If you knew you can only see your adult kids 15 more times before you die, how would you feel?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are 60+ and live in another state and meet every year, you are probably going to meet them 15 times, if twice a year than probably 30 more meetups before you die. Even that's not a given. Let that thought sink in. What would you do to make the most of it?

if you are the 60+ posting this, it is a manipulative way to think and share. If you are the child of the 60+, then you can do something about the quantity of meetups.

[Anonymous]

Person who wrote the article and made the ticktock was a young guy.

[Anonymous]

I'd the parents want to see their children more, they can actually visit the children. Or, go live near them, if their kids are in a stable location.

My parents loved their house more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are 60+ and live in another state and meet every year, you are probably going to meet them 15 times, if twice a year than probably 30 more meetups before you die. Even that's not a given. Let that thought sink in. What would you do to make the most of it?

But what does 1 time mean? You could increase the length of your visit if you're retired. When my mom comes to stay with us a couple of times a year, she stay anywhere from a week to two weeks. If staying with your kids isn't an option, get a longer-term rental and enjoy the area where they live. And spend more time with your kids/grandkids.

Prior to his death, my dad had a health crisis where he required skilled nursing, and my mom ended up staying with us for 8 mos so we could better support her. Rather than choosing a facility for him in their home town, we found one near us. That was 1 visit, but a very long one!

[Anonymous]

some parents dont care to see their adult kids at all

[Anonymous]

Some adults don’t care to see their parents either.

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We purchased a home in the same development as my mother.

Bad idea. We recently moved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd the parents want to see their children more, they can actually visit the children. Or, go live near them, if their kids are in a stable location.

My parents loved their house more.

+1 my parents moved to the same metro area where I live. We see them often and they have a great relationship with our grandkids.

This is a busy season of life for many adult kids - jobs, kids, etc. If grandparents are healthy and financially able, they should put in the effort to visit or coordinate vacations together etc.

[Anonymous]

Highly unlikely that I will see my kid even 5 or 6 times before I die. No animosity, just distance and obligations.

[Anonymous]

At 78 my parents finally moved closer so they see the kids daily now and all of us weekly

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You have very limited opportunities to nag them about their relationships etc so try to get in as many jabs as you can in the time left.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What would I do? Go visit more than 2 times a year. Definitely a lot more if/when grandkids are involved.

+1
When my mom was diagnosed with Lou Gehrig’s my sister was 250 miles away, and visited every month with her kids for four years.

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We are going to be out of state from one of our children next month. We plan to see them much more than once a year and for a week each time. It does not have to be as dire as once a year.

In reality, we never know exactly how much time we have left. Each time may be the last.

[Anonymous]

First, that won't be us. Our kids live in other states, and we see them 5-8 times per year. We go to them, they fly home for visits and the holidays (no grandkids yet--when that happens we will fly to them). We are mid 50s and plan to keep this up, as well as taking them on vacations as long as we can travel.

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Anonymous wrote:I'd the parents want to see their children more, they can actually visit the children. Or, go live near them, if their kids are in a stable location.

My parents loved their house more.

We are mid 50s. Love where we live and are retired already. We will never move from here, but we will visit our kids (and any future grandkids a lot). No reason to move there if we don't love the area as much as our current area. We already see the kids 5-8 times per year (newly retired), and expect to see them more in future. We will go to them, and more once there are grandkids