Advice on what to do about ex who hid assets, lied, forged my name etc….

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Recently divorced, my psychopathic ex who I realized is a criminal. They are a high-level federal government attorney. Forged my name, removed most of their pension. Hid money through fake “loans” to family and friends. Hired a crooked duck web attorney to cover up all of their crimes disempowered me resulting in me losing everything. A retired, biased and incompetent judge heard the case. I had no attorney. I lost everything. Family court is a complete farce. Criminals win if they pay the right people. Any advice on how to even fix some of this would be appreciated. Discovery phase of divorce was completely skipped over. Case went right to merits. Tons of corruption exposed. I paid the price for whistleblowing.

That was your mistake. Stop blaming everyone else for your own stupidity. But you’re stuck. You learned an important life lesson. Oh well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Recently divorced, my psychopathic ex who I realized is a criminal. They are a high-level federal government attorney. Forged my name, removed most of their pension. Hid money through fake “loans” to family and friends. Hired a crooked duck web attorney to cover up all of their crimes disempowered me resulting in me losing everything. A retired, biased and incompetent judge heard the case. I had no attorney. I lost everything. Family court is a complete farce. Criminals win if they pay the right people. Any advice on how to even fix some of this would be appreciated. Discovery phase of divorce was completely skipped over. Case went right to merits. Tons of corruption exposed. I paid the price for whistleblowing.

That was your mistake. Stop blaming everyone else for your own stupidity. But you’re stuck. You learned an important life lesson. Oh well.

Ex made sure I was left destitute. Ex also attacked my career and more corruption was exposed. I whistleblew on this corruption (family court connected) and it backfired. I consulted with dozens of attorneys, the free ones would not help and the paid ones said they would love to help but have their own families to protect. In other words, no one wants to fight the powers that be, fighting the powers that be can be dangerous, and no one wants to get involved upsetting the system as it currently is (very broken), even if said system does not protect children, violates human rights, allows laws to be broken and engages in and protects felony level criminals. I realize this is the USA and that explains what happened to me, and tragically to my children.

[Anonymous]

I don't think I can say this kindly - you sound unhinged.

What you say may be true. But if he did all that and the divorce is final - what exactly do you want? You should know by now it takes money to fight and you say yourself you have none.

The best advice and revenge is success. So work on getting a career and live your new life without resentment. This part is over.

[Anonymous]

