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[quote=Anonymous]I married a person who put me in debt using my credit cards. He never worked and I had no idea he was irresponsible like this. I paid them off in 5 years and got very good at counting every penny. I also retired early as I mastered investing and anything related to money. Imagine if I had gone on and one how he did me wrong. Courts actually made him pay some of the money back for credit cards, but nobody considered the interest.
I was never a SAHM. I was home day time with kids and went to work at night when everyone slept. He didn't work during our marriage. My tax refund even went to cover his student loans I had no idea he had.
So, you were way ahead of me. You lost mostly the money he made, not your earnings. You also had some kid of inheritance that disappeared. I don't have one coming.
You could have worked a little, not relied on him 100%, and kept your inheritance separately. Now you are dragging out this ' they did me wrong' thing instead of moving forward.
I've gone through a lot worse, I promise. Best thing to do is move forward and start building your life. I learned to invest and have more money than I will ever need.
Few things did help: I have excellent mental and physical health, and my former employer is always there for me. I can go back to work tomorrow. You don't seem to have that. 
People underestimate the power of mental health. Removed yourself from what happened to you. Start now. Start from zero. Don't start carry the baggage around. It will get longer to get to where you are going.
The courts didn't help me either. Nobody picked me up, but myself as I cried on the floor not understanding why I got arrested for being beaten up yet again. "He said, she said'. That's why. Nobody looked at the bruises under my clothes. I picked myself up as every person walked by. I understood that I'm not special. This happens to so many people. It was the norm for them in the courthouse, but scary as heck for me. Not to mention wrong as I was asking for help for DV.
Getting out of that marriage was already big win. My kids have investment account now. What in the world are you doing to your kids? They may be his victims or the systems, but they don't have to be yours.[/quote]

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