2 texts in DH phone

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We have not been intimate in a decade (his choice, he's heavily medicated) so I will be pretty mad if he's stepping out. We do have a dog.

He’s got go be getting it somewhere, right?

[Anonymous]

Spam.

Why are you going through his phone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We have not been intimate in a decade (his choice, he's heavily medicated) so I will be pretty mad if he's stepping out. We do have a dog.

He’s got go be getting it somewhere, right?

According to him, no. The medication has wiped out any desire. And I'm not hideous fwiw

[Anonymous]

I get spam like that frequently. In the beginning I responded because I thought someone had texted me by accident. Invariably that would turn into the person trying to engage me in conversation and sometimes sending me a pic of a young Asian woman. It’s the start of a scam.

I probably get more of them because I responded a few times before I realized what was going on. Same thing might have happened to your dh.

[Anonymous]

Spam

[Anonymous]

I got 3 of those this week. But my husband doesn't go through my phone or micromanage my communication or suspect I am up to no good. Sounds like a pretty bad relationship dynamic you have going.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We have not been intimate in a decade (his choice, he's heavily medicated) so I will be pretty mad if he's stepping out. We do have a dog.

If he's got a mental or physical illness such that he needs "heavy" meds and cannot perform with you, then it's HIGHLY unlikely that he would be successful with someone else.

But your stalking and prying are signs that your attitude is problematic as well, so perhaps you need to deal with that. Maybe you should get a divorce? Open up the marriage? Your behavior shows that the current situation is not working for you. You owe it to both of you to discuss options at this point.

[Anonymous]

I got a ‘u home?’ This morning

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We have not been intimate in a decade (his choice, he's heavily medicated) so I will be pretty mad if he's stepping out. We do have a dog.

Can he just not get it up or what? What’s stopping him from oral?

[Anonymous]

I get spam texts all the time but never about a cute dog.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:2 texts, 2 different numbers (no names) in DH's phone...
One said: how are you?
The other one: What a cute dog! What's her name?

Is it just spam or should I be concerned? Should i ask DH (even though he could lie)

We all get these random texts, nobody gets suspicious of their spouses, unless they are already suspicious of them. .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get bs spam texts that sound just like that all the time. I assume it is some scammer, but might just be a wrong number. I usually block and delete in case it is some scammer. All that's to say, go ahead and ask, but an "I don't know" isn't necessarily a lie.

+1
Are you coming to dinner?
I am visiting Maryland..
And so on.

[Anonymous]

It's spam.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get bs spam texts that sound just like that all the time. I assume it is some scammer, but might just be a wrong number. I usually block and delete in case it is some scammer. All that's to say, go ahead and ask, but an "I don't know" isn't necessarily a lie.

+ 1 I get 2–5 a week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get bs spam texts that sound just like that all the time. I assume it is some scammer, but might just be a wrong number. I usually block and delete in case it is some scammer. All that's to say, go ahead and ask, but an "I don't know" isn't necessarily a lie.

+1
Are you coming to dinner?
I am visiting Maryland..
And so on.

I get "how are u" most but a couple of times I got "I'm visiting [insert my city], will you be around?" And "is this [insert mine or someone else's name]"
I'm fairly sure a friend or relative will say who they are