Why are men so hung up on exes?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m attractive, successful, fun, low maintenance. Guys always tell me I’m a dream girl.

And yet whenever I date someone, I always find out they’re still hung up on an ex. In my last long term relationship, I caught him texting his ex how much he loved her, even though they’d been broken up for years. Recently I was dating a new guy, his ex sent me a friend request on FB, I asked him about it, and after some prodding he admitted she’s still basically family and goes over to his parents house all the time, they talk all the time, they’ve been talking for months about getting back together, etc.

And the crazy thing is these exes are ugly! The last guy’s ex is almost 200 pounds, unemployed, and from what I read on her FB not very smart. And I don’t mean that in a mean way, but why would you be hung up on that when you could have someone who’s an 8, makes 6 figures, and wants to go out and have fun with you?

Why is this so hard to understand? They still love each other. Everyone doesn't get mesmerized with shiny new toys, people like their comfort blankets. Love has no explanation.

[Anonymous]

Move on. These men are tied elsewhere and emotionally unavailable to you.

[Anonymous]

They rarely are. Even their first loves. They move in quickly, especially those with money, good looks and mental disorders. They never had actual emotions in the first place.

[Anonymous]

they aren't. Are you the same person who constantly posts here about dating, issues, etc?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:they aren't. Are you the same person who constantly posts here about dating, issues, etc?

+1

Same woman that hopes some guy is pining after her

[Anonymous]

You are forgettable. Move on

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:they aren't. Are you the same person who constantly posts here about dating, issues, etc?

+1

Same woman that hopes some guy is pining after her

Yeah dudes don’t really do that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m attractive, successful, fun, low maintenance. Guys always tell me I’m a dream girl.

And yet whenever I date someone, I always find out they’re still hung up on an ex. In my last long term relationship, I caught him texting his ex how much he loved her, even though they’d been broken up for years. Recently I was dating a new guy, his ex sent me a friend request on FB, I asked him about it, and after some prodding he admitted she’s still basically family and goes over to his parents house all the time, they talk all the time, they’ve been talking for months about getting back together, etc.

And the crazy thing is these exes are ugly! The last guy’s ex is almost 200 pounds, unemployed, and from what I read on her FB not very smart. And I don’t mean that in a mean way, but why would you be hung up on that when you could have someone who’s an 8, makes 6 figures, and wants to go out and have fun with you?

From my experience, when men form an emotional attachment to someone else, they may have trouble moving on from the relationship even years after. I got back with my ex last summer. We were broken up for about 4 years. While I tried to get back together for a while after we initially broke up, I managed to move on. We retained loose contact. When we got back together last year, he told me that for the 4 years we were broken up, he said he felt still deeply attached to me and entertained the idea and desire to get back together eventually.

[Anonymous]

It’s f’ed up, but they only miss/want us when they can’t have access to us. They’re like children!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because dating you makes them realize how nice their ex was?

OP, if you are truly as pretty, successful/well-off + great as you state that you are then you should have ZERO problem getting a great guy who is 💯% satisfied w/just you! There are plenty of decent, faithful guys out there who are looking for a great girl.