Is it odd to ask friend to borrow kid dress for a special occasion?

[Anonymous]

I have two boys and a daughter. With my boys, it was not strange for a friend to ask to borrow a suit or a costume since we bought these outfits for a 1 day event.

Is it odd to ask a friend to borrow a special occasion dress?

I don’t think girls ask to borrow a flower girl dress or a prom dress. This outfit I want to borrow is a costume for a special event. The friend’s dress was beautiful and received many compliments.

Not sure if it matters but we live in an affluent area. We can easily afford to spend a hundred or two on this dress but I know my daughter will wear the dress once and outgrow. Girls are in elementary and I highly doubt this girl would ever wear this dress again.

[Anonymous]

Not odd at all, go for it!

[Anonymous]

TOTALLY FINE

[Anonymous]

I would be uncomfortable with you asking and I'd never ask. My son gets asked to borrow his music equipment from one kid and its very uncomfortable as who pays for it if its damaged?

[Anonymous]

Not a problem OP.

[Anonymous]

Yes totally fine IMO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not odd at all, go for it!

+1
If it is an acquaintance, then it's different. Friend, even distant friend, go for it.

I'd volunteer it if I knee someone wanted a dress my kid would only wear once or twice. I try my hardest to pass them to someone else and I feel like most people don't want them. My mom would buy the most beautiful Jeanie and Jack dresses when my girls were little. I had so many that they would wear to one recital or one church service or one wedding. I always felt bad that so many were worn for just a few hours.

[Anonymous]

I would not do this and I’d be uncomfortable with the request

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have two boys and a daughter. With my boys, it was not strange for a friend to ask to borrow a suit or a costume since we bought these outfits for a 1 day event.

Is it odd to ask a friend to borrow a special occasion dress?

I don’t think girls ask to borrow a flower girl dress or a prom dress. This outfit I want to borrow is a costume for a special event. The friend’s dress was beautiful and received many compliments.

Not sure if it matters but we live in an affluent area. We can easily afford to spend a hundred or two on this dress but I know my daughter will wear the dress once and outgrow. Girls are in elementary and I highly doubt this girl would ever wear this dress again.

Personally, I would not ask. I would feel funny lending my daughter's dress because we do wear our dresses more frequently. It would seem like you are being cheap.

Just buy a dress

[Anonymous]

I have a son and daughter.

One suit is much like another, so borrowing from someone else is socially acceptable, I feel.

But a dress that apparently caught people's attention such that the wearer received many compliments? That's different. It's more special. As the owner, I would be fine giving it away to someone else once outgrown, but I'm not sure I'd be OK with lending it out to people if my kid could still wear it. And I would never ask to borrow such a dress from someone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not do this and I’d be uncomfortable with the request

This

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be uncomfortable with you asking and I'd never ask. My son gets asked to borrow his music equipment from one kid and its very uncomfortable as who pays for it if its damaged?

This. I can already imagine the next post: “Acquaintance wants me to pay because my kid ruined a borrowed outfit. We live in an affluent area. Should we pay nothing or offer half?”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a son and daughter.

One suit is much like another, so borrowing from someone else is socially acceptable, I feel.

But a dress that apparently caught people's attention such that the wearer received many compliments? That's different. It's more special. As the owner, I would be fine giving it away to someone else once outgrown, but I'm not sure I'd be OK with lending it out to people if my kid could still wear it. And I would never ask to borrow such a dress from someone else.

This is a good take on it. A special dress like that may be kept as a keepsake.

[Anonymous]

It's fine to ask. I loaned my daughter's first communion dress to my neighbor's daughter. She had it dry cleaned and returned to me, no problem.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend that often asks to borrow stuff for her kids on special occasions, but she does it in a way that I never feel guilty for saying no. So be sure to phrase it like that.