You're an actor and have to film a sex scene - do you want an intimacy coordinator?
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Anonymous
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You’re not supposed to have an intimacy coordinator because you think you need one. Everyone is supposed to use one so that people who do need one don’t have to ask or try to do without it.
The whole point of all of the post-me too stuff like this is not because you or the people you are with might be predators and this will stop you from being a predator. It’s that all of us non-predators agree to do a bunch of things that are inconvenient or even slightly harmful (like not getting to date an employee even if you both really want to) because if we all do those things, it makes the environment inhospitable to predators and it makes them much harder to operate. Like I know I could have 1,000,000 closed door one on ones with kids I coach and never bully or assault any of them. But I follow the rule because I know that if all of us do the inconvenient thing and follow the rule, it’s way less likely that kids will get bullied or assaulted in those meetings with somebody else. |
Anonymous
What a great question. An IC helps to choreograph the sex scene in order to meet the director's vision while also keeping actors and crew safe. So very similar to a stunt coordinator but with intimacy. The IC is not just there to protect an actress from a lecherous costar or director (though, yes, that). They are also there to make sure everyone there is comfortable with how the scene will be filmed. That doesn't just mean comfort with the sexual content. It might mean literal physical comfort while filming a scene in an awkward location. It could mean mental comfort if the scene includes anything violent or that could trigger someone who has experienced sexual violence in the past. The IC can also help crew understand how to handle the awkwardness of filming a scene where the actors may be nude or close to nude, even letting people know where to look when not rolling or how to give physical space to an actor who is in a highly exposed or awkward position. Sex scenes are awkward to film for everyone. It's mildly embarrassing even for the experienced crew on hand, and an intimacy coordianator who is good at their job can help ease that awkwardness by providing instruction, support, noticing and addressing issues before they become problems, and just being sensitive to the content of the scene. Everyone else in the scene has other, important jobs to do -- getting the right angle, lighting the scene just so, staying in character, bringing out a specific emotion in an actor, ensuring storyboards and scripts are followed, etc. The IC can let people do all those jobs while taking care of consent issues and certain mechanics around the on screen intimacy. Yes I would want one even if I felt 100% comfortable with my costar and director, because for all I know there is someone on set (including my costar) who has a history with sexual violence or who feels deeply uncomfortable with something in the scene, and I'd want them to have whatever support they need. This seems like a no brainer to me. |
Anonymous
Hence the editing room newbie. |
Anonymous
Nope. Optional. But if I were a women I would want the “pillow”. Forgot what they call it but it’s available. |
Anonymous
You sound like a toddler. |
Anonymous
| It would depend entirely on the actor. If they were respectful and professional, I wouldn’t. If they crossed boundaries/were creepy, yes. |
Anonymous
| Why WOULDNT you want one? Unless you’re like OP and you’re trying to be the creepy one who is turned on by being in the scene and you don’t want an IC there to ruin the vibe or something. Don’t you realize how creepy you sound OP |
Anonymous
| Yes, they are needed and required not only to keep everyone comfortable, but to keep everyone safe—not just physically and emotionally safe, but safe legally and with workplace reputation. |
Anonymous
| How does one become an IC? |
Anonymous
ok sure. But, now even the thought of someone else grosses me out. Also, IRL, I only meet ugly people. There is no one who looks like Henry Cavill. |
Anonymous
There are a lot of other people involved in producing the scene than the person you are making out with on camera. |
Anonymous
They will want an IC to protect themselves from you. |
Anonymous
I support the concept of IC but I imagine it's just another grift, probably lots of nepotism. Like the weapon export for the Alec Baldwin movie. In a few years we'll start to hear about creepers getting hired as IC and being sued for sexual harassment. |
Anonymous
Are you 12? |
Anonymous
Interesting that someone as crass as you is a germaphobe. You honestly sound both vile and juvenile. |