I had a friend for awhile who became too much for me to be around so I distanced myself. She was very into social media, skin and body care, clothes, jewelry, and social climbing. Her DH seems pretty laidback. I just wonder how that works if she’s so OTT. I guess men enjoy it because then they have a hot looking wife that other men admire? Or do they secretly wish they could just have a comfortable regular looking wife who is more chill? |
I’m like your friend. My experience is some men LOVE it, some men hate it.
Depends on the man. Fellow social climbers like it. Guys who ar pretty much happy working a mediocre job living a mediocre life don’t like it and think I’m shallow. That being said I’ve never met a man who would prefer an average looking wife over one who was a 8-10. |
We did well in life on our own and see social climbing as materialistic and tacky. |
Jeff bezos doesn't seem to mind! |
I don’t enjoy being married to an attractive non social climber, so I doubt it is more than an ego boost for an insecure coward. |
Men want different things. I'd hate being married to a social climber but some men like it. |
If the formula for climbing socially is to consume lots of SM and makeup products then not really, that doesn't make you any different than a 14 year old. |
Depends on if they all read the email. |
But he is pretty gross. |
I'm not a social climber at all, but if I was anymore high maintenance, I know DH wouldn't have been interested. He's that laid back wealthy person that you would have no idea is wealthy. He wears jeans he's had for years and T-shirts he probably got for free at a conference. If he's wearing nicer or more in style clothes, it's because I bought them.
I'm mid high maintenance. I love playing around with make up and fashion, but I don't do Botox or anything (granted I don't need it yet) and I have no problem dressing down and going out with no make up and my hair in a ponytail. I don't really post on SM. I know people on all ends of the spectrum. Some guys are laid back and love a wife who is what you describe. Some guys are like that too and have a wife like that. Some guys have zero interest in a wife like that. |
Totally depends on the man. That’s a very general question. It’s like asking “ do men like tall women?” or “ do men like brunettes? “
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How many marriages have you had? I think dating this kind of woman would be much different than being married to her. |
You would think this would be obvious, but apparently not. |
Yes because my networking got my exDH a job that has set him up for life! Adjunct prossor to full tenure professor. I always imagine his new family will thank me one day but of course that will never happen. |
My friends husband asked her to please try harder and befriend the "important" Little League moms because it would make things easier socially. So clearly some men are into this. He also encourages her to get expensive things like hair extensions. |