But you’re upset because objectively she’s correct. That’s why it bothered you. |
This. They are disappointed that you settled. |
What did you do that made her upset? |
This. |
Doesn’t matter whether her reasons for being upset were valid or even if her comments were factually true - when a friendship gets to this point it’s over. Why would you want to stay friends with someone who says things that are hurtful and make you upset? |
This. I’d be done with it. I’m too old to deal with drama. |
I don’t understand this. I do not have fights with my friends. If someone wants to fight, they aren’t much fun to be around. |
If you're curious, this doesn't make you look good either. If the jab at your husband hurt you, perhaps there's some truth to it. |
Agreed. Sounds like you deserve each other. |
My Mom fights dirty like this. Because she's my mother, I hung on longer than I should have.
I should have dumped her years ago. There doesn't have to be drama. There doesn't have to be nastiness. People get to act they way they want. You get to decide if you want to spend time with them. |
It sounds like she has had issues about you prior but never addressed them w/you and now she is just pouring it all in…..!!
It would be hard to continue this relationship due to the fact that everything she told you now cannot be unsaid or unheard. If you stayed in this friendship wouldn’t you always be wondering if your “friend” was keeping something inside that she didn’t want to discuss now that might come out later on?? |
Op. Yeah, she’s argumentative. It’s fine. It was a fairly silly discussion but then turned ugly. And fwiw she didn’t insult my husband substantively as some people want to assume (lots of negative trolls on here, it seems) but she made a flip comment about me having my husband to run to. Just dumb. And yea, she’s not married and has said she’s lonely, and I know there’s some resentment that I can’t always be there for her because I’m married and have my family. She’s a dirty fighter. I’ve got to figure out if I can deal with it. I know it comes from a place of immaturity |
Well, perhaps I have more info than you. |
You both sound very immature. |
She’s not wrong in calling you lacking in the brains department. |