How often does college child call? How much do they rely on you?

Both of mine in college text every day (pretty much throughout the day) call several times a week, FaceTime all together weekly. They still need family emotional support. I am glad I can provide that.

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10/15/2025 06:00

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Anonymous

I think the frequent communication is a girl thing.My sons were more like 1X each week. If I iniated the text, they would usually respond

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10/15/2025 06:42

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Anonymous

My oldest is a senior so I will be facing this next year. Not sure how much she’ll call, but I think a lot. I will say that I’ve purposefully not given her advice every time she’s texted asking for immediate help. It’s okay to wait to respond to that text, more often than not they’ll handle it without you and then later when they tell you how they handled it, you can compliment their problem solving skills, which will make them more confident about solving problems without you more often.

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10/15/2025 06:58

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Anonymous

DD is a sophomore. FT/texted every day. It was exhausting but most of the time I think she was lonely and just needed to touch base. This year she’s feeling more confident and comfortable and we have less contact—maybe a text every day but FT once or twice a week. She always initiates the FT and we give her space.

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10/15/2025 07:20

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Anonymous

1st kid/dd - no phone calls at all but pretty frequent texting, fun stuff as well as stress texting
2nd kid/ds- also no calls and fewer texts. When he’s home he defaults to me for everything along the “how do I…” line so glad he does seem able to problem solve!

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10/15/2025 08:27

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Anonymous

Kids text daily.

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10/15/2025 09:53

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Anonymous

Anonymous wrote:DD is a sophomore. FT/texted every day. It was exhausting but most of the time I think she was lonely and just needed to touch base. This year she’s feeling more confident and comfortable and we have less contact—maybe a text every day but FT once or twice a week. She always initiates the FT and we give her space.

My dd always initiates as well, and I do find it exhausting. It's usually after my work day, I look forward to going to the gym, relaxing...Then she drops her problems onto me, her bad days. None of it is very big: stuff like such and such customer was rude today, I gave a wrong answer in class, my bike tire is deflated...So it's her anxiety dump time and she can go on and on. She did that in high school too but after her dumping we had some nice time together cooking, shopping, chatting, watching tv. This is the dumping without the nice time, so I find it difficult to deal with.

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10/15/2025 21:43

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Anonymous

Freshman texts daily but it’s rarely (maybe every 1-2 weeks with a question). It’s typically a picture from her day or random text. Calls about once a week