For crying out loud, if I could be 36 again......... Get school done, work out, look for a better job. |
First off - be very grateful that you did not marry this man or have children w/him too!
You would have been a lot more stuck to him + you would likely be very miserable now. If you do not believe me, read the majority of the posts in this forum!! You are still relatively young to have a good life. Go back to school & finish your education OP. Yes you will be stretched thin but it will all be so worth it in the end. And in your future relationships NEVER depend on a man to support you - and never give up on your education, dreams, etc. I wish you only the best in all of your future endeavors. ✨ |
+1 |
+1 |
Women who have never been married have this idea that getting a husband is security for a partner for life? It is absolutely not a lot of times getting a husband. The guy just wants to get a wife as a checkbox. He’s not a partner at all. He just is a guy who lives in your house that you have to clean up after. I never felt more alone than when I was married. I have several friends who have experienced the same. |
36 is NOT OLD! |
Exactly! |
My mother had me at 37 in 1950 ffs. |
Yes, women shouldn't get married at all (except to other women). Read the posts on this forum, OP. There hasn't been a single one ever where the woman admitted fault at all in her relationship. It's always entirely the man's fault. The only possible conclusion is that men are terrible, and women are blameless. So if you want a perfect relationship, marry a woman. |
Plus a million. |
+1 I was a 29 year old widow. A man is not a plan, a husband is not security, a partner can be temporary. I am so grateful I had a career and a life when my husband died. FWIW, I had a few crappy relationships before meeting my fiance at 35, married at 36. I probably had 50 years to go from there, 36 is hardly the end of the world. |
On the positive, starting over is better than being miserable with the wrong partner and then divorcing. That's NOT fun.
When I was 24 I became a single Mom with the wrong guy. When I left I was making around 50K plus bonus. I made it work with child support. At 31 I met the right man. We were engaged at 9 months, married at 1 year. Had to wait for kids but had #2 at 34 lost six pregnancies and finally had #3 with help from a super specialist at 39. |
You quit your job because a BOYFRIEND told you to? What the actual f? |
Even worse, you quit school? For a bf? You’re not a loser for starting over, but definitely a loser for letting a bf “make you” torpedo your entire life. I can’t imagine my daughter coming home yo tell me she dropped out of college because her boyfriend told her to. What a failure. |
Men are pretty awful. Just have an F buddy. Learn to love being on your own. |