Do men enjoy being married to social climbing high maintenance women?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes because my networking got my exDH a job that has set him up for life! Adjunct prossor to full tenure professor. I always imagine his new family will thank me one day but of course that will never happen.

That's not how academia works....

Yeah, no kidding. That's not how academia works at all. A spouse cannot "network" you from adjunct to "full tenure professor" (and no one goes from adjunct to being tenured).

Ok whatever that's my actual lived experience but you must know my life better than me, Anonymous!

I bet I do know better than you.

Yep, I know better than they do as well, lol. They clearly know nothing about what "adjunct" even means.

[Anonymous]

Many years ago, when I was a college student, I worked at a fancy steakhouse and overheard a conversation at a table of wealthy southern men. One of them very assuredly announced, “A woman who doesn’t paint her toenails, doesn’t wash her pu$$y,” and all the other men agreed.

I couldn’t believe grown-up men spoke like but was even more shocked that they even noticed women’s toenails!

I’ll always remember that conversation but it didn’t inspire me to change my grooming habits. I just gravitated to men who didn’t care about those things.

I did live in the south for a bit and knew some husbands that really liked their wives to be dressed over the top with designer clothes and all the plastic surgery, but it certainly wasn’t the majority.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I had a friend for awhile who became too much for me to be around so I distanced myself. She was very into social media, skin and body care, clothes, jewelry, and social climbing. Her DH seems pretty laidback. I just wonder how that works if she’s so OTT. I guess men enjoy it because then they have a hot looking wife that other men admire? Or do they secretly wish they could just have a comfortable regular looking wife who is more chill?

No man has ever wished this, ever.

True, this is me now, or rather, what I became during the marriage. I'm working on getting back my "mojo" for me, because I miss her! She was so much more fun!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m like your friend. My experience is some men LOVE it, some men hate it.

Depends on the man. Fellow social climbers like it. Guys who ar pretty much happy working a mediocre job living a mediocre life don’t like it and think I’m shallow.

That being said I’ve never met a man who would prefer an average looking wife over one who was a 8-10.

"Hot" women over the age of 25 are hot because of a lot of makeup and clothing work. Looks great on the Insta, but it's messy and ugly at home where the husband is.
Average looking women look fine naturally and done have all the gross "product", and have more time available for doing things the husband enjoys. The hot wife is for the man who isn't home much.

If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, don't make a pretty woman or wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Many years ago, when I was a college student, I worked at a fancy steakhouse and overheard a conversation at a table of wealthy southern men. One of them very assuredly announced, “A woman who doesn’t paint her toenails, doesn’t wash her pu$$y,” and all the other men agreed.

I couldn’t believe grown-up men spoke like but was even more shocked that they even noticed women’s toenails!

I’ll always remember that conversation but it didn’t inspire me to change my grooming habits. I just gravitated to men who didn’t care about those things.

I did live in the south for a bit and knew some husbands that really liked their wives to be dressed over the top with designer clothes and all the plastic surgery, but it certainly wasn’t the majority.

Those guys are closet cases, bluffing.

[Anonymous]

Probably they wouldn't, at least not any man I'd care to know.

GoldDiggers are golddiggers no matter the gender.

[Anonymous]

99.9% of the men I know in this position (which is a fair number given my job and location) are full on betas. And I loathe that term, but it applies here. Theyre not gay or simps, but they totally sit back and let her drive.

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Anonymous wrote:If the formula for climbing socially is to consume lots of SM and makeup products then not really, that doesn't make you any different than a 14 year old.

That is the sickest burn Ive seen on here in 2 months. Bravo!!!!

[Anonymous]

Guy here. The social media and intentional social climbing are two of biggest turn offs. I do have a certain level of self care I expect, which is a hard limit for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jeff bezos doesn't seem to mind!

+99% of all the men. Men are into hot women who pay attention to them and treat them like they are God's gift to the world. Men are that simple

[Anonymous]

His take actually sounds very practical to me.

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Anonymous wrote:To me "high maintenance" means doing glam every day and only wearing designer labels. That's way too much time and money getting ready to go out in the world. I would find that annoying.

I'm A-OK with a pretty woman who occasionally wants to get dolled up and have some higher-end staples & a few designer outfits in her closet. That's the right balance, imho.

Do you hear that ladies? You need "the right balance." Have enough "higher-end staples & a few designer outfits" to look impressive ... but that is it, do not spend any more money than that. Keep up appearances! But that is it!

This is one of those "nice guys" who wants a woman "who is beautiful but doesn't know it."

Pp above

[Anonymous]

Why would you equate being into makeup, clothes and social media means your high maintenance? That makes no sense. You can do all of those things but not take a lot of time to get yourself ready or spend a lot of money on it. I do wear make up when I go to work and go out and now that I’m in a different body post kids, no I don’t want to throw on an old t-shirt. At the same time, don’t care about going to the store on a Saturday with a bun and looking scruffy, I don’t care about getting dirty or sweating. I enjoy social media. It is entertaining. I’m also so tired of these DC people who pretend to be so relaxed and chill yet are judging people left and right for not valuing the same things. We can want to go to a chain restaurant and that’s ok, we can buy a car that’s not used or a Subaru, we can be parents that watch over their kids and not be free range, that’s okay too. Stop judging and look inward. Focus on yourself and think about why someone else’s life choices bothers you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would you equate being into makeup, clothes and social media means your high maintenance? That makes no sense. You can do all of those things but not take a lot of time to get yourself ready or spend a lot of money on it. I do wear make up when I go to work and go out and now that I’m in a different body post kids, no I don’t want to throw on an old t-shirt. At the same time, don’t care about going to the store on a Saturday with a bun and looking scruffy, I don’t care about getting dirty or sweating. I enjoy social media. It is entertaining. I’m also so tired of these DC people who pretend to be so relaxed and chill yet are judging people left and right for not valuing the same things. We can want to go to a chain restaurant and that’s ok, we can buy a car that’s not used or a Subaru, we can be parents that watch over their kids and not be free range, that’s okay too. Stop judging and look inward. Focus on yourself and think about why someone else’s life choices bothers you.

The woman I’m thinking of is a 30-something with kids. She recently was talking about entering beauty pageants. That’s why I don’t put her in the category of regular maintenance. I have never heard any other friend ever mention a beauty pageants before, I am from DC and didn’t grow up with them at all.