Help! I don’t know what else to say to this parent!

[Anonymous]

She is acting very rudely, whether it’s because of desperation or her usual nature. It would be very tempting to back out of helping on Tuesday if she’s going to be like this anyway.

[Anonymous]

You are already being generous with Tuesday. She's being ridiculous. Plenty of childcare options exist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, what makes you think the SAHM wants to be someone else's child care rescue more than you do?

I don’t and I didn’t mean to imply that. What I meant was, if it’s because she knows I don’t have to work next week and that’s why she’s fixated on me, why isn’t she trying the other mom who she also knows will be home next week? And don’t say because maybe that mom has plans or a conflict, because same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Message in public.
Hey - Lara needs help. I can step in Tuesday - can anyone help out on other days?

Nope! Why would OP have to do that?

The OP does not have to do that - but we all need support one time or another.

If all the moms are hanging out and not making eye contact - have others clearly understand that we are a village.

It is not keeping score.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what makes you think the SAHM wants to be someone else's child care rescue more than you do?

I don’t and I didn’t mean to imply that. What I meant was, if it’s because she knows I don’t have to work next week and that’s why she’s fixated on me, why isn’t she trying the other mom who she also knows will be home next week? And don’t say because maybe that mom has plans or a conflict, because same.

Maybe she has already tried it with the SAHM, assuming, as you did, that that mom would be more available than the WOHMs, and the SAHM already said no.

But you did single out that mom.

[Anonymous]

Just stop responding!

[Anonymous]

Maybe be generous and see if you can have her kid join you? If not then maybe open it up to the group directly like suggested previously. We need to help one another not shun people who need help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what makes you think the SAHM wants to be someone else's child care rescue more than you do?

I don’t and I didn’t mean to imply that. What I meant was, if it’s because she knows I don’t have to work next week and that’s why she’s fixated on me, why isn’t she trying the other mom who she also knows will be home next week? And don’t say because maybe that mom has plans or a conflict, because same.

Maybe she has already tried it with the SAHM, assuming, as you did, that that mom would be more available than the WOHMs, and the SAHM already said no.

But you did single out that mom.

I meant no harm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe be generous and see if you can have her kid join you? If not then maybe open it up to the group directly like suggested previously. We need to help one another not shun people who need help.

I have generously offered to help one of the days, though. That’s the point.

[Anonymous]

Why can't she take some PTO? That's what I would do before badgering some other mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe be generous and see if you can have her kid join you? If not then maybe open it up to the group directly like suggested previously. We need to help one another not shun people who need help.

I have generously offered to help one of the days, though. That’s the point.

Totally agree that was more than generous. No need to even respond anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Message in public.
Hey - Lara needs help. I can step in Tuesday - can anyone help out on other days?

Nope! Why would OP have to do that?

The OP does not have to do that - but we all need support one time or another.

If all the moms are hanging out and not making eye contact - have others clearly understand that we are a village.

It is not keeping score.

OP is supporting her. If that mom wants support, she can ask the other ladies. It’s not on OP to do that.
And I’m just rolling my eyes at it takes a village.

[Anonymous]

It’s fully OK to not answer her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Message in public.
Hey - Lara needs help. I can step in Tuesday - can anyone help out on other days?

Nope! Why would OP have to do that?

The OP does not have to do that - but we all need support one time or another.

If all the moms are hanging out and not making eye contact - have others clearly understand that we are a village.

It is not keeping score.

OP is supporting her. If that mom wants support, she can ask the other ladies. It’s not on OP to do that.
And I’m just rolling my eyes at it takes a village.

Yes, this! Three days of childcare is a huge thing to ask for!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe be generous and see if you can have her kid join you? If not then maybe open it up to the group directly like suggested previously. We need to help one another not shun people who need help.

I have generously offered to help one of the days, though. That’s the point.

I think the pushy mom found you!