Had an argument with an old friend and they brought in lots of petty off topic jabs, including a dig about my husband

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and something I said that they thought was rude years ago. Plus she said I was ‘dumb’ and an ‘idiot’ (not ‘being dumb’ fwiw, although admittedly I don’t think she truly thinks I’m always dumb).

I think we could have gotten past the primary conflict fairly easily, but these random insults really threw me. Really petty and ugly.

Wwyd?

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How old are you? This is odd behavior for adults.

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Anonymous wrote:How old are you? This is odd behavior for adults.

Yeah, I agree. Late 40s.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like this argument just opened the flood gates for all the things that she doesn't like about you. If you probably look deep, it hasn't been that great of a friendship.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like this argument just opened the flood gates for all the things that she doesn't like about you. If you probably look deep, it hasn't been that great of a friendship.

Ironically I am not nearly as upset about anything she said about me, other than it was immature to bring up something from years ago that was really nothing. It was that she brought in my relationship with my husband. She’s single fwiw. It almost seemed like jealousy in a way

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Yeah OP, i'd be done with this one. No idea what the argument/topic was, why or how it escalated but the personal attacks, the holding on to stuff, the dig at the husband- I'd just agree with her on everything and then go no contact. She's likely always been a dirty fighter or a broken person but clearly you are noticing now or it's bothering you now.

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Tell us what the things were and we’ll tell you whether they were petty or not.

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Just be done with her. This person is not a friend and has never been a friend.

Do not agree with her as pp suggested. Do not respond and drop her

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Not your fault

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like this argument just opened the flood gates for all the things that she doesn't like about you. If you probably look deep, it hasn't been that great of a friendship.

Ironically I am not nearly as upset about anything she said about me, other than it was immature to bring up something from years ago that was really nothing. It was that she brought in my relationship with my husband. She’s single fwiw. It almost seemed like jealousy in a way

Not every single woman is jealous of the often crappy marriages we see around us OP

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It'd be a former friend for me now.

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She’s not jealous. You sound as emotionally immature as she is, if you think she’s jealous of your relationship. That’s a very middle school thing to say.

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Anonymous wrote:She’s not jealous. You sound as emotionally immature as she is, if you think she’s jealous of your relationship. That’s a very middle school thing to say.

+1. Lol

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Move on.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like this friend finally told you how they feel about you and your husband.

If you're that hurt - the friendship is over. Move on