Child came home distraught over teacher who was attacked.

[Anonymous]

I have a 9yr old, who does have anxiety. Today a classmate became upset about a missing “car” and attacked their teacher. He grabbed her hair and then began hitting her with a white board. He then threaten to kill everyone in the class if he didn’t get his car back. The class was evacuated but it took about 10-15min to get the child off the teacher. My child does not want to go to school tomorrow. She knows that child is suspended, but is convinced something like that could happened again because according to her there are other crazy kids.” I don’t even know how to navigate this.

[Anonymous]

My sympathy. That sounds traumatic for all involved.

[Anonymous]

You need to email the school and tell them this. Ask what counseling they have lined up to help the children who witnessed this as your child is too scared to attend school. Ask what steps they are taking to protect the students from seeing other students attack people. Then call late morning to follow up on your email.

I would also email the teacher and let them know how concerned your child is for their safety and wellbeing and that your whole family is sorry this happened, and hope she recovers swiftly and thoroughly, etc.

[Anonymous]

Actually she doesn’t know that the student was suspended. It’s actually unlikely that the student was suspended since it is very hard to suspend 9 year olds now.

[Anonymous]

Missing car?

[Anonymous]

You need to email the school and say that your daughter fears for her safety. Start that paper train now. This kid will be back and this will happen again. You need to keep saying your daughter feels unsafe to get him or her moved to a different classroom. Also get the other parents to email. Its the beginning of the year - do not wait to take action on this or this will be like this all year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Missing car?

Probably a toy car?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to email the school and tell them this. Ask what counseling they have lined up to help the children who witnessed this as your child is too scared to attend school. Ask what steps they are taking to protect the students from seeing other students attack people. Then call late morning to follow up on your email.

I would also email the teacher and let them know how concerned your child is for their safety and wellbeing and that your whole family is sorry this happened, and hope she recovers swiftly and thoroughly, etc.

Yes, this. Start the paper trail. Ask for what your child needs. Be demanding.

[Anonymous]

I am so sorry. I’m sorry for you and for the class. My daughter had a violent and destructive child in her class for two years until I told the school never to place her in the same class as him.

Unfortunately, I think your son is right that it will happen again. It’s going to happen several more times and the poor teacher won’t be able to defend herself and this child’s behavior will just continue to happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to email the school and say that your daughter fears for her safety. Start that paper train now. This kid will be back and this will happen again. You need to keep saying your daughter feels unsafe to get him or her moved to a different classroom. Also get the other parents to email. Its the beginning of the year - do not wait to take action on this or this will be like this all year.

But she doesn't (reasonably) fear for her safety. The teacher was certainly at risk, but nothing in the OP suggests that the other students were physically at risk. OP needs to talk to her anxious child about how we are all struggling with things, that this other child probably also has anxiety that manifests differently, and that evacuating the classroom was how the school keeps the students safe while he is learning better tools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to email the school and say that your daughter fears for her safety. Start that paper train now. This kid will be back and this will happen again. You need to keep saying your daughter feels unsafe to get him or her moved to a different classroom. Also get the other parents to email. Its the beginning of the year - do not wait to take action on this or this will be like this all year.

But she doesn't (reasonably) fear for her safety. The teacher was certainly at risk, but nothing in the OP suggests that the other students were physically at risk. OP needs to talk to her anxious child about how we are all struggling with things, that this other child probably also has anxiety that manifests differently, and that evacuating the classroom was how the school keeps the students safe while he is learning better tools.

Not OP, but are you kidding me? A kid who will attack an adult is quite possibly going to attack another kid. I would absolutely be comfortable saying my kid fears for their safety in that situation (and my kids would). I wouldn't encourage the fear, but I wouldn't minimize it either.

Sit back for a second and imagine watching a classmate hit someone with a handheld white board. That's like taking a very thin wooden plank and beating someone with it. That's insanity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to email the school and say that your daughter fears for her safety. Start that paper train now. This kid will be back and this will happen again. You need to keep saying your daughter feels unsafe to get him or her moved to a different classroom. Also get the other parents to email. Its the beginning of the year - do not wait to take action on this or this will be like this all year.

But she doesn't (reasonably) fear for her safety. The teacher was certainly at risk, but nothing in the OP suggests that the other students were physically at risk. OP needs to talk to her anxious child about how we are all struggling with things, that this other child probably also has anxiety that manifests differently, and that evacuating the classroom was how the school keeps the students safe while he is learning better tools.

You don't think the child threatening to kill people wouldn't make the other children fear for their safety? Is there something wrong with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Missing car?

lol. That’s the first thing I wondered.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to email the school and say that your daughter fears for her safety. Start that paper train now. This kid will be back and this will happen again. You need to keep saying your daughter feels unsafe to get him or her moved to a different classroom. Also get the other parents to email. Its the beginning of the year - do not wait to take action on this or this will be like this all year.

But she doesn't (reasonably) fear for her safety. The teacher was certainly at risk, but nothing in the OP suggests that the other students were physically at risk. OP needs to talk to her anxious child about how we are all struggling with things, that this other child probably also has anxiety that manifests differently, and that evacuating the classroom was how the school keeps the students safe while he is learning better tools.

You don't think the child threatening to kill people wouldn't make the other children fear for their safety? Is there something wrong with you?

The kid is presumably also 9. It is exceedingly unlikely that he has the means to kill anyone. I'm not doubting that it was scary, but talking about how the school can keep everyone safe is more productive than demonizing the kid. (If this was high school, or even middle school, it would be different.) Learning to distinguish between realistic and unrealistic threats is a key skill, especially for someone with anxiety.

[Anonymous]

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