is this socially wierd or is it me being overly sensitive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP are you of a different:
-religion than that group of 4 moms?
-ethnicty?
-race?
-age?
-fatter/skinnier than them?
-work/sahm and they are opposite?
-you are/not involved in school's PTSA and they are opposite of your level of involvement?
-your maritial status different than theirs.

So many petty reasons. Middle aged women are sometimes worse than a middle school clique, imho.

This is an immature take. You’re asking OP to assume that it’s about her and then spend time considering exactly what it is about her that is “wrong” when the more emotionally healthy response is “this isn’t about me, they’re just good friends and have been for awhile.” Why on earth would OP’s weight have anything to do with this?

Does it say it has anything to do with OP?Maybe the list is of insecurities of the 4 women, which whether you want to believe it or not, is prevalent in mom groups. Middle ages women =~teen middle school girls is accurate indeed.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like they are friends. That's not socially weird to me!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP are you of a different:
-religion than that group of 4 moms?
-ethnicty?
-race?
-age?
-fatter/skinnier than them?
-work/sahm and they are opposite?
-you are/not involved in school's PTSA and they are opposite of your level of involvement?
-your maritial status different than theirs.

So many petty reasons. Middle aged women are sometimes worse than a middle school clique, imho.

This is an immature take. You’re asking OP to assume that it’s about her and then spend time considering exactly what it is about her that is “wrong” when the more emotionally healthy response is “this isn’t about me, they’re just good friends and have been for awhile.” Why on earth would OP’s weight have anything to do with this?

Does it say it has anything to do with OP?Maybe the list is of insecurities of the 4 women, which whether you want to believe it or not, is prevalent in mom groups. Middle ages women =~teen middle school girls is accurate indeed.

And the people who come off looking best - just like how it worked at the end of high school - are the people who cared the least all along, treated everyone well, and made sure they were comfortable in their own skin. Everyone wanted to be that girl senior year, remember?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Take down the trump sign

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like they are friends. That's not socially weird to me!

Friends can include another neighbor and parent in public poolside conversation without making them feel awkward. Some of you are either totally oblivious or partake in such behavior yourselves and trying to make excuses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not everyone is going to be your friend. That's just how it works.

OP is not a 7 year old

She knows this

She just wanted some neighborly social interaction and ran into a clique who just wanted to hang by themselves. Now she knows not to bother with them.

and they are rude. There is no reason they can't include her but there are too many women, particularly among the stay at home set, who get off on hurting other people. I moved into a neighborhood with a very mean clique of women who would intentionally invite new moms to their house and then ignore the new mom and their kids would ignore that woman's child. There were two moms who ran things who were just hateful and they expected their children to be treated like the queen bees they thought they were. I was so glad I had boys. They are awful to this day. They were mean to enough people that they and their kids were eventually excluded. It's all so nasty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP are you of a different:
-religion than that group of 4 moms?
-ethnicty?
-race?
-age?
-fatter/skinnier than them?
-work/sahm and they are opposite?
-you are/not involved in school's PTSA and they are opposite of your level of involvement?
-your maritial status different than theirs.

So many petty reasons. Middle aged women are sometimes worse than a middle school clique, imho.

This is an immature take. You’re asking OP to assume that it’s about her and then spend time considering exactly what it is about her that is “wrong” when the more emotionally healthy response is “this isn’t about me, they’re just good friends and have been for awhile.” Why on earth would OP’s weight have anything to do with this?

I'm not the pp but you are being dishonest in implying that doesn't matter. It absolutely does and it is a very common reason women are rejected by other women. It's very common. Stop pretending.

[Anonymous]

They may have wanted to talk about something private and could not with you there. Not everything is about US.

[Anonymous]

They do ln't like you. Clearly. Stop making it weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like they are friends. That's not socially weird to me!

Friends can include another neighbor and parent in public poolside conversation without making them feel awkward. Some of you are either totally oblivious or partake in such behavior yourselves and trying to make excuses.

+1000 beyond rude. How hard is it to be pleasant and inclusive for one freaking hour? There is no excuse to be rude and unkind; there just isn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not everyone is going to be your friend. That's just how it works.

OP is not a 7 year old

She knows this

She just wanted some neighborly social interaction and ran into a clique who just wanted to hang by themselves. Now she knows not to bother with them.

and they are rude. There is no reason they can't include her but there are too many women, particularly among the stay at home set, who get off on hurting other people. I moved into a neighborhood with a very mean clique of women who would intentionally invite new moms to their house and then ignore the new mom and their kids would ignore that woman's child. There were two moms who ran things who were just hateful and they expected their children to be treated like the queen bees they thought they were. I was so glad I had boys. They are awful to this day. They were mean to enough people that they and their kids were eventually excluded. It's all so nasty.

You sound overly sensitive. Maybe you just are not as charming as you think you are.

[Anonymous]

They probably had plans and had arranged to meet at the pool. You crashed their get together. So yeah, it was awkward.

[Anonymous]

My neighbors have like 3 people they talk to an everyone else they kind of ignore. It’s weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They probably had plans and had arranged to meet at the pool. You crashed their get together. So yeah, it was awkward.

Much like kids sometimes grown-ups don’t know how to include others in their play dates. It sounds like they’re kind of socially rigid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a classic clique to me. No reflection on you that they won’t let you in.

+1
They came to socialize only with each other.

Not ideal in a public neighborhood place, but it has nothing to do with you. Hopefully your other neighbors are more inviting

+1. I deal with a similar situation in my neighborhood. My daughter is the same age and friends with several of the girls whose mothers are in a tight clique so I do my best to try to be social to keep her included because otherwise she’ll also be left out. There are some moms in that group who go out of their way to make it so awkward to anyone not in the clique. They’ll plan other social events and after parties with the clique right in front of me. It is what it is, but I didn’t expect that women would still be doing this in their 40s.

I've always assumed these women were abused by the parents if they enjoy hurting other people so much. The queen bee moms in my neighborhood lived to exclude other children. You really have to be sick to enjoy setting up situations where you hurt an innocent child.