How to deal with ADHD co worker who gets testy/aggressive at times?
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Anonymous
| Try calling him instead of emailing. I had a colleague like this who was also really passive aggressive and wrote incredibly snarky emails. He did much better in person or on the phone. Ultimately though I was thrilled when he retired. |
Anonymous
Correct. Op sounds judgey and like she has communications issues. Don’t project that onto this poor guy. |
Anonymous
Not op but you have reading comprehension issues. |
Anonymous
🤔 |
Anonymous
A medical condition that OP is guessing at!!! (Unless he told you has this or you’ve diagnosed it) |
Anonymous
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Call instead of email
Only ask one question at a time and make it a very clear question. Minimize ambiguity. Don't be too nice, he might not understand your question through all the fluff. Give him time to prepare when possible |
Anonymous
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To counter the above, email is good because it leaves a trail of all the times you gave correct information that was misread.
But I do agree that you shouldn't be too nice. If he is being direct to the point of being testy or aggressive, then you should likewise be direct and to the point. Don't bother being flowery. OP, if you're not willing to go to his manager, then you have to deal with it yourself. Stop spoon feeding him. Just give him the instructions and leave it to him to either complete the task or not. If he complains that you are not helping, then you can show the email chains where you pointed him in the right direction. |
Anonymous
| Also leave ADHD or anything else completely out of this. Deal with the reality of the situation. Don't speculate on why or how. |