Is it odd to ask friend to borrow kid dress for a special occasion?

[Anonymous]

Ask where they got it and if they offer to loan it then borrow it.
We have several kids, and I no longer loan clothes except to very close friends. Once we had a full suit left at a wedding hotel, and another time had a dress completely ruined, yet returned. My younger kids could have used both of these items.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a son and daughter.

One suit is much like another, so borrowing from someone else is socially acceptable, I feel.

But a dress that apparently caught people's attention such that the wearer received many compliments? That's different. It's more special. As the owner, I would be fine giving it away to someone else once outgrown, but I'm not sure I'd be OK with lending it out to people if my kid could still wear it. And I would never ask to borrow such a dress from someone else.

This. Just buy something, OP. Consider a consignment store or consigning after the event.

[Anonymous]

Buy it and then donate it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have two boys and a daughter. With my boys, it was not strange for a friend to ask to borrow a suit or a costume since we bought these outfits for a 1 day event.

Is it odd to ask a friend to borrow a special occasion dress?

I don’t think girls ask to borrow a flower girl dress or a prom dress. This outfit I want to borrow is a costume for a special event. The friend’s dress was beautiful and received many compliments.

Not sure if it matters but we live in an affluent area. We can easily afford to spend a hundred or two on this dress but I know my daughter will wear the dress once and outgrow. Girls are in elementary and I highly doubt this girl would ever wear this dress again.

Personally, I would not ask. I would feel funny lending my daughter's dress because we do wear our dresses more frequently. It would seem like you are being cheap.

Just buy a dress

The world would be a better place if we didn’t value single use fashion and characterize others as cheap because they don’t waste money on occasion clothes. I think it’s practical and creative to borrow a beautiful dress, especially for a child. If the dress is a precious heirloom, the family can say no. If it’s just a dress, I’d be delighted to share with someone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Buy it and then donate it.

Yes this is what I would do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have two boys and a daughter. With my boys, it was not strange for a friend to ask to borrow a suit or a costume since we bought these outfits for a 1 day event.

Is it odd to ask a friend to borrow a special occasion dress?

I don’t think girls ask to borrow a flower girl dress or a prom dress. This outfit I want to borrow is a costume for a special event. The friend’s dress was beautiful and received many compliments.

Not sure if it matters but we live in an affluent area. We can easily afford to spend a hundred or two on this dress but I know my daughter will wear the dress once and outgrow. Girls are in elementary and I highly doubt this girl would ever wear this dress again.

Personally, I would not ask. I would feel funny lending my daughter's dress because we do wear our dresses more frequently. It would seem like you are being cheap.

Just buy a dress

The world would be a better place if we didn’t value single use fashion and characterize others as cheap because they don’t waste money on occasion clothes. I think it’s practical and creative to borrow a beautiful dress, especially for a child. If the dress is a precious heirloom, the family can say no. If it’s just a dress, I’d be delighted to share with someone else.

As I wrote we wear our dresses more than one occasion. I have more than one daughter so it gets passed on. I'm sorry but, if she can afford it and asks to borrow my daughter's dress I would think she is being cheap. It has nothing to do with being a 'precious' heirloom..

If you are delighted fine but, don't judge others who have different take. Now if it was a family member who asked I would say yes

[Anonymous]

Perfectly fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have two boys and a daughter. With my boys, it was not strange for a friend to ask to borrow a suit or a costume since we bought these outfits for a 1 day event.

Is it odd to ask a friend to borrow a special occasion dress?

I don’t think girls ask to borrow a flower girl dress or a prom dress. This outfit I want to borrow is a costume for a special event. The friend’s dress was beautiful and received many compliments.

Not sure if it matters but we live in an affluent area. We can easily afford to spend a hundred or two on this dress but I know my daughter will wear the dress once and outgrow. Girls are in elementary and I highly doubt this girl would ever wear this dress again.

Personally, I would not ask. I would feel funny lending my daughter's dress because we do wear our dresses more frequently. It would seem like you are being cheap.

Just buy a dress

The world would be a better place if we didn’t value single use fashion and characterize others as cheap because they don’t waste money on occasion clothes. I think it’s practical and creative to borrow a beautiful dress, especially for a child. If the dress is a precious heirloom, the family can say no. If it’s just a dress, I’d be delighted to share with someone else.

As I wrote we wear our dresses more than one occasion. I have more than one daughter so it gets passed on. I'm sorry but, if she can afford it and asks to borrow my daughter's dress I would think she is being cheap. It has nothing to do with being a 'precious' heirloom..

If you are delighted fine but, don't judge others who have different take. Now if it was a family member who asked I would say yes

You’re pretentious and arrogant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not do this and I’d be uncomfortable with the request

This

Agree, especially if it was noteworthy for others to comment on. They probably will be worried it will get damaged (kids) but may feel awkward saying no. Don't put them in this position

[Anonymous]

It strikes me as sort of a stretch to request a specific dress but not to ask if somebody has a fancy dress for a special occasion. Like this would strike me as nbd if it was asked in a group chat. But I do think it’s potentially awkward to put somebody on the spot with a specific request, unless you already have a history of sharing clothes this way.

