Is there a psychology behind this type of flirting?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Agree with PP. Seems age appropriate.

Probably not to the women. Especially since most of us ARE there to work out no matter what we are wearing. Don’t approach us. We aren’t here to socialize.

If a woman wants to interact she’ll start the conversation. And asking about a machine or exercise is not flirting.


OP. I’d say it’s ego. At some point those gpas learned dramatically younger women aren’t receptive to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Agree with PP. Seems age appropriate.

Probably not to the women. Especially since most of us ARE there to work out no matter what we are wearing. Don’t approach us. We aren’t here to socialize.

If a woman wants to interact she’ll start the conversation. And asking about a machine or exercise is not flirting.


OP. I’d say it’s ego. At some point those gpas learned dramatically younger women aren’t receptive to them.

Thanks! I guess my real question is, why isn’t the 20something guy flirting with the beautiful 40something? I realize it’s subjective, but I find the 40something absolutely stunning when compared to the younger 20something, plus she’s likely more confident and experienced (?) so you’d think the guys would be more interested in her? FWIW, I’m in my 30s and super average. It’s just interesting to watch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Agree with PP. Seems age appropriate.

Probably not to the women. Especially since most of us ARE there to work out no matter what we are wearing. Don’t approach us. We aren’t here to socialize.

If a woman wants to interact she’ll start the conversation. And asking about a machine or exercise is not flirting.


OP. I’d say it’s ego. At some point those gpas learned dramatically younger women aren’t receptive to them.

Thanks! I guess my real question is, why isn’t the 20something guy flirting with the beautiful 40something? I realize it’s subjective, but I find the 40something absolutely stunning when compared to the younger 20something, plus she’s likely more confident and experienced (?) so you’d think the guys would be more interested in her? FWIW, I’m in my 30s and super average. It’s just interesting to watch.

Guys go where they think they have a chance. He probably doesn’t think he has much chance.

[Anonymous]

Older men misjudge how old they look, especially if they are putting in a lot of effort. They may actually be delusional and think they look 10 -15 years younger than they do. But they know they look a generation older.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Agree with PP. Seems age appropriate.

Probably not to the women. Especially since most of us ARE there to work out no matter what we are wearing. Don’t approach us. We aren’t here to socialize.

If a woman wants to interact she’ll start the conversation. And asking about a machine or exercise is not flirting.


OP. I’d say it’s ego. At some point those gpas learned dramatically younger women aren’t receptive to them.

Thanks! I guess my real question is, why isn’t the 20something guy flirting with the beautiful 40something? I realize it’s subjective, but I find the 40something absolutely stunning when compared to the younger 20something, plus she’s likely more confident and experienced (?) so you’d think the guys would be more interested in her? FWIW, I’m in my 30s and super average. It’s just interesting to watch.

Are you asking why young men don't chase older women?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Agree with PP. Seems age appropriate.

Probably not to the women. Especially since most of us ARE there to work out no matter what we are wearing. Don’t approach us. We aren’t here to socialize.

If a woman wants to interact she’ll start the conversation. And asking about a machine or exercise is not flirting.


OP. I’d say it’s ego. At some point those gpas learned dramatically younger women aren’t receptive to them.

Thanks! I guess my real question is, why isn’t the 20something guy flirting with the beautiful 40something? I realize it’s subjective, but I find the 40something absolutely stunning when compared to the younger 20something, plus she’s likely more confident and experienced (?) so you’d think the guys would be more interested in her? FWIW, I’m in my 30s and super average. It’s just interesting to watch.

Guys go where they think they have a chance. He probably doesn’t think he has much chance.

This makes sense. It’s just like flirting with Snooki when Elle Macpherson is right there!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Agree with PP. Seems age appropriate.

Probably not to the women. Especially since most of us ARE there to work out no matter what we are wearing. Don’t approach us. We aren’t here to socialize.

If a woman wants to interact she’ll start the conversation. And asking about a machine or exercise is not flirting.


OP. I’d say it’s ego. At some point those gpas learned dramatically younger women aren’t receptive to them.

Thanks! I guess my real question is, why isn’t the 20something guy flirting with the beautiful 40something? I realize it’s subjective, but I find the 40something absolutely stunning when compared to the younger 20something, plus she’s likely more confident and experienced (?) so you’d think the guys would be more interested in her? FWIW, I’m in my 30s and super average. It’s just interesting to watch.

Are you asking why young men don't chase older women?

I guess in this context, yes. See above.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Agree with PP. Seems age appropriate.

Probably not to the women. Especially since most of us ARE there to work out no matter what we are wearing. Don’t approach us. We aren’t here to socialize.

If a woman wants to interact she’ll start the conversation. And asking about a machine or exercise is not flirting.


OP. I’d say it’s ego. At some point those gpas learned dramatically younger women aren’t receptive to them.

Thanks! I guess my real question is, why isn’t the 20something guy flirting with the beautiful 40something? I realize it’s subjective, but I find the 40something absolutely stunning when compared to the younger 20something, plus she’s likely more confident and experienced (?) so you’d think the guys would be more interested in her? FWIW, I’m in my 30s and super average. It’s just interesting to watch.

Guys go where they think they have a chance. He probably doesn’t think he has much chance.

But at the same time, the old man does?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Agree with PP. Seems age appropriate.

