Catching your husband looking at other women

[Anonymous]

Its natural to look but disrespectful to keep looking, both to his wife and to the woman he is staring at. Pictures are fine, unless its a distraction from other things.

That being said, who cares if he looks in an non creepy way, don't take it personally. There are bigger problems in the world.

[Anonymous]

Stare at hot young men.

[Anonymous]

Maybe consider a three way?

[Anonymous]

Looking is okay, leeering is not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stare at hot young men.

+1. See if he notices and says anything.

[ZachF]

My wife points them out to me if I don't see them first. Then she teases me for missing it, as if to say I'm off, not paying attention.

Your man is just a man. How he feels about you has nothing to do with his admiration for the female form he encounters. But, the guy does need to be discreet first of all by not leering or being seen looking. And second, he needs to be a gentleman around you and just turn it off while you are with him. He doesn't have to look all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You just don’t do it for him anymore.

Yep.. Why all of a sudden with such a great marriage...?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yea, I'm like that. I let my H know when we were dating I would rather be single than with a man who behaved that way and I still mean that to this day. He knows I'm serious, so I haven't had any issues.

I'm sure he totally doesn't notice attractive women or looks at porn because you put him on notice years ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stare at hot young men.

+1. See if he notices and says anything.

Men are less insecure about their own physical appearance compared to women. Women are incredibly insecure. They always claim not to be in competition with other women (including strangers who don't even know them) but they are the first to notice "hot" women before the husband and instantly become insecure. From that point on even a 2s accidental glance in her direction is a potential issue

[Anonymous]

ZachF wrote:My wife points them out to me if I don't see them first. Then she teases me for missing it, as if to say I'm off, not paying attention.

Your man is just a man. How he feels about you has nothing to do with his admiration for the female form he encounters. But, the guy does need to be discreet first of all by not leering or being seen looking. And second, he needs to be a gentleman around you and just turn it off while you are with him. He doesn't have to look all the time.

My wife does something similar. We've been married for over 20 years. It's normal for all (men and women) to look at other people. We are not dead or blind. If it "pisses" you off, there's more to this than just a casual look on your DH's part. My DW and I also look at NSFW content together. Maybe we're the outliers.

[Anonymous]

If I am looking at another woman, 9/10 times I am thinking about how much better whatever she is wearing would look on my wife.

[Anonymous]

"Look but don't touch" is where both of us draw the line.

[Anonymous]

You wouldn't have a hot sex life if you neutered your husband, so don't neuter him.

[Anonymous]

I catch her looking at my dic* when I shower. Does that count?

[Anonymous]

When you see him look, whisper that you see her too, and add a little spicy talk to rev him up. Play with it. "I bet she can't.... like I can"