Child came home distraught over teacher who was attacked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Missing car?

Probably a toy car?

It was a little car for a STEM project they have been working on in class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to email the school and say that your daughter fears for her safety. Start that paper train now. This kid will be back and this will happen again. You need to keep saying your daughter feels unsafe to get him or her moved to a different classroom. Also get the other parents to email. Its the beginning of the year - do not wait to take action on this or this will be like this all year.

But she doesn't (reasonably) fear for her safety. The teacher was certainly at risk, but nothing in the OP suggests that the other students were physically at risk. OP needs to talk to her anxious child about how we are all struggling with things, that this other child probably also has anxiety that manifests differently, and that evacuating the classroom was how the school keeps the students safe while he is learning better tools.

If a child is hitting, throwing objects and attacking a teacher, of course the rest of the classroom’s safety is at risk. That partly is why they are evacuated. There is a very real possibility of either getting hurt in the process of an attack on the teacher or the child hurting another student.

[Anonymous]

I would contact the school board every time this happens

[Anonymous]

This brings back bad memories of both our kids being in classrooms like that in grade school. With the chair throwers and the threat makers. OP, ALL kids are anxious going to school these days because the adults look the other way. We have all the power and we refuse to deal with the rampant bullying that is happening in our schools. Everybody is afraid of the kid who acts out, and the kid fears nobody. We need to turn that around.

[Anonymous]

^But we won't turn it around, because that would mean dealing with the pain of working the problem and being brave enough to take the blowback. You can't make it better until you're willing to work the problem. It would require legislative change as well.

[Anonymous]

I would get your kid out of that classroom and if other classes are the same then out of that school.

-A mom of three kids in a public school which thankfully still suspends kids from school (even kindergarteners. And yes, one of my kids is SN and no, that’s doesn’t mean he can terrorize a classroom. Public school has gone way too far in ‘accommodating’ behavior issues that deprive other students of their right to education.

[Anonymous]

My kid had a kid in her 2nd grade classroom that threw chairs at the teacher (and once hit her), choked kids, threatened kids, etc. My kid was never a target and surprising unphased by it, but it was horrible and affected the entire class until he got properly assessed (parents resisted) and got a 1-on-1 half the time. Things improved markedly after that. You need to push for assessment & proper supports for the kid. That way you can't be painted as the bad guy, but your kid gets protected. Everything in writing starting now.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You need to email the school and say that your daughter fears for her safety. Start that paper train now. This kid will be back and this will happen again. You need to keep saying your daughter feels unsafe to get him or her moved to a different classroom. Also get the other parents to email. Its the beginning of the year - do not wait to take action on this or this will be like this all year.

But she doesn't (reasonably) fear for her safety. The teacher was certainly at risk, but nothing in the OP suggests that the other students were physically at risk. OP needs to talk to her anxious child about how we are all struggling with things, that this other child probably also has anxiety that manifests differently, and that evacuating the classroom was how the school keeps the students safe while he is learning better tools.

Found the parent in denial about their own child.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry OP! I'm 38 and still remember a child hitting my teacher. He beat her with a desk and pinned her underneath it in 2nd grade.

I also doubt the child was suspended. My dd had a kid who brought down a bookshelf on another kid (not a tall bookshelf, just a 3 or 4ft tall one that was acting like a room divider) and threw books on him. Kid was back in the class the next week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a 9yr old, who does have anxiety. Today a classmate became upset about a missing “car” and attacked their teacher. He grabbed her hair and then began hitting her with a white board. He then threaten to kill everyone in the class if he didn’t get his car back. The class was evacuated but it took about 10-15min to get the child off the teacher. My child does not want to go to school tomorrow. She knows that child is suspended, but is convinced something like that could happened again because according to her there are other crazy kids.” I don’t even know how to navigate this.

It sounds like your child attends a very bad schools with kids who suffer abuse at home. I feel for those children, but would not want my kids in the same learning environment. Especially of your daughter says there are other kids like this. If you can afford to move or put her in private school, do it. Don't sacrifice your kid for 'the greater good' like folks on here advocate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to email the school and say that your daughter fears for her safety. Start that paper train now. This kid will be back and this will happen again. You need to keep saying your daughter feels unsafe to get him or her moved to a different classroom. Also get the other parents to email. Its the beginning of the year - do not wait to take action on this or this will be like this all year.

But she doesn't (reasonably) fear for her safety. The teacher was certainly at risk, but nothing in the OP suggests that the other students were physically at risk. OP needs to talk to her anxious child about how we are all struggling with things, that this other child probably also has anxiety that manifests differently, and that evacuating the classroom was how the school keeps the students safe while he is learning better tools.

Gaslighting a nine year old and telling her to ignore her instincts? Completely irresponsible advice. You think a fourth grader (probably 60-80 lbs) who holds a teacher by her hair for 10-15 min isn’t a threat to a fellow student? If you said that to any kid you’d lose all credibility and with good reason. Op should absolutely listen to her daughter and get her out of that classroom by any means necessary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to email the school and say that your daughter fears for her safety. Start that paper train now. This kid will be back and this will happen again. You need to keep saying your daughter feels unsafe to get him or her moved to a different classroom. Also get the other parents to email. Its the beginning of the year - do not wait to take action on this or this will be like this all year.

But she doesn't (reasonably) fear for her safety. The teacher was certainly at risk, but nothing in the OP suggests that the other students were physically at risk. OP needs to talk to her anxious child about how we are all struggling with things, that this other child probably also has anxiety that manifests differently, and that evacuating the classroom was how the school keeps the students safe while he is learning better tools.

When a child sees that the adult in the room is unable to protect herself, it’s a reasonable assumption for the child to make that the teacher cannot protect them either. A successful attack on a teacher tells the kids that they are also not safe.

[Anonymous]

I’d honestly make a ruckus to the administration, and if the child doesn’t leave the classroom, I’d pull my kid out of that school. The administration is clearly not supporting their teachers.

[Anonymous]

The problem is, this child is likely on an IEP. If the behaviors is linked to the disability(which it is easy to say it is) than the child cannot be suspended.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The problem is, this child is likely on an IEP. If the behaviors is linked to the disability(which it is easy to say it is) than the child cannot be suspended.

This is true, but OP should still send a factual email detailing what her child reported, and the impact on the child. Teachers/administrators, in general, do not want kids with sky-high behavioral needs in mainstream classrooms, because it is bad for literally everyone involved (the impacted student, classmates, and the teacher). Emails like the one OP should send will help build a case for a different placement.