I married a person who put me in debt using my credit cards. He never worked and I had no idea he was irresponsible like this. I paid them off in 5 years and got very good at counting every penny. I also retired early as I mastered investing and anything related to money. Imagine if I had gone on and one how he did me wrong. Courts actually made him pay some of the money back for credit cards, but nobody considered the interest.
I was never a SAHM. I was home day time with kids and went to work at night when everyone slept. He didn't work during our marriage. My tax refund even went to cover his student loans I had no idea he had.
So, you were way ahead of me. You lost mostly the money he made, not your earnings. You also had some kid of inheritance that disappeared. I don't have one coming.
You could have worked a little, not relied on him 100%, and kept your inheritance separately. Now you are dragging out this ' they did me wrong' thing instead of moving forward.
I've gone through a lot worse, I promise. Best thing to do is move forward and start building your life. I learned to invest and have more money than I will ever need.
Few things did help: I have excellent mental and physical health, and my former employer is always there for me. I can go back to work tomorrow. You don't seem to have that.
People underestimate the power of mental health. Removed yourself from what happened to you. Start now. Start from zero. Don't start carry the baggage around. It will get longer to get to where you are going.
The courts didn't help me either. Nobody picked me up, but myself as I cried on the floor not understanding why I got arrested for being beaten up yet again. "He said, she said'. That's why. Nobody looked at the bruises under my clothes. I picked myself up as every person walked by. I understood that I'm not special. This happens to so many people. It was the norm for them in the courthouse, but scary as heck for me. Not to mention wrong as I was asking for help for DV.
Getting out of that marriage was already big win. My kids have investment account now. What in the world are you doing to your kids? They may be his victims or the systems, but they don't have to be yours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I married a person who put me in debt using my credit cards. He never worked and I had no idea he was irresponsible like this. I paid them off in 5 years and got very good at counting every penny. I also retired early as I mastered investing and anything related to money. Imagine if I had gone on and one how he did me wrong. Courts actually made him pay some of the money back for credit cards, but nobody considered the interest.
I was never a SAHM. I was home day time with kids and went to work at night when everyone slept. He didn't work during our marriage. My tax refund even went to cover his student loans I had no idea he had.
So, you were way ahead of me. You lost mostly the money he made, not your earnings. You also had some kid of inheritance that disappeared. I don't have one coming.
You could have worked a little, not relied on him 100%, and kept your inheritance separately. Now you are dragging out this ' they did me wrong' thing instead of moving forward.
I've gone through a lot worse, I promise. Best thing to do is move forward and start building your life. I learned to invest and have more money than I will ever need.
Few things did help: I have excellent mental and physical health, and my former employer is always there for me. I can go back to work tomorrow. You don't seem to have that.
People underestimate the power of mental health. Removed yourself from what happened to you. Start now. Start from zero. Don't start carry the baggage around. It will get longer to get to where you are going.
The courts didn't help me either. Nobody picked me up, but myself as I cried on the floor not understanding why I got arrested for being beaten up yet again. "He said, she said'. That's why. Nobody looked at the bruises under my clothes. I picked myself up as every person walked by. I understood that I'm not special. This happens to so many people. It was the norm for them in the courthouse, but scary as heck for me. Not to mention wrong as I was asking for help for DV.
Getting out of that marriage was already big win. My kids have investment account now. What in the world are you doing to your kids? They may be his victims or the systems, but they don't have to be yours.

Wow. Lucky you. Your ex did not use their connections to go after your career. You have the added benefit of what seems like a heartless, judgmental and callous person. You’ll fit right into this crooked society. Thanks for your feedback.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was a stay at home mom. Left me at a disadvantage. Ex has money and connections to the highest level of our government. They are also covering up other crimes that involved harming our children. The level of corruption is unreal. Family court is a true circus and will violate your basic human and constitutional rights. It’s all about money. I am actually homeless as a result of this debacle. Ex hired others to stalk, harass, hack and abuse me. Police are useless and complicit. Maryland is an extremely corrupt state. Family court is corrupt across the Country,but particularly bad in Maryland. Ex promised to make sure I have nothing as “I am nothing without them”.

Don’t give up. You can still fight. Accuse him of rape and sexual abuse. This will destroy his reputation and career.

Continuing to fight with Vengeful and criminal person is not worth it.

[Anonymous]

So true. Not worth it. Fighting with a narcissistic sociopath is like getting gasoline to a fire.

[Anonymous]

Pp. meant adding. Not getting

[Anonymous]

WTF OP. You were married to an attorney and didn't know well enough to not go into court without your own?

This is a "you" problem. You got what you deserved for being as foolish as it gets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was a stay at home mom. Left me at a disadvantage. Ex has money and connections to the highest level of our government. They are also covering up other crimes that involved harming our children. The level of corruption is unreal. Family court is a true circus and will violate your basic human and constitutional rights. It’s all about money. I am actually homeless as a result of this debacle. Ex hired others to stalk, harass, hack and abuse me. Police are useless and complicit. Maryland is an extremely corrupt state. Family court is corrupt across the Country,but particularly bad in Maryland. Ex promised to make sure I have nothing as “I am nothing without them”.

You sound paranoid tbh. You need a consultation with a psychiatrist at this point.

[Anonymous]

You sound like an out of touch ignorant fool. Do some research. I bet you just love Trump too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Ex also stole my money. A sizable inheritance.

[Anonymous]

You can’t make a good deal with a bad person. -Warren Buffet