“My husband is so hot!”

[Anonymous]

Maybe just respond with, “I’m glad you think so!” And leave it up to interpretation. Super weird to say that out loud.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ha! I’m single, but I am 100% the kind of person who would say stuff like that if I had a boyfriend/husband I found hot.

For me it’s mostly my personality, if I think my man is sexy I’m going to say it a lot. My girlfriends and I also tend to talk that way, we’re always discussing who we think is hot, if we find our men hot, etc. I try not to talk that way around people I know don’t also talk that way, but sometimes I slip up.

So you’re saying you’re insecure. It’s no wonder you’re single!

[Anonymous]

Keep it the bedroom, Marge!

[Anonymous]

You should enthusiastically agree, with details.

“He sure is! Those eyes just stare into your soul, and you could bounce a quarter off that ass. Plus his crooked smile….”with a dreamy sigh.

She won’t do it again.

[Anonymous]

I know my husband is hot so do most people that see him. When it is true there is no need to say anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should enthusiastically agree, with details.

“He sure is! Those eyes just stare into your soul, and you could bounce a quarter off that ass. Plus his crooked smile….”with a dreamy sigh.

She won’t do it again.

She will if she’s trolling for new swapping partners.

[Anonymous]

One time someone I know said this in front of her teenage daughter. I turned to the kid and said, Larla don't you agree your dad is super hot???

It is massively cringe. If your husband is really notably and exceptionally hot (and I hang around a lot of dads...it's unlikely!), people will notice without you saying it.

[Anonymous]

She actually means she's so hot b/c HE is with HER!! Couples like that really think everyone wants to be with them b/c of their looks and they fail to realize their personalities suck lol.

[Anonymous]

“What an odd thing to say.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She actually doesn’t find him attractive anymore, and wants outside validation that he is worth it.

Yes, I feel like most adults who speak this way are trying too hard. She's trying to convince herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ha! I’m single, but I am 100% the kind of person who would say stuff like that if I had a boyfriend/husband I found hot.

For me it’s mostly my personality, if I think my man is sexy I’m going to say it a lot. My girlfriends and I also tend to talk that way, we’re always discussing who we think is hot, if we find our men hot, etc. I try not to talk that way around people I know don’t also talk that way, but sometimes I slip up.

I did this in my 20s when we were all dating. But when it's a guy someone married and we're all friends and we're going to be hanging around together on the regular going forward? Skip it. It's juvenile. I don't really want to picture all the husbands/dads sitting around talking about which of the wives is hot and who looks good in their bathing suit. So I'm going to do them the courtesy of not doing it to them either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH and I have a couple we are friends with. We have kids around the same age and we get together with them a few times a year. Every single time we are together, the wife seems to go out of her way to make comments to me about how attractive she finds her husband. Like this last time, we were just standing watching the kids play and she looked over at her husband and mine talking across the pool and she’s like, “My husband is so f’ing hot.”

It’s so awkward. What does she want from me? Does she want ME to agree he’s hot? I don’t think he’s hot. He’s traditionally attractive, but I don’t find him “hot” and if I did, I sure wouldn’t broadcast it!

Other times she’ll be like, “Adam is such a DILF” or “Look at my sexy husband.”

These two are otherwise career professionals, UMC, especially her; she comes from money. It always sort of shocks me and feels so abrupt and out of place. I DO NOT think she’s suggesting anything like swinging, before anyone mentions that.

So what DOES she want from me?

How should I handle this going forward?

He lacks in other areas so she comforts herself with his alleged hotness?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She actually means she's so hot b/c HE is with HER!! Couples like that really think everyone wants to be with them b/c of their looks and they fail to realize their personalities suck lol.

I think it tells you that the person is constantly evaluating everyone's looks around them (men and women) and keeping score. And the inner thought balloon is coming out. My husband being hot reflects well on me (in their minds). So they notice Bob has gained a little weight, Jim is looking balder than last time, wow Rick toned up since last year, and then their eyes settle on their husband and this garbage comes out of their mouths.

[Anonymous]

Goose, you stud, take me to bed or lose me forever

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should enthusiastically agree, with details.

“He sure is! Those eyes just stare into your soul, and you could bounce a quarter off that ass. Plus his crooked smile….”with a dreamy sigh.

She won’t do it again.

She will if she’s trolling for new swapping partners.

Tell her you are interested and do not consent