Probably not to the women. Especially since most of us ARE there to work out no matter what we are wearing. Don’t approach us. We aren’t here to socialize.

If a woman wants to interact she’ll start the conversation. And asking about a machine or exercise is not flirting.


OP. I’d say it’s ego. At some point those gpas learned dramatically younger women aren’t receptive to them.

Thanks! I guess my real question is, why isn’t the 20something guy flirting with the beautiful 40something? I realize it’s subjective, but I find the 40something absolutely stunning when compared to the younger 20something, plus she’s likely more confident and experienced (?) so you’d think the guys would be more interested in her? FWIW, I’m in my 30s and super average. It’s just interesting to watch.

Guys go where they think they have a chance. He probably doesn’t think he has much chance.

But at the same time, the old man does?

The kid is scared and inexperienced. The old man has no time for silly “what ifs” and knows from experience that what you lose after rejection is - nothing.

Shoot your shot people.

I’m a woman in my mid 40s and I wouldn’t really want to date anyone younger than late 30s to late 50s because stage of life matters. Happily married but do get approached or rather I get little “knocks on the door” at work, the gym, grocery store, etc. I’m always friendly back but find a way to let them know the conversation isn’t going further. There is nothing personal, I’m just not available and if you don’t try to at least say hi, you won’t know.

[Anonymous]

Men think women dress for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Agree with PP. Seems age appropriate.

Probably not to the women. Especially since most of us ARE there to work out no matter what we are wearing. Don’t approach us. We aren’t here to socialize.

If a woman wants to interact she’ll start the conversation. And asking about a machine or exercise is not flirting.


OP. I’d say it’s ego. At some point those gpas learned dramatically younger women aren’t receptive to them.

Thanks! I guess my real question is, why isn’t the 20something guy flirting with the beautiful 40something? I realize it’s subjective, but I find the 40something absolutely stunning when compared to the younger 20something, plus she’s likely more confident and experienced (?) so you’d think the guys would be more interested in her? FWIW, I’m in my 30s and super average. It’s just interesting to watch.

Are you asking why young men don't chase older women?

I guess in this context, yes. See above.

I think it's pretty well understood that young women tend to be attractive to both young men and older men. I guess if you want some psychological explanation it could have something to do with fertility, but probably really it has something to do with wrinkles.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Agree with PP. Seems age appropriate.

Probably not to the women. Especially since most of us ARE there to work out no matter what we are wearing. Don’t approach us. We aren’t here to socialize.

If a woman wants to interact she’ll start the conversation. And asking about a machine or exercise is not flirting.


OP. I’d say it’s ego. At some point those gpas learned dramatically younger women aren’t receptive to them.

Thanks! I guess my real question is, why isn’t the 20something guy flirting with the beautiful 40something? I realize it’s subjective, but I find the 40something absolutely stunning when compared to the younger 20something, plus she’s likely more confident and experienced (?) so you’d think the guys would be more interested in her? FWIW, I’m in my 30s and super average. It’s just interesting to watch.

Guys go where they think they have a chance. He probably doesn’t think he has much chance.

But at the same time, the old man does?

The kid is scared and inexperienced. The old man has no time for silly “what ifs” and knows from experience that what you lose after rejection is - nothing.

Shoot your shot people.

I’m a woman in my mid 40s and I wouldn’t really want to date anyone younger than late 30s to late 50s because stage of life matters. Happily married but do get approached or rather I get little “knocks on the door” at work, the gym, grocery store, etc. I’m always friendly back but find a way to let them know the conversation isn’t going further. There is nothing personal, I’m just not available and if you don’t try to at least say hi, you won’t know.

Let me get this straight: your theory about why the young men are flirting with the young women is that they lack the confidence to flirt with the older women - not that they actually prefer or feel more comfortable with the women their own age?

[Anonymous]

I’m one of these middle aged women. These grandpas have no chance with woman 20-37. They do however recognize the same thing you do, that middle aged elegant classically beautiful woman are still beautiful, and the men think they still have “it” enough to hit on these women 10-20 years their junior.

I’ve noticed this as well, in daily life I get the most eye from men aged 60+. Am 53.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Agree with PP. Seems age appropriate.

Probably not to the women. Especially since most of us ARE there to work out no matter what we are wearing. Don’t approach us. We aren’t here to socialize.

If a woman wants to interact she’ll start the conversation. And asking about a machine or exercise is not flirting.


OP. I’d say it’s ego. At some point those gpas learned dramatically younger women aren’t receptive to them.

Thanks! I guess my real question is, why isn’t the 20something guy flirting with the beautiful 40something? I realize it’s subjective, but I find the 40something absolutely stunning when compared to the younger 20something, plus she’s likely more confident and experienced (?) so you’d think the guys would be more interested in her? FWIW, I’m in my 30s and super average. It’s just interesting to watch.

Are you asking why young men don't chase older women?

I guess in this context, yes. See above.

I think it's pretty well understood that young women tend to be attractive to both young men and older men. I guess if you want some psychological explanation it could have something to do with fertility, but probably really it has something to do with wrinkles.

And confidence.

Personally my body language reads not available. I don’t get approached unless I want to be…except for men that can’t read women at all. Which is usually older divorced men.

[Anonymous]

These guys are probably more interested in women who are more age appropriate and more attracted to them for that reason.