Could you tell when you were younger that your parents hated being a parent? How obvious?
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Anonymous
No, I didn’t hate her. However, I did learn to hate her as I got older. It took me years of therapy to resolve those years. My mom was an unhappy person who took her own unhappiness on me. My younger brother didn’t receive the same treatment. My parents divorced when I was around 18 and my dad said that she was jealous of me. |
Anonymous
| My mother said I was cute until I learned how to talk. |
Anonymous
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I figured out that my father didn't want kids when I was around 8. He never wanted anything to do with us , ate our food off our plates, and basically acted like we were competition for my mom's attention. Never in my life did my father say good night to us, read to us, help us with homework, or take us anywhere solo.
If this ever comes up my mom gets very prickly and says "But he was a good provider." As opposed to my husband who doesn't make enough money for her standards but is a hands on dad. |
Anonymous
Sorry to read that...childhood is tough when parents aren't engaged ...sad. |
Anonymous
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In my 30s when we were trying to have kids.
We were middle class so I occasionally had a baby sitter when under 9, but after age 9 I was at home by myself when my parents were working. Got myself to the bus stop, came home by myself, did no after school activities because there was no transportation. My parents loved me but were too exhausted to take care of me properly. |
Anonymous
My dad also competed with me for my mom's attention, even as a baby, as well as in everything else. I've never heard anyone else have that issue, but it's been like that my whole life. He's always competed with me over everything. |
Anonymous
Grown ass adults aren’t supposed to return the same energy as young teen middle school students. I can’t believe this has to be explained to you. |
Anonymous
How the H is that funny, PP? |
Anonymous
Prob around 12-13 age range when my mom lost her temper and pretty much said it straight forwardly to me!  I get it though. I want to yell that with my 13 DD and 15 DS these days too now!!! LOL
Parenting is no joke hard, esp these days. I'm not sure how any parent says it is not and I swear they are lying if they don't admit some days it does suck completely and yeah, they hate it too. |
Anonymous
Because I don’t believe it. |
Anonymous
They were never the maid. They had one for a while and I then had to do the laundry, cleaning and sometimes cooking, they never scheduled me anything and went on vacations without us, rarely drive me places. Never a moral support and any money spent has been thrown up for 40+ years even though I had no opinion or say. I do thing with my kids and family very differently. |
Anonymous
And, they were clear they did not want me. |
Anonymous
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When I was around 6 or 8 years old. My mom complained all the time about how hard it was to me a mom for us kids. She also told me I was unplanned, and that the doctor said it was okay to just let me cry and not attend to my needs as a baby. I grew up knowing this.
Later when I was a mom, I realized how terrible it was for her to tell me that, as a child or even if I had been an adult. But it helped me understand why I had been messed up in relationships, why I never felt I was adequate etc. |
Anonymous
| My father used to brag about the fact that he didn’t know how old we were or when our birthdays were. My mother said it was because he was too busy being a doctor. My friends all thought my parents were divorced because they never met my dad. He was too busy to go to drop us off at college. I remember asking how come Bill Clinton wasn’t too busy to drop his kid at college but my father, a GP in a small town in the Midwest, was. |
Anonymous
| My mom told me she had the abortion scheduled but there was a snow storm and that's how i came to be |