Time with SO (but also am I overreacting?)

[Anonymous]

It's all weird. And at that age if he is hanging out with other peoples kids, why isn't he busy making his own?

[Anonymous]

It; 's very. Very weird. At best he's way too much of a people pleaser and doesn't have good boundaries. At worst he's lying to you and he's a married man with kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why he needed to go back to the boss's house to, what, help with the bedtime routine? That's like the perfect time to duck out "Sorry, I promised Jenny we'd get dinner together tonight, it was fun hanging out outside of the office!"

"Sometimes it's just fun to hang out with guys" and then is reading bedtime stories to children lol.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old is everyone here?

OP here and I am 32 and my bf is 37.

He's a man-child. Dump him.

If you are dating for marriage then you're wasting your time.

[Anonymous]

How long have you been dating?

[Anonymous]

There’s a reason he’s single at 37. He clearly has his priorities messed up.

[Anonymous]

Lmao. Op is upset that her fornicator is not treating her with respect. This is proof that society has lost its mind now that fornication is being treated as a legitimate relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lmao. Op is upset that her fornicator is not treating her with respect. This is proof that society has lost its mind now that fornication is being treated as a legitimate relationship.

Church lady has entered the chat

[Anonymous]

Did you have a date night the night before and thats why you slept at his house? What else had you discussed for the day besides lunch - did you have actual plans? How long have you been dating? Is this your usual weekend pattern?

[Anonymous]

That would very much piss me off too and I don't think you're overrecting. He is not treating you with respect and that's a huge red flag.

[Anonymous]

It would annoy me! Honestly, I don't think he's that serious about your relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That would very much piss me off too and I don't think you're overrecting. He is not treating you with respect and that's a huge red flag.

Lmao 🤣. Treat her with respect after fornicating with her 🤣

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That would very much piss me off too and I don't think you're overrecting. He is not treating you with respect and that's a huge red flag.

Lmao 🤣. Treat her with respect after fornicating with her 🤣

Go back under your bridge, you lunatic troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This morning when my boyfriend and I woke up, he wanted to have sex (I know that is TMI but it's important to my thought process here) and go to Eastern Market for lunch. As soon as we were done he checked his phone and his boss (who he is friends with, in addition to working together) had texted to see if he wanted to go to a bar and watch a game.

Already I am kind of annoyed because I feel like you just made plans with me but you got a better offer so as soon as I had sex with you, you bailed. He's like, we would just have lunch together and spend the day doing stuff independently anyway, what's the big deal? So, I was kind of annoyed but he assured me we would hang out tonight. I wound up getting stuff done around my apt. and talking to a friend on the phone, which admittedly is what I would've done after lunch anyway.

I don't hear from him all afternoon so I text at 6:30ish to see if we're at least going to have dinner together. I hear back over an hour later and he just says "Sorry, reading to Tom's kids." Wtf? I wound up just making dinner myself.

After some, I thought very rude texts from him, I said I would prefer to talk on the phone when he got home. He truly does not comprehend my thought process, which is a) you made plans with me this morning and canceled once you got sex and b) then made conciliatory plans with me that you clearly had no intention of keeping and c) due to both of us having intense jobs, we do not see each other during the week. I'm really annoyed he made plans with me and then I guess was playing babysitter for his boss, who he'll see all day tomorrow and every day this week and meanwhile I won't see him until Friday night.

He is of the opinion that "sometimes it's nice to spend time with guy friends" which I would normally be fine with except for the fact he canceled plans. If day drinking with his boss was the plan all along, I would be fine with it. I do things with friends on weekends too. It's not that he did something with a friend, it's that he canceled, made new plans, and then couldn't follow through on those either.

Am I massively overreacting?

You are overreacting. You aren't married nor do you live together so this controlling behavior is uncalled for.

[Anonymous]

An easy going man who has a good job and gets along well with his boss and likes kids? Break up immediately.