When to send save the date for destination wedding

[Anonymous]

I got one 9 months in advance and it was in the USA.

[Anonymous]

9-12 months is customary for destination wedding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would you tell others that you received a STD when you know they didn’t?

If they haven’t received an i cite it’s none of their business what the details are. You’d be a complete ass to tell them anything.

These are family members and close family friends. They are people who would expect to be invited.

Family member has verbally told and invited some work colleagues and friends but not family!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would you tell others that you received a STD when you know they didn’t?

If they haven’t received an i cite it’s none of their business what the details are. You’d be a complete ass to tell them anything.

These are family members and close family friends. They are people who would expect to be invited.

Family member has verbally told and invited some work colleagues and friends but not family!!!!

1. Hmm…you don’t get an invitation because you expect to be invited. You get invited because the bride and groom decide to invite you. Work colleagues and friends are likely higher up on their list than other extended family members and friends of their parents aka close family friends. It’s unlikely they will be invited. They may also be choosing not to invite people who they think will not attend or who will put pressure on other family members to pay for their trip.

2. The bride and groom are doing some weird B list thing. They have limited space so they created an A list and B list.

3. They don’t want the extended family and family friends to come but also don’t want to listen to your harping on how could you not invite aunt Edna and cousin Eddie or your mothers best friend etc. They are planning on sending that batch out very late so they don’t come.

[Anonymous]

IMHO, destination weddings need at least 6 months notice. I don’t know why anyone would choose to only send some people a save the date and not others.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why would you tell others that you received a STD when you know they didn’t?

If they haven’t received an i cite it’s none of their business what the details are. You’d be a complete ass to tell them anything.

These are family members and close family friends. They are people who would expect to be invited.

Family member has verbally told and invited some work colleagues and friends but not family!!!!

1. Hmm…you don’t get an invitation because you expect to be invited. You get invited because the bride and groom decide to invite you. Work colleagues and friends are likely higher up on their list than other extended family members and friends of their parents aka close family friends. It’s unlikely they will be invited. They may also be choosing not to invite people who they think will not attend or who will put pressure on other family members to pay for their trip.

2. The bride and groom are doing some weird B list thing. They have limited space so they created an A list and B list.

3. They don’t want the extended family and family friends to come but also don’t want to listen to your harping on how could you not invite aunt Edna and cousin Eddie or your mothers best friend etc. They are planning on sending that batch out very late so they don’t come.

Op here. I think you are right. The family friends and family are the ones they don’t hang out with regularly. I guess they are not getting a save the date and will get an invitation later?

We are part of the A list and got a save the date almost immediately. DH is part of the wedding party.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would you tell others that you received a STD when you know they didn’t?

If they haven’t received an i cite it’s none of their business what the details are. You’d be a complete ass to tell them anything.

These are family members and close family friends. They are people who would expect to be invited.

Family member has verbally told and invited some work colleagues and friends but not family!!!!

1. Hmm…you don’t get an invitation because you expect to be invited. You get invited because the bride and groom decide to invite you. Work colleagues and friends are likely higher up on their list than other extended family members and friends of their parents aka close family friends. It’s unlikely they will be invited. They may also be choosing not to invite people who they think will not attend or who will put pressure on other family members to pay for their trip.

2. The bride and groom are doing some weird B list thing. They have limited space so they created an A list and B list.

3. They don’t want the extended family and family friends to come but also don’t want to listen to your harping on how could you not invite aunt Edna and cousin Eddie or your mothers best friend etc. They are planning on sending that batch out very late so they don’t come.

Op here. I think you are right. The family friends and family are the ones they don’t hang out with regularly. I guess they are not getting a save the date and will get an invitation later?

We are part of the A list and got a save the date almost immediately. DH is part of the wedding party.

They aren't inviting those people. This isn't that hard to understand. They don't want these "family friends" who they aren't close to. It's not your wedding, butt out.

[Anonymous]

Doesn't matter when you send it, I am not going to your destination wedding.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would you tell others that you received a STD when you know they didn’t?

If they haven’t received an i cite it’s none of their business what the details are. You’d be a complete ass to tell them anything.

These are family members and close family friends. They are people who would expect to be invited.

Family member has verbally told and invited some work colleagues and friends but not family!!!!

1. Hmm…you don’t get an invitation because you expect to be invited. You get invited because the bride and groom decide to invite you. Work colleagues and friends are likely higher up on their list than other extended family members and friends of their parents aka close family friends. It’s unlikely they will be invited. They may also be choosing not to invite people who they think will not attend or who will put pressure on other family members to pay for their trip.

2. The bride and groom are doing some weird B list thing. They have limited space so they created an A list and B list.

3. They don’t want the extended family and family friends to come but also don’t want to listen to your harping on how could you not invite aunt Edna and cousin Eddie or your mothers best friend etc. They are planning on sending that batch out very late so they don’t come.

Op here. I think you are right. The family friends and family are the ones they don’t hang out with regularly. I guess they are not getting a save the date and will get an invitation later?

We are part of the A list and got a save the date almost immediately. DH is part of the wedding party.

They aren't inviting those people. This isn't that hard to understand. They don't want these "family friends" who they aren't close to. It's not your wedding, butt out.

