Low-stakes neighbor issue

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Umm....why don't you ask him about it?

How is this not the obvious answer?

He comes over for dinner and say "Hey Bob, yesterday I saw you having some sort of heated exchange with Larla. What was that about?

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[Anonymous]

Yes, if someone is imperfect, do not investigate, do not assume the best of a friend, cut them out immediately. /s

[Anonymous]

Bob is the boss

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, if someone is imperfect, do not investigate, do not assume the best of a friend, cut them out immediately. /s

Imperfect in the context of neighbors is letting your lawn get a little shaggy. It is not screaming in the face of a longtime, smaller, older neighbor.

Have better standards yall.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, if someone is imperfect, do not investigate, do not assume the best of a friend, cut them out immediately. /s

Strange

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Umm....why don't you ask him about it?

How is this not the obvious answer?

He comes over for dinner and say "Hey Bob, yesterday I saw you having some sort of heated exchange with Larla. What was that about?

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I’d absolutely ask. I’d probably casually ask nice neighbor about it when I next see her as well. And draw my own conclusions. If I didn’t like the conclusion I came to, I’d slowly fade this guy out of my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Everything okay with Sara? We could all hear you screaming."

Maybe Sara was giving him crap about the horrible tenants and his ego got bruised so he got too emotional.

OP again. There is literally nothing the neighbor could have done short of physical violence or intentional destruction of property to justify public top-of-lungs screaming. Bruised ego? Too emotional? What sad, low expectations you have.

Really- nothing? What if Sara was driving too fast and carelessly and almost ran over a child- and didn’t seem to care? What if Sara damaged his property in a very costly way & tried to cover it up?

Now I’m not saying that is super likely. Odds are strong that Bob is just a jerk. But: at least ask. I can definitely think of some instances where I’d forgive someone for losing their patience and yelling. Also: you think Sara is nice but doesn’t sound like you know her very well either. I would not jump to any conclusions before asking what happened.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are they still receiving mail in your town and why are you allowing them to use your address? I sense tax fraud or residency fraud for the purposes of tuition or homestead tax credit or something similar. Don't be a party to that.

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I knew Bob as the landlord was the problem and not the "problem renter" as soon as OP said Bob still tries to receive important mail at the house he owns that the renter has to deal with.

[Anonymous]

I would ask him about his outburst. You saw his over the top reaction with your own eyes. I would be interested in his response. Will he be embarrassed or deep dive into the blame game?

[Anonymous]

MYOB. Be friendly with him, and don't pry.

[Anonymous]

OP: You do not know the facts or, at least, Bob's side. Ask Bob why Bob lost control.

[Anonymous]

And let us know what happens!

[Anonymous]

Maybe the person had been banging his wife…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe the person had been banging his wife…

Yep. And that’s why they had to move away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is easy. Carry on like nothing happened. Bob doesn't even live nearby. Both sides of the story may or may not come out. After that you can takes sides or not.
Every man has a breaking point. Nobody knows what Bob is going through.
You had no idea that even the nicest people can lose it? I'd be worried about Bob if he has never behaved like that before. Perhaps even the neighbor is when they go home and have time to think about it.

Okay so just so you know, this is an important point. People who sometimes "lose it" often have this belief that it happens to everyone or anyone pushed the way that they were pushed would have yelled. But actually, it's not true. Lots of us would never angrily yell at someone except for like, in a moment of immediate physical peril. But a neighbor? Never. I would sue you before I yelled at you. Seriously. I mean I don't sue my neighbors either, I'm just saying that yelling would not happen even if there were a serious conflict.

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