I am a strong believer in the sharing economy and buy a lot of clothes secondhand, receive secondhand as gifts, and pass things on when we are done—I feel almost guilty buying single use fashion, and I’m happy to make it possible for others to avoid doing so. I realize that many people feel differently. I don’t think there’s a universal answer to this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It strikes me as sort of a stretch to request a specific dress but not to ask if somebody has a fancy dress for a special occasion. Like this would strike me as nbd if it was asked in a group chat. But I do think it’s potentially awkward to put somebody on the spot with a specific request, unless you already have a history of sharing clothes this way.

I am a strong believer in the sharing economy and buy a lot of clothes secondhand, receive secondhand as gifts, and pass things on when we are done—I feel almost guilty buying single use fashion, and I’m happy to make it possible for others to avoid doing so. I realize that many people feel differently. I don’t think there’s a universal answer to this.

I agree with this. If someone with a younger DD asked if we had any dresses that might work for Christmas, I could pull 2-3 out and I’d say please keep them. If someone asked if they could borrow the specific dress that my late uncle got for DD in our home country that she wears for cultural occasions or the dress my mom made her for last Easter, I would say no but it would make me feel really awkward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have two boys and a daughter. With my boys, it was not strange for a friend to ask to borrow a suit or a costume since we bought these outfits for a 1 day event.

Is it odd to ask a friend to borrow a special occasion dress?

I don’t think girls ask to borrow a flower girl dress or a prom dress. This outfit I want to borrow is a costume for a special event. The friend’s dress was beautiful and received many compliments.

Not sure if it matters but we live in an affluent area. We can easily afford to spend a hundred or two on this dress but I know my daughter will wear the dress once and outgrow. Girls are in elementary and I highly doubt this girl would ever wear this dress again.

Personally, I would not ask. I would feel funny lending my daughter's dress because we do wear our dresses more frequently. It would seem like you are being cheap.

Just buy a dress

Op here. We are in a better financial position. I guess if someone asked me to borrow, I would be glad to lend since my child would likely never wear it again. With my boys, my boys only wore for a few hours and I was glad if a friend could get a use out of it.

It was a stunning dress. I will just ask where she bought it. If she offers to lend it, I will accept. If not, I will just buy the dress.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have two boys and a daughter. With my boys, it was not strange for a friend to ask to borrow a suit or a costume since we bought these outfits for a 1 day event.

Is it odd to ask a friend to borrow a special occasion dress?

I don’t think girls ask to borrow a flower girl dress or a prom dress. This outfit I want to borrow is a costume for a special event. The friend’s dress was beautiful and received many compliments.

Not sure if it matters but we live in an affluent area. We can easily afford to spend a hundred or two on this dress but I know my daughter will wear the dress once and outgrow. Girls are in elementary and I highly doubt this girl would ever wear this dress again.

Personally, I would not ask. I would feel funny lending my daughter's dress because we do wear our dresses more frequently. It would seem like you are being cheap.

Just buy a dress

Op here. We are in a better financial position. I guess if someone asked me to borrow, I would be glad to lend since my child would likely never wear it again. With my boys, my boys only wore for a few hours and I was glad if a friend could get a use out of it.

It was a stunning dress. I will just ask where she bought it. If she offers to lend it, I will accept. If not, I will just buy the dress.

Yes, this is reasonable and more comfortable for all involved

[Anonymous]

Personally, I think it’s weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have two boys and a daughter. With my boys, it was not strange for a friend to ask to borrow a suit or a costume since we bought these outfits for a 1 day event.

Is it odd to ask a friend to borrow a special occasion dress?

I don’t think girls ask to borrow a flower girl dress or a prom dress. This outfit I want to borrow is a costume for a special event. The friend’s dress was beautiful and received many compliments.

Not sure if it matters but we live in an affluent area. We can easily afford to spend a hundred or two on this dress but I know my daughter will wear the dress once and outgrow. Girls are in elementary and I highly doubt this girl would ever wear this dress again.

Personally, I would not ask. I would feel funny lending my daughter's dress because we do wear our dresses more frequently. It would seem like you are being cheap.

Just buy a dress

The world would be a better place if we didn’t value single use fashion and characterize others as cheap because they don’t waste money on occasion clothes. I think it’s practical and creative to borrow a beautiful dress, especially for a child. If the dress is a precious heirloom, the family can say no. If it’s just a dress, I’d be delighted to share with someone else.

Anything good I resell on postmark. I will give friends outgrown clothing but never loan current stuff or stuff we can use in the future as what happens when its damaged, stained, etc.