Everyone knows they are getting married. It isn’t about me butting out. Mother of groom, father of groom, uncle and cousin expect an invitation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would you tell others that you received a STD when you know they didn’t?

If they haven’t received an i cite it’s none of their business what the details are. You’d be a complete ass to tell them anything.

These are family members and close family friends. They are people who would expect to be invited.

Family member has verbally told and invited some work colleagues and friends but not family!!!!

OMG!!!!

[Anonymous]

You said it yourself. They don’t want to invite those people. How does this concern you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would you tell others that you received a STD when you know they didn’t?

If they haven’t received an i cite it’s none of their business what the details are. You’d be a complete ass to tell them anything.

These are family members and close family friends. They are people who would expect to be invited.

Family member has verbally told and invited some work colleagues and friends but not family!!!!

1. Hmm…you don’t get an invitation because you expect to be invited. You get invited because the bride and groom decide to invite you. Work colleagues and friends are likely higher up on their list than other extended family members and friends of their parents aka close family friends. It’s unlikely they will be invited. They may also be choosing not to invite people who they think will not attend or who will put pressure on other family members to pay for their trip.

2. The bride and groom are doing some weird B list thing. They have limited space so they created an A list and B list.

3. They don’t want the extended family and family friends to come but also don’t want to listen to your harping on how could you not invite aunt Edna and cousin Eddie or your mothers best friend etc. They are planning on sending that batch out very late so they don’t come.

Op here. I think you are right. The family friends and family are the ones they don’t hang out with regularly. I guess they are not getting a save the date and will get an invitation later?

We are part of the A list and got a save the date almost immediately. DH is part of the wedding party.

They aren't inviting those people. This isn't that hard to understand. They don't want these "family friends" who they aren't close to. It's not your wedding, butt out.

Everyone knows they are getting married. It isn’t about me butting out. Mother of groom, father of groom, uncle and cousin expect an invitation.

Wait, they didn’t send their parents the stupid save the date?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would you tell others that you received a STD when you know they didn’t?

If they haven’t received an i cite it’s none of their business what the details are. You’d be a complete ass to tell them anything.

These are family members and close family friends. They are people who would expect to be invited.

Family member has verbally told and invited some work colleagues and friends but not family!!!!

1. Hmm…you don’t get an invitation because you expect to be invited. You get invited because the bride and groom decide to invite you. Work colleagues and friends are likely higher up on their list than other extended family members and friends of their parents aka close family friends. It’s unlikely they will be invited. They may also be choosing not to invite people who they think will not attend or who will put pressure on other family members to pay for their trip.

2. The bride and groom are doing some weird B list thing. They have limited space so they created an A list and B list.

3. They don’t want the extended family and family friends to come but also don’t want to listen to your harping on how could you not invite aunt Edna and cousin Eddie or your mothers best friend etc. They are planning on sending that batch out very late so they don’t come.

Op here. I think you are right. The family friends and family are the ones they don’t hang out with regularly. I guess they are not getting a save the date and will get an invitation later?

We are part of the A list and got a save the date almost immediately. DH is part of the wedding party.

They aren't inviting those people. This isn't that hard to understand. They don't want these "family friends" who they aren't close to. It's not your wedding, butt out.

Everyone knows they are getting married. It isn’t about me butting out. Mother of groom, father of groom, uncle and cousin expect an invitation.

Wait, they didn’t send their parents the stupid save the date?

That is correct.

The parents are divorced. Not great relationship with parents or uncle, cousins, etc. There are also family friends - parents closest friends as well as people he grew up with. All these people would be upset if they weren’t invited.

[Anonymous]

I don’t see sending parents a save the date, presumably they already know.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why would you tell others that you received a STD when you know they didn’t?

If they haven’t received an i cite it’s none of their business what the details are. You’d be a complete ass to tell them anything.

These are family members and close family friends. They are people who would expect to be invited.

Family member has verbally told and invited some work colleagues and friends but not family!!!!

1. Hmm…you don’t get an invitation because you expect to be invited. You get invited because the bride and groom decide to invite you. Work colleagues and friends are likely higher up on their list than other extended family members and friends of their parents aka close family friends. It’s unlikely they will be invited. They may also be choosing not to invite people who they think will not attend or who will put pressure on other family members to pay for their trip.

2. The bride and groom are doing some weird B list thing. They have limited space so they created an A list and B list.

3. They don’t want the extended family and family friends to come but also don’t want to listen to your harping on how could you not invite aunt Edna and cousin Eddie or your mothers best friend etc. They are planning on sending that batch out very late so they don’t come.

Op here. I think you are right. The family friends and family are the ones they don’t hang out with regularly. I guess they are not getting a save the date and will get an invitation later?

We are part of the A list and got a save the date almost immediately. DH is part of the wedding party.

They aren't inviting those people. This isn't that hard to understand. They don't want these "family friends" who they aren't close to. It's not your wedding, butt out.

Everyone knows they are getting married. It isn’t about me butting out. Mother of groom, father of groom, uncle and cousin expect an invitation.

Wait, they didn’t send their parents the stupid save the date?

That is correct.

The parents are divorced. Not great relationship with parents or uncle, cousins, etc. There are also family friends - parents closest friends as well as people he grew up with. All these people would be upset if they weren’t invited.

Guess they aren't invited, ouch.