Do men enjoy being married to social climbing high maintenance women?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friends husband asked her to please try harder and befriend the "important" Little League moms because it would make things easier socially. So clearly some men are into this. He also encourages her to get expensive things like hair extensions.

Now there's a real manly man, right there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes because my networking got my exDH a job that has set him up for life! Adjunct prossor to full tenure professor. I always imagine his new family will thank me one day but of course that will never happen.

That's not how academia works....

[Anonymous]

To me "high maintenance" means doing glam every day and only wearing designer labels. That's way too much time and money getting ready to go out in the world. I would find that annoying.

I'm A-OK with a pretty woman who occasionally wants to get dolled up and have some higher-end staples & a few designer outfits in her closet. That's the right balance, imho.

[Anonymous]

In long term, a chill, responsible and ethical spouse is the real treasure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes because my networking got my exDH a job that has set him up for life! Adjunct prossor to full tenure professor. I always imagine his new family will thank me one day but of course that will never happen.

That's not how academia works....

Yeah, no kidding. That's not how academia works at all. A spouse cannot "network" you from adjunct to "full tenure professor" (and no one goes from adjunct to being tenured).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes because my networking got my exDH a job that has set him up for life! Adjunct prossor to full tenure professor. I always imagine his new family will thank me one day but of course that will never happen.

That's not how academia works....

Yeah, no kidding. That's not how academia works at all. A spouse cannot "network" you from adjunct to "full tenure professor" (and no one goes from adjunct to being tenured).

Ok whatever that's my actual lived experience but you must know my life better than me, Anonymous!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friends husband asked her to please try harder and befriend the "important" Little League moms because it would make things easier socially. So clearly some men are into this. He also encourages her to get expensive things like hair extensions.

LOL, what a loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes because my networking got my exDH a job that has set him up for life! Adjunct prossor to full tenure professor. I always imagine his new family will thank me one day but of course that will never happen.

That's not how academia works....

Yeah, no kidding. That's not how academia works at all. A spouse cannot "network" you from adjunct to "full tenure professor" (and no one goes from adjunct to being tenured).

Ok whatever that's my actual lived experience but you must know my life better than me, Anonymous!

I bet I do know better than you.

[Anonymous]

It depends on what type of laid back the husband is. Is he laid back or not too social by choice or out of necessity because he doesn’t have the social skills to be with the popular/ wealthy crowd? If it’s the latter, then yes, he’d love a woman who is a social climber because she’ll make things easy for him.
If he’s laid back by choice , then he would not be happy with such a woman.

[Anonymous]

My husband would hate it! He's very successful and the CEO of a well known company but he has no interest in being a bold face name or watching me spend everything he makes. Some of his counterparts have wives like that and it makes him cringe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a friend for awhile who became too much for me to be around so I distanced myself. She was very into social media, skin and body care, clothes, jewelry, and social climbing. Her DH seems pretty laidback. I just wonder how that works if she’s so OTT. I guess men enjoy it because then they have a hot looking wife that other men admire? Or do they secretly wish they could just have a comfortable regular looking wife who is more chill?

DH wants a hot-looking woman whom other men admire. My day-to-day style is very low-key - I wear light makeup and casual clothes in neutrals that aren't too fitted. DH encourages me to dress sexier and likes it when I wear more makeup. I was more into that in my twenties; now I want to be comfortable, unless we're going to an event.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a friend for awhile who became too much for me to be around so I distanced myself. She was very into social media, skin and body care, clothes, jewelry, and social climbing. Her DH seems pretty laidback. I just wonder how that works if she’s so OTT. I guess men enjoy it because then they have a hot looking wife that other men admire? Or do they secretly wish they could just have a comfortable regular looking wife who is more chill?

No man has ever wished this, ever.

[Anonymous]

I figure they don’t care as long as they are having sex and have food to eat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes because my networking got my exDH a job that has set him up for life! Adjunct prossor to full tenure professor. I always imagine his new family will thank me one day but of course that will never happen.

That's not how academia works....

Yeah, what on earth is this "adjunct prossor[sic] to a full tenure professor" stuff? Lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To me "high maintenance" means doing glam every day and only wearing designer labels. That's way too much time and money getting ready to go out in the world. I would find that annoying.

I'm A-OK with a pretty woman who occasionally wants to get dolled up and have some higher-end staples & a few designer outfits in her closet. That's the right balance, imho.

Do you hear that ladies? You need "the right balance." Have enough "higher-end staples & a few designer outfits" to look impressive ... but that is it, do not spend any more money than that. Keep up appearances! But that is it!

This is one of those "nice guys" who wants a woman "who is beautiful but doesn't know it."