]

There’s something wrong here but if the only question that occurs to you is “Should elder sister be annoyed,” the chances are strong that the problem resides in you and you need to do some self reflection.

[Anonymous]

I have a cousin who I could see this happening with. I would withhold the info because she would either invite herself on the trip, using guilt because she had some personal tragedies in the past, or she would complain that I find time to travel with my nuclear family but not to travel with hers. She has been hounding me to do a joint trip with her family and it is not happening. Period. So I give less info.

[Anonymous]

Anyone who refers to herself as the “elder sister” is likely an annoying busybody. Which is why your sister didn’t tell you, OP.

[Anonymous]

Probably Little Sis didn't want Big Sis to feel envious, since Big Sis cannot join (or Little Sis doesn't want her to join).

[Anonymous]

OP here. I don’t know why and have been playing the guessing game ever since.

Our other sibling confronted her about it as they found the decision to leave abruptly but not give anyone a heads up very out of character and she gave a story that was very sketchy. “My BIL twisted his ankle last night so we thought we’d check in on him.” For context, BIL is in his mid-forties and has previously had cancer, and much other serious ailments and they’ve never gone.

And to get to the country they are traveling to, it is 22 hour trip from here so it’s not a place you can hop over to.

Something is very very off. I’m now getting worried.

[Anonymous]

No.
Who cares.

[Anonymous]

My baby brother did something very similar to this last month. I know damn well it’s bc I would have scolded him for spending the money. And when I found out I did anyway!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I don’t know why and have been playing the guessing game ever since.

Our other sibling confronted her about it as they found the decision to leave abruptly but not give anyone a heads up very out of character and she gave a story that was very sketchy. “My BIL twisted his ankle last night so we thought we’d check in on him.” For context, BIL is in his mid-forties and has previously had cancer, and much other serious ailments and they’ve never gone.

And to get to the country they are traveling to, it is 22 hour trip from here so it’s not a place you can hop over to.

Something is very very off. I’m now getting worried.

Are you two in the habit of confronting your sister?

She doesn’t want to discuss it.

Wish her safe travels and let her know she can call on you if needed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it would be weird to be really “annoyed” but not at all weird to text sister and say “omg mom just told me you’re spending a month in Paris! Tell me all about it/when do you leave?” and see what she says.

This

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My baby brother did something very similar to this last month. I know damn well it’s bc I would have scolded him for spending the money. And when I found out I did anyway!

Seriously?

Betting he never tells you anything